TTC after miscarriage/loss

Kia ora ladies,
I am sorry to see some new names, Missy and Melza. Welcome and so sorry for your loss. Melza I don't think there is a secret fb page for this forum (I maybe wrong).

It is so good to read a couple of stories of success and happiness, as it gives me hope and warm fuzzies.

I am wondering how long I should wait before I either take a pregnancy test or go to the doctor to check all is ok. I had a dnc on the 16th of April so a regular cycle for me would start any day now. I know it can take longer after an mc or mmc so I am not thinking anything is going on yet and I don't feel pregnant or due my period. I am just curious as to how other women have recovered and returned to regular cycles after an mc or mmc.

Thank you ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok and finding peace and joy in each day.

I haven't had another period yet, and we are ttc so hopefully fx

Lucky, everyone is different. I didn't cycle naturally after my d&c for 6mths and was then diagnosed with pcos. After my natural mc's I cycled normally for me, 6wks later. I certainly wouldn't be concerned at this point as long as you're feeling good, no abnormal discharge. You can do a preg test at any time to see if you have residual hcg. If you continue to not cycle you can see your doctor. Sometimes it's worth checking everything looks ok in there with a follow up ultrasound.

Thank you ladies for sharing your experience and advice. I think I will wait another week or so and if no AF I will go for a check up or pregnancy test.

Good luck ladies, positive thoughts to you all.

Awww. Stink one kumeroa :-( I hope you are ok and will heal quickly. Did you have to lose a tube? I hope not! I'm sorry you have to go through this :-( xx

Oh Kumeroa *big hugs*

Massive hugs Kumeroa. Hope you heal soon.

Oh Kumeroa, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Take care of yourself and sending you healing thoughts.

Poppy, I am sorry for your frustrations. Sending you aroha and hope that things get easier for you and your man.

AF arrived for me yesterday pretty much just after I took a pregnancy test. Quite happy to see her really as I feel it is a good sign of healing and getting back to normal. I am going to go to the doctor next week though to organise testing to make sure I am ovulating.

I hope all of you are feeling strong and supported in your situations, kia kaha wahine.

Hello ladies!
new to this forum, Im not ttc yet, ( still have the mc to deal with) but would love to as soon as i can, so thought it might be good to join here.
I ve read through the "life after mc " threads, which i ve found very good, but i m keen to join a here.
Bit about me, Wednesday this week i had a scan to confirm my dates.... (should have been cca 8w4d)....baby was measuring 7w5d but sadly there was no heart beat. It was hard, My hubby was sick with flu, feaverish, shaking that day, so i went by myself.... not a good idea. It was so unexpected. I managed to hold it together till coming home, and had a hard time sleeping as i was crying and keep seing the scan images in my head.
On Thursday, my midwife refered me to the hospital, so now, i m waiting to hear from them.
Im spending my days thinking about what to do, i m terrified of the d&c, but not sure if i can cope with going natural.
Still have some time to make my mind.
This was my 4th pregnancy, unplanned surprise... im already blessed with 3 wonderfull children (8, 6 and 1), and we are in particular gratefull to have the youngest who was born with his cord twice around his neck.
eventhough this pregnancy was unplanned, me and my hubby have embraced it... we were so happy about it and the idea of my youngest also having a sibling close in age. ...We are devastated. We have no close family living near and im not that close with my parents lately. Their reaction, first to the pregnancy and then to the mc , were dissapointing, no support or encouragement really.
Also, I had people say that at least i already have children ..... that is just so awfull. Yes, i know i m so blessed to have them, but this doesnt take away the sence of loss this time.
Its incredible what people say sometime.
Sorry to be this long.
Im really happy to find this wonderfully supportive thread.
All the best wishes to you all!!!!


Edited by Iceland - 31 May 2015 at 9:35pm

Iceland, so sorry to hear your story. mc is an incredibly hard thing to go through no matter the circumstances of the family or pregnancy. I think people don't know what to say when they find out so their response is often inappropriate. With my first one I got "at least you're young and can try again, it is pretty common". Needless to say I haven't told anyone about my latest two.

In regards to the d&c, mine was pretty straightforward and uneventful. I did it after bleeding for over 2 weeks. You can give it a wee bit of time but sometimes it's best to make sure everything is out. The doctors will help guide you in this.

All you can do at this point is take time to grieve and recover. Don't rush it and take care of yourself. We're all here if you need to vent or get advice.