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    Posted: 03 January 2012 at 6:19am
Is this the norm?

My 3 year old niece is still in nappies and not even capable of telling us when it is wet. I have always thought that toilet training happened when they are 2? It just seems strange to me as I haven't known any other 3 year olds to be still in nappies apart from wearing them at night.
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Some kids are just ready to toilet train later than others.

My eldest was just over 3 when he was ready (and took 2 weeks), my 2nd was a few months shy of 3 and just seemed to decide that she was ready and literally seemed to take 2 days

I know of other kids who are ready before 2 and I know some parents seem to prefer to do it when they (the parents) are ready. Like anything, all kids/parents/familiies are different
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Daniel was well over 3 before he was TT during the day, night time, he still isn't *sigh* and we tried earlier than 3 but got no where
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That was the one thing I never bothered about. I left it up to my kids & not an "age".

My FIL went on & on about it with DS1 saying he should be toilet trained, he was 2yrs, he wasn't ready & I believe in letting the child do it when ready. DS1's cousin who is a few mths younger was out of nappies so FIL thought DS1 should be. When DS1 was ready we had no accidents in his pants & when he was out of night nappies we had no wet beds...same for all 3 of my kids. But DS1's cousin had accidents in his pants several times a day & wet his bed for yrs...so I did throw that in FIL face when he started up about DS2 & toilet training.

The other thing with all my kids was they did not use the potty for long as they preferred the toilet.

I never parented out of a book so ages & stages never bothered me, I preferred to let my kids lead & I think that is why they are more laid back & less stressed...than say compared to their cousins.


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I admit with my eldest, I used to worry that he was too old and what would people think?! But once he was ready it happened really easily and I then thought I'd rather wait until my kids are ready than be stressing over trying to train them, especially after seeing the struggle some friends had.
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My niece was still in pull ups at night till she was 4 everyone is different and its when they're ready and able. Some kids still wet the bed till they're 6 or 7

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Little girl I look after is about to turn three & she's no where near ready & she sees my boy who's the same age going to the toilet.

My nephew was still wearing pulls ups at night when he stayed with us & I'm sure he was over 5yo.
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James was 4 and a half when he toilet trained himself for day just asked one day for nappy off and he had very few accerdents night tranning was a coulple of months later were as his cuzzy was tt at 2 and night by 3 each kid in there own time
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My DD didn't do wees in the toilet until she was 3 3/4. From about 3 1/4 she was in undies but would sit on the toilet with a nappy/pullup for wees & poos.
Even now at nearly 4 she still uses a nappy for poos.

Her twin DD was fully toilet trained in 2 weeks just before her 3rd birthday.

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My daughter and most of her friends toilet trained after 3. Most were pretty much there by 4 but not all. I never worried about it personally. I figure so long as they can do it by the time they go to school what's the problem

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But surely leaving it up to them is costing a lot of money if they are in disposables! I guess with cloth it wouldn't matter.
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I think one of the main reasons it has become later is to do with disposable nappies to be fair....it's too comfy for them after they wee! I want to TT my son when he is 2, I hope it works as I would be really gutted if I was still changing a 4 year old's nappy but that's just my opinion.
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Originally posted by LuckyRed LuckyRed wrote:

But surely leaving it up to them is costing a lot of money if they are in disposables! I guess with cloth it wouldn't matter.


Maybe...but sometimes it's the best option. My partner would dearly love for my girls to be out of nappies (for financial reasons), and they're getting there, but not ready yet for no nappies at all. Especially when trying to co-ordinate TT between home, daycare and then their dad's house as well. One of the girls is also far more ready than the other.
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I think it's become later now because these days parents are waiting until the kid is ready to learn.
In previous times it was the the parent training the the kid at an earlier ( expected ) age, and not necessarily at the age when the kid was showing signs.
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Not that I've been there or anything myself, but I can imagine that rushing kids could just give you a nasty headache... I think it's one of those things that will be a learning curve when we get there, LuckyRed (thank goodness I don't have to think about it yet!!!!)

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My 4 year old second cousin who is very strong willed just wouldn't until after she was 4, and it wasn't through want of trying on her parents half. Until one day the penny dropped and she wanted to wear knickers. Some kids just aren't ready.
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Originally posted by LuckyRed LuckyRed wrote:

But surely leaving it up to them is costing a lot of money if they are in disposables! I guess with cloth it wouldn't matter.


I spent heaps on nappies & I only used disposables...but the way I saw it was when they were toilet trained their body was ready for it. I had no wet beds or pants. They had no hang ups about it...& we had no stress, so that really out weighs the cost, well IMO.


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It does cost lots with sposies. We tried several times because I was sick of nappies but having to change clothes 10+ times a day gets rather tiresome when they just aren't ready/willing to TT and you see no improvement. I'd rather pay the cost of the nappies than do all that washing and cleaning up of pee personally
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Yea, it definitely gets expensive as they get older! But we dont have much of a choice with our young'n and we're waiting until he can understand his body a bit more and knows what the toilet is about. We're paying through the nose for disposables! It sucks but there aint alot we can do about it..
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Blankney94 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 03 January 2012 at 7:31pm
DD is 3 at the end of January and has just become toilet trained over the holidays.  We did want her trained last summer, but she was showing no signs of being ready.  Nobody likes an uphill battle.  DD is ready now, there's only been one accident in about 10 days, and it has been so easy.  Better to wait until the child has shown signs of being ready, I think. 
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