TTC after miscarriage/loss

I'm thinking we will stop ttc for a bit, it's so stressful I find at the moment, I'm thinking why am I doing this all this stress when I could be enjoying my family.

Thanks for the messages Poppy and Coopers Mummy.
Good to have the forum working again, somehow it was telling me "servise unvailable " yesterday.
I got a call from hospital after the long weekend and had an appoint, today.
Eventhough, my original first reaction was "no way i want to have d&c" , after a week of waiting, i ve turned around and that s my choice now. Im still bit terrified of it, but the uncertain waiting is too hard. Also im not sure i can cope with feeling and seing the embrio comimg out and collect it to put in a jar,as they asked me to. I admire everyone who has done mc naturally and coped with all this!!!
My d&c is schedulled for Friday morning.... but tonight i ve started light spotting! It s not gotten any worse and i only have bit sore back, so I m on edge again as i m now not sure if i can really make it till friday?! will most probably end up going the natural way anyway! ... oh well, trying to relax and go with whatever happens.
Good luck Poppy! Crossing my fingers for good news for you!

Hello to all,

Poppy , thats great news to hear!! Trying keeping busy a try to keep positive, but yes, the first weeks are just sooo hard to 'keep sane and think of something else). Thinking of you!!
I made it to my d&c appointment in the end this morning!
after more spotting yesterday morning, i started bleeding and passing small clots, so i was convinced i d misscarry there and them, but no cramps and all settled overnight.
In the end the whole experience of d&c was fine, everyone in hospital was really lovely and when i woke up (without my glasses on, i wear -6 dioptries so blind as a bat) i thought i m still only to do go under.
Good to find out i was in recovery already and back home in less then an hour. I m feelling really well now.
the only thing is, that our kids had a sleepover at our neighbour who s in my daughter's class. They had a great time, and my daughter ' s friend apparently been asking whats wrong with me, so my daughter explained something like that mummy lost the baby she was expecting. When news time came, the friend was keen to share her news of having an unexpected sleepover with Greta because of the dead baby. The teacher supposedly said nothing and moved on to the next child for news. She had a word about it with the friend's mum after class.
well, well, i wonder how the parents will react to their child telling them about our 'dead baby' ....we ve already heard from one family who s son told them this .
Also, whether and how theyll talk to me next week at pick up times or if they ll ignore it all together ....
Need to get strong for next week. At least, it s a weekend ahead first.
(sorry for being so long)

Glad the d&c went ok for you iceland. Sometimes it's easier to just get it all sorted so you can move on. Good luck with the future.

Good to hear from you Soda. Will you keep ttc until next year? I hope you don't need to go down the adoption route. It's an amazing gift to give a child but when you've been trying so hard to have your own I guess it's challenging to let that dream go. Best of luck.

Congratulations poppy :) awesome news x

Definately noticing a different mindset this time around. It's like my brain hasn't even come to the realisation that I'm pregnant. I'm not at all excited or happy yet, not checking for bleeding yet. Seem to still be in waiting mode. Previously, the second I got the bfp I started working out dates, planning, dreaming etc. This time...nothing. Hope this changes soon.

give it time Poppy. i know next time if i get the chance that whole lovely blissful naivety of pregnancy is well and truly gone, and it will feel different. I doubt ill be able to truly relax and enjoy the pregnancy until well after 12 weeks since i lost bub so late in the first tri...so im sure whatever you are feeling right now is totally normal.  xxx hugs hun. 

yes we looked into fostering too. I just think the emotional toll would be too great on DD (and me!) to consider that, not while DD is so little anyway- she just wouldnt understand. we are looking at thailand or possibly the philipines at this stage but are open to anything. just early days though- anything could happen!

Anyone know anything about hcg levels? Got mine back and it's in the 300's at just on 4wks. I'm thinking that's ok but not great? Retesting Thursday to look for the trend. Fx for big things.

http://www.huggies.co.nz/pregnancy/early-stages/symptoms/hcg-levels/chart