TTC after miscarriage/loss

Oh phew, I'm so glad he is staying home with you today. Have you got a friend/Mum/Sister or someone that can come and stay with you for a few days when he does have to go back to work? You are doing so well Blondie, take good care of yourself. Sending you lots of love and strength.

Good luck for your blood test today RT

There are support groups you can join as well Blondie - Sands is one of them although I'm not sure where you are so you might not be able to get to a meeting. Its such early days for you, gradually their will be more good days than bad. We are all here for you x

Lurker - Blondie, am so sorry to hear of your loss. Huge hugs from me. Take care - sounds like you have loads of loving people looking out for you at this difficult time. Just do what feels right for you..xx

Redtulip my fingers are crossed for you that this is a sticky bubba. I really hope this is your turn. Lots of positive thoughts coming your way x

You're right about the future and today was a good day. My friend came round, hasn't seen her since I was in labour and I was quite out of it. I feel better about the future and I'm focusing on looking after myself. I'm going to try and relax and try and smile until I get my next period. Then it's all go. I really hope it's not too long. I'm still bleeding so hope that stops soon.

Awesome Blondie! You go girl! So glad you're feeling better about the future - and great you're focusing on taking care of yourself. You might have the odd day that feels like a step back but just know that that's totally normal and that time is a magnificent healer. Thanks too for your well wishes, means alot xx
a.girl - planning not to do serial hcg bloods this time around. Did them during last 3 pregs (and in fact was doing them every 2nd day with last one) and during all of them the numbers rose beautifully then... ????!!!!! - total devastation when I went in for scans. Our bean had always stopped growing well before scan even though hcg levels continued to increase perfectly. So, easy decision this time - I've always done them because professionals have said it'd be a good idea to monitor levels - but for me they haven't been an indication things are well at all. It also made me very anxious while waiting for results, and very obsessive about the numbers when I got them.
I'll definitely have an early scan, probably around 7 weeks. Babies heartbeat is sometimes visible from around 6 weeks but I've heard of ladies freaking because they haven't seen it and then it being visible a week later. If all goes well the RPL clinic offers weekly scans from week 7 to 12 just for piece of mind. So will see what happens at first one and go from there. Just to say, can totally understand how you're feeling. For every time I have m/c'd I have never given up hope of one day having a huggable bub. It does make each new pregnancy a very anxious, fretful and sometimes tearful time - but I try to keep focused on the fact that each pregnancy is different and also on huge amount of love and joy a child will bring into our lives... that's what makes it bearable. Brings new meaning to the phrase 'no pain, no gain' lol

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Edited by redtulip - 10 July 2013 at 8:54pm

Thanks heaps pitter-patter... hoping you ALL get your bfps soon so we can start another new thread together!

a.girl, thank you for that link. I agree, slightly disappointed that it means very very unlikely atm but also explains why I feel like I'm ovulating, even though I'm not. I was starting to wonder if it was likely I was going to have an anovulatory cycle this cycle. Now just waiting for AF to arrive so I can get back on the bike.

I actually feel a lot more relaxed now!

Hi all

I just found this thread- so glad I did! I haven't read it all yet, but I will. I feel so comforted to know others who know what it feels like!

I'm 27 and hubby is 34 and we've been TTC since March. We got pregnant straight away, but then lost it at 6 weeks (after 2 weeks of on and off spotting and lots of stress.) Then, we got pregnant straight away again..! But lost it again at 5 weeks. It was so awful. That was early June.

I'm now 37 days past my 2nd miscarriage and no sign of a period. We we're going to 'wait' this month, but for various reasons that didn't happen, so it's possible I'm pregnant for the 3rd time in a row. My boobs are really sore so I reckon either my period is coming or I'm pregnant.

I'm purposefully not testing for pregnancy because I know if I see a positive I will be happy, but I will be so so so stressed out about losing this one too. So, for now I am living in 'ignorance is bliss' land and taking each day as it comes. If my period doesn't come in the next wee while I will have to be brave and take the test. But not today.

Hi Jenn. Welcome. I am so sorry about your losses. You are definitely in the right place. We have all been there, one way or another. I can totally understand your fear. And at this early stage, there is no harm in waiting. As a.girl said, it can take a while to get AF after a miscarriage. I waited 35 days after both of mine. It is perfectly normal for things to be a bit funky for a few months after m/c. If AF doesn't arrive, you will know the right time to test. Keep in touch.

Hi all, thanks for your replies :)
A.Girl- I haven't been testing for ovulation or anything like that, as for us the problem doesn't seem to be getting pregnant but keeping pregnant. What are opks? Sorry I'm new to the lingo. No I don't chart, but pretty sure I ovulated as I had all the usual signs.

Tan73- yes, I know I should wait! But I really wanna be preg! but will have to wait and just learn to be patient

Redtulip- yea hubby knows how I'm feeling. Thats a nice idea, maybe I'll test with him in a week or two, if it comes to that! yep, I've been taking folic acid for months, so if I'm pregnant it's all good :)