Jeepers! What an overreaction! Poor you Daizy, that's no way for a friend to speak to you
Of my closest circle of friends here 3 of us have had babies in the past 6 months. And all of us cut different things from our diets and we all talked about it and NONE of us judged each other for what we chose to eat. In fact, sometimes it was really nice when I was out at a restaurant to hear someone (who'd been in the same situation) say, "it's OK, I ate XXX" with the implication being relax a little and don't feel guilty for enjoying your food!
What a horrible horrible thing to say though, that it would've been your fault if something had happened. And not nice for your only-just-pregnant friend to hear all that either .. what's the bet she's second guessing what she's been eating now too