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MissAngel 
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:26am |
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Does anyone else have an annoying p.o.s husband that takes AT LEAST an hour or more to get out of bed every morning? Honestly, he's driving me blimmin insane! (moreso than usual :P)
I've tried talking to him about it and all that other namby pamby rubbish, but most mornings I actually have to rip the blankets off and start putting clothes on him in order for him to get up. He gets more sleep than me so theres no way he's tired - not that I care - gotta get up!
I'm about to go in there and go mental at him. I've so had enough
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:43am |
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My DP is the same. Refuses to get up on work mornings and help with DD (gets up as late as possible, has his breakfast that I've organised for him, picks up the lunch I packed for him, and leaves) , and thinks he is entitled to sleep in on the weekends he doesn't go hunting. I made him get up about 15min ago, normally he sleeps in until 11ish.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 10:29am |
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oh my god id go bonkers!!! DH often has to drag me out of bed. lol. he does the middle of the night feed for me since uni requires more brain power than his software development job. he does the bath at night and every 2nd feed in the weekend so he gets to see him son enough since he is at work during the week.
could you just stop doing things for him so he has no choice but to start looking after himself? could it also be that he is oversleeping which means he needs to keep sleeping more or more, and maybe get his iron levels tested. mine got to 4 a few weeks ago and even my baby screaming hungry couldnt haul me out of bed. DH had to do all the feeds overnight and in the morning because i just physically could not get out of bed.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 10:49am |
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i would stop treating him like a child and let him get himself up. just lok after you and the baby. there comes a time in every mans life when he has to take responsibility for himself.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:56am |
I just send Ella in to visit DH in bed when I need him up in the mornings during the weekend- she does a pretty good job of getting him out of bed 
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 12:29pm |
 Mum2Ella wrote:
I just send Ella in to visit DH in bed when I need him up in the mornings during the weekend- she does a pretty good job of getting him out of bed |
Lol I use this technique too! Though my DH doesn't stay in bed as late, 8am is a sleep/lie in for either of us!
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 12:49pm |
Bizzy wrote:
i would stop treating him like a child and let him get himself up. just lok after you and the baby. there comes a time in every mans life when he has to take responsibility for himself. |
Nah see I tried that, its really not worth the annoyance when he moans that I didnt get him up for work etc (even when I've gone on and on about it to him) and then the weekends he NEEDS to be awake as we're selling the house and get people thru at all hours. I'd just leave him to it if I didnt need the help to be honest, it's just so bloody annoying!
As for treating him like a child, I'll stop doing that when he starts acting like an adult. I think he's still in 'teenage boy' mode or something. Either that or an early mid-life crisis!
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 12:50pm |
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man that would really piss me off..how selfish:(!
I send Ethan in if I think he's had enough sleep too..we try to have sat him sleep in (till8-9) and sun for me but often doesn't work that way... he does all the bathing etc and gives me a break when needed...ugh that would make me so mad..how rude of him:(
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 1:33pm |
MissAngel wrote:
Nah see I tried that, its really not worth the annoyance when he moans that I didnt get him up for work etc (even when I've gone on and on about it to him) |
Ummm....sorry to be blunt, but if he's old enough to have a baby and be married, he's old enough to get himself up for work. That's pure laziness, and there's no way in HE** I would get DH up for work. If he's going to stay in bed and be late, then it's his own fault and he needs to deal with the consequences. Are you his mother or his wife?
Sorry this is harsh and not much help, but seriously, if DH even suggested that I had to get him up for work I would laugh in his face. Even his mother wouldn't do that for him at his age.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 2:13pm |
Mum2Ella wrote:
I just send Ella in to visit DH in bed when I need him up in the mornings during the weekend- she does a pretty good job of getting him out of bed |
I do this during the week. If DH is still pressing snooze after I've fed the girls breakfast then they go 'find Daddy'
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 3:06pm |
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my husband is up around 7am to get ready for work.. he has an alarm and it is his responsibility to get himself up for work...so far I haven't had to wake him up to go to work...if I am up before he leaves he will go in and see Megan before he heads off to work..
granted he does sleep a lot on saturday but I get my sleep in on sunday so only fair.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 4:22pm |
That would annoy me, after awhile i would go in with a cup of cold water thats been in the freezer and tip it on him, that would get him up and awake quick smart lol!!
But im mean
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 4:24pm |
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I would go away for a week or two and let him fend for himself.
Does he drink enough water? Because dehydration can lead to sleepiness. I am pretty sure that is why my DP has trouble getting out of bed in the morning.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 4:37pm |
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 4:42pm |
Oh my god - would go  . How childish. We both get up at 7 on the weekends (7.30 if the girls are sleeping in) and 6 during the week. Time to grow up. I like the suggestion of you going away for a week and letting him fend for himself.
I think that the best part of the day is before 10am  .
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 4:50pm |
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I would go away for a week or two and let him fend for himself.
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Funny that cuz I am! I'm going to Australia by myself on the 10th of August leaving him to be a daddy by himself! So he'll HAVE to get up :P I'm hoping it will actually open his eyes to what I have to deal with during the day and he'll appreciate that I need his help!
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 6:19pm |
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That's a glorious plan!! How long are you going to Aussie for?
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 7:44pm |
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Teehee, I'm the one that has trouble getting up in our house - DSD asked me why I'm so sleepy the other day lol, it's the culmination of six years of broken sleep!
He lets me sleep in on a Sunday, he doesn't get a sleep in as such (7am on a Sun IS a sleep in for him coz he's usually up at 4.30am during the week) but he does nap on the couch in the afternoons on the weekend so it evens out.
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:07pm |
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My Dh works shifts so is either up at the crack of dawn or has not come home till late. Still even then 8.30am is a lie in. If I think he is having too long I send Spencer to "find daddy" lol.
He will quite often get Kyle up for me though, Kyle likes to be up around 6am even when not due a feed and will let me have a bit longer.
I'm the one who use to be naughty for pushing the snooze button when I should have been getting ready to go to work.
Personally I would have taken the "sorry I was busy with the baby" route and let him be late a few times.
And OMG flutterby, you are the type of wife I am always trying to convince my DH doesn't exist. I am so not into making him breakfast and lunch etc. He is big enough and ugly enough to do that for himself, as much as he seems to think I should do it!
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Posted: 19 July 2009 at 10:09pm |
I'm lucky that DH gets up early for work...I'm not a morning person. He cooks his own breakfast & does his lunch.
DH lets me have an uninterrupted sleep in in the weekends but I do all the night waking/changing baby stuff. He has to go out & earn money so he gets his sleep at night.
But asides from that I make sure that Dinner is done or slightly organised/planned each night & all of the rest of the household tasks are left to me. I'm quite happy to do this cause I want to stay home. He says he fells guilty in not helping around the house but I only thing I usually get him to do is get more wood.
My first thought with this thread is I wonder if DH is grumpy about me not getting up in the mornings  I'm still up at 7 or 7.30 it's just that he's walking out the door around then. I am usually awake feeding Cooper before then & he is occupying Alia.
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