TTC after miscarriage/loss

Congratulations JK. So nice to hear positive stories.

Thanks jk87 for your message and huge congrats on your pregnancy! Did you end up doing anything different for your successful pregnancy like progesterone or baby aspirin etc?

Thanks ladies :) My heart absolutely goes out to you all, I still struggle to talk about my losses but am very grateful I finally have my sticky baby.

I had progresterone supplements up to 12 weeks this time Lesh - I had also embarked on a new fitness regime and was eating much healthier than ever prior to getting pregnant, which I hadn't done the previous times. Hard to say whether it was something I did (testing on the second baby showed no abnormalities) or if we just got 'the mix' right this time.

Hi everyone! I'm new to oh Baby I joined the due may 2016 thread and today I lost my wee Baby! We have been trying for 22 months for a Baby and I've had 2 miscarriages prior to that we had a beautiful rainbow girl Aaliah who will be 2 on Sunday! Our first born daughter was stillborn nearly 3 years ago now! I would love to join you all on this journey!

So sorry Antheawren, how so very hard for your losses and to go through all this. Like Iceland said I hope you have lots of support around you.

I went to my appointment yesterday at Genea Fertility to see if they could do some testing incase there might be a reason for my 2 miscarriages. He did lots of bloods, well it was meant to be 13 tubes but I freaked out and have asked to split them so I'll get the remainder done on Tuesday! And I'm also getting a scan done but I have to wait until a week after AF so probably in 3 weeks time. They will insert dye into my cervix which blows it up to see if there is anything there. He did suggest to go straight to doing one where they insert a camera but I was too scared to be put to sleep. The bloods cover how many eggs I have left through to blood clotting and chromosomes testing. He has said usually all these tests don't find anything wrong and thinks because I'm now 36 that chances of abnormalities is much higher which is probably the cause.

Sorry for the huge explanation but it might help others to see what they might expect if they were to get tests and I'd be interested if anyone had anything different than mine too. He didn't test for Progesterone which I find strange? He wasn't actually all that reassuring of a good outcome even if all tests don't show anything which he thinks they won't. Maybe he doesn't want to get my hopes up I'm not sure. So no trying for me now for a couple months as I can't the cycle I get the dye inserted next month :(

Really sorry for your losses Anthawren. I hope you're doing ok x

Lesh I had a crazy amount of blood taken for my tests through Fertility Associates - I think 10 tubes one time and 4 another time. I find it strange they didn't test your progesterone too - although that one has to be done at a certain day of your cycle (5 days before af if I remember correctly), so maybe you have to do it later? I think it's great you're doing all the testing - even if they don't find anything, you'll know that you've tried everything and hopefully that will be reassuring.

Hi everyone, I'm assuming this forum is still active?? Though the last post was in September...Anyway, thought I may as well check it out! I'm 31yrs old, live in Auckland. We lost our little boy in July this year. He was 13 days old. He got a fetal infection a day or two before he was born, so was born very sick and just deteriorated from there. We are super keen to get pregnant again, despite the fact that we are grieving...but we figure that we'll be grieving for our whole lives in some capacity. We're into our 2nd month trying to conceive. Looking forward to getting to know you all :-)

Yeah, I'd been to keen to know if there's a facebook group also. Sorry about your loss Melza. Hopefully there are more people in this group...it does seem rather quiet

Hi again Lesh. Yeah, I'm really just trying to see which forums are actually active or not! I'd really love to be in a group with others who have experienced loss...think it will be a fantastic support.

Great idea about starting a facebook group. There's bound to be others out there, but if you can't find one, you may as well create one!!

So, I'm going to go ahead and create a private facebook group today, and can hopefully slowly build our numbers. Keen to join Melza? Lesh? (even though you just got a BFP, feel free to still join! Will be nice to have people to chat to in different stages...)

Edited by Keziah84 - 26 October 2015 at 9:55am

*warning huge message, including details of my miscarriage*

Good morning ladies
Firstly wahooo the All Blacks!!!!

What a relief to finally find a forum. I had been on a ‘due in November’ secret page on Facebook – umm found the group from a babies website. Gee there were I think another 4 ladies that also miscarried out of about 18 of us!!!
Baby would’ve been due 19 November – so on the 19 November hubby and I are heading away somewhere for along weekend, since that would’ve been when baby was due.

So back to my story – I was quickly writing about me last nite and hit send, just to hurry and post on here.

So yeah, I am 36. We went to Asia for 4weeks end of January, I knew my pill was going to run out and thought oh well that doesn’t matter cos as soon as we get back we are going to try for a baby. We arrived back and my period didn’t come but we didn’t think anything of it, NEVER did I think I was pregnant – I have had my period since I was 8yrs old and over the years it has had a mind of its own, so I was thinking it was cos I had come off the pill it was mucked up!! Had no symptons (well had a VERY VERY sore bum whilst on bike at the gym and sitting in my office chair – which I then find out from the doctor that yes this will be cos I was pregnant, it wasn’t in my bum it was like I don’t know just very sore, could feel excruciating when standing up – so I am waiting for this pain every month now hoping it will be a sign!!). So yeah anyways obviously conceived the FIRST TIME off the pill – yet we weren’t even trying – ya know on holiday, happy, cocktails, lots of beers, relaxed. I had taken TWO pregnancy tests (one before our 1yr wedding anniversary on 15 March, negative, then another one – as both occasions I knew I would be drinking lots so thought I had better check…grrrr both negative yet I was f’n pregnant, stupid tests, 99.9% accuracy!). Then I was flying to Sydney for my birthday on 26 March, so I went to the doctors on 24 March (as I knew I would be having huge boozy weekend away) as hmmmm maybe I was pregnant (as this time hubby in USA for work..) and hello doctor said yup positive, so all very exciting.

Then 1 May bit of spot bleeding, was due to have 12 week scan the following week…..went in for scan, he couldn’t find anything and then said was I sure of the dates, YES, he said there was a sac of a 6 week old (and hello I found out when I was 6-7 weeks!!! So that means it was dead in me all this time, when I was happy I as pregnant infact nope gone)…… NO ONE TOLD ME what would happen. The next day hubby and I go for a drive, 40mins from home, nice lunch and beer, then that nite I was in bed on the phone, then got up blood in my pants, take my pants down and lump, then yeah well had full on miscarriage over the next 3 hrs losing about ½ bucket of stuff. So pissed off at the midwife giving us NO WARNING AT ALL. I said to her 2 days later than I wasn’t impressed she didn’t warn me and she said ‘oh it is different for everyone’ – well why the frick didn’t she give us best case/worse case scenario!!!!


We had no idea at all it would be so traumatic, heck I thought ok a 50c size clot (as had read another girl something something like that)…. Definatley not having that midwife again, even though I had searched and searched to find a good one local! Very pissed off that no warning for us – poor hubby, what a terrible traumatising experience!!! So yeah too bad if we had decided to go away for the weekend, or hubby had been out, or if it had happened whilst we were out for lunch earlier that day!


So yeah that was May – and we have tried each month…I am 36 so need to hurry up as we want 2 kids. Fluke we conceived FIRST time trying without actually trying (honestly we didn’t even think oh look we might get pregnant, never crossed out minds!!! Just knew when we got back to NZ we would try!).
Last week I bought some ovulation test kits, took it everyday since first day after the end of my period just to make sure WHEN was the day I am ovulating. So yes maybe this month we might be lucky.

Sorry to read of everyones losses

MissAmz – sorry to hear of your loss, and it being on your #1’S birthday.

Lesh77777 – Great there is an active forum now – I was searching in May and couldn’t find anywhere to chat to others! I am also 36. Heck was just reading how you had to give 13 tubes of blood?!?! That is an insane amount isn’t it!

Karenka – You have one child? I couldn’t find it in your message but had seen the picture below, a 3yr old? My heart breaks for you, 4 miscarriages, you poor girl, geez one is enough, I don’t know how people cope, far out. Big big hugs, I really hope your time will come.

JK87 – congrats on now being at 18 weeks. Sorry to hear of your 3 miscarriages.
antheawren - sorry to hear of your losses
Keziah84 - oooh so sorry to hear of your son I couldn’t begin to understand what you have been/going through. Thanks for starting up a fbook group – it needs to be SECRET though, not private, as I think they still show up on friends pages – I was worried when I joined the ‘due in November’ – sooo what I learnt was the creator of the page has to be friends with the others to actually invite them to join. So in that case the girl gave me her name and she added me as a friend, added me to the group, then I unfriended her, ha ha as I don’t have tom, dick, harry as my friends on fbook just close friend ha ha.

Man there must be a more active group somewhere, then again like someone said a while ago that if we chat on here it will show at the top of the threads and maybe more will join – NOT THAT we want others to be going thru what we are going thru but there must be more ladies that need support, share their experiences.