OHbaby! Forums : Sleep Help - 1 month old https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 20:32:43 +0000 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:36:23 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37006 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Up until he was 3 months old Riley...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1220486&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1220486 Author: Vanillabean
Subject: 37006
Posted: 14 December 2010 at 8:36pm

Up until he was 3 months old Riley would only sleep during the day if someone was holding him. I imagine that might not have worked if there had been a toddler around though. He cried a lot during the day. We did have around a month during this time when he would nap with me in bed from about 3.30 - 6.30pm which was a real godsend for me. Once again, possibly not that practical with a toddler.]]> Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:36:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1220486&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1220486 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : 6 week old here, and basically...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1219636&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1219636 Author: maya22
Subject: 37006
Posted: 13 December 2010 at 8:59pm

6 week old here, and basically i am adjusting my mental attitude rather than trying to adjust the baby.

So much energy went into trying to get DS1 (a refluxer) to sleep during the day that it is just not worth it. This time I am going with the flow and finding that it is all a lot easier.

My 5 week old is up for 3 hours in the morning, then sleeps, up for 2 hours in the middle of the day and 3-4 hours cluster feeding in the evening. So I am going with it, and enjoying not spending hours of my day shushing and patting. ]]> Mon, 13 Dec 2010 20:59:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1219636&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1219636 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : I know exactly what you are going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1219501&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1219501 Author: thetravelbugtribe
Subject: 37006
Posted: 13 December 2010 at 6:11pm

I know exactly what you are going through, our daughter is 12 weeks old and still we cant get her to sleep during the day. We get a reasonable sleep at night but we are all tired and cranky by evening. She will sleep in the buggy for a while if we go for a walk, or the car seat, or front wrap, but I dont want to have to always put her to sleep, it would be nice if she could self settle at some point. Even if we get her to sleep by rocking, cuddling, carrying or feeding, if we put her down she will wake up after 5-10 minutes. I really dont want to let her cry it out but I am approaching the end of my tether.]]> Mon, 13 Dec 2010 18:11:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1219501&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1219501 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : We went and watched the sleep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1218702&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1218702 Author: alexmum
Subject: 37006
Posted: 12 December 2010 at 7:25pm

We went and watched the sleep video at the plunket family centre then talked with the plunket nurse there. My DD is 6 weeks old and we started put her in bed (using the bedroom instead of the lounge as have a toddler running round and trying to poke her). Let her cry 10 mins (am only leaving her 5 as heartbreaking to hear her cry) then go in, pick up and pat until calm and then back down. Before hand i was rocking her cot and feeding her (apparently feeding her way too often, when she wasn't hungry just tired). Now she is sleeping quite well, at that 45 min mark she needs a bit of a cry then either she goes back to sleep herself or i do one lot of patting and put her down and she goes back to sleep.
She is so much happier from finally getting some sleep. She was really overtired and that was why she wasn't sleeping. Now she is sleeping better she is going down easier. Hard for the first few days but seriously seems worth it as am getting to spend some quality time with my toddler again instead of feeding or rocking bubba to sleep.
Good luck with what ever you choose to do ]]> Sun, 12 Dec 2010 19:25:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1218702&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1218702 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : my babe is older now, but this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216912&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216912 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 5:43pm

my babe is older now, but this is what i do...

She is on her side in a wedge, with a dummy with a muslin threaded through it so I can tuck it in her blanket and it stays put til she spits it out once asleep
At first I hold the dummy in, and with that same hand put weight on her upper body to stop her turning over and making a fuss, its not forceful unless she is overtired and grouchy, and she holds my hand while I rest it there, then I tap her bum with my free hand, once she settles or closes her eyes I slow it down, until she sighs (her sign to sleep) then I take it all away and she goes to sleep
I resettle her the same way if she wakes too soon, if i know she hasnt got wind
It took about a week for this to work 95% of the time, before that I couldnt even put her down without screaming
Now more often than not she just closes her eyes once I put her down or put her dummy in
I couldnt do the CIO either, but I agree with bizzy to put him down awake and calm him in his cot
Someone said to me (or maybe i read it) how would you like it if you woke up in the bath - it needs to become familiar to him
Once he has caught up on some sleep it will probably become easier too, once he isnt exhausted

Edited by Raspberryjam]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 17:43:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216912&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216912 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : gabriel used to be a bugger for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216867&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216867 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 4:59pm

gabriel used to be a bugger for holding onto wind and the only thing that helped was a teaspoon or two of boiled cooled water... i would turn the kettle on and pour some water out ready for after his feed before i started it back in the early days with him - once we figured out thats what the problem was.]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 16:59:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216867&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216867 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : babies can be hard work can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216817&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216817 Author: AuntieSarah
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 3:58pm

babies can be hard work can't they! Mine was the same, all I can suggest is a moby wrap - ds slept in the moby on me every day from 6 weeks - 4 months when he started sleeping in the cot. God only knows why - I'd just try the cot every day where he'd have 20 minutes or so a few times in the morning, and then would put him in the moby every afternoon and he'd have a decent sleep in there. ]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 15:58:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216817&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216817 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Have you tried something for wind...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216813&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216813 Author: newme
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 3:50pm

Have you tried something for wind - maybe infacol? ]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 15:50:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216813&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216813 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Yeah, my first response would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216606&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216606 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 11:46am

Yeah, my first response would be wind - it's a pretty classic reason for waking after 10 minutes. Doesn't mean I have a brilliant solution for fixing it though sorry

What kind of sling have you got? I'm finding Ben sleeps really well in the Moby and it keeps me handsfree for doing other things.

Big hugs - Dan was a hopeless sleeper and Ben's not the flashest in the afternoon. I feel your pain.]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 11:46:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216606&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216606 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Have tried that too Bizzy, he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216556&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216556 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 37006
Posted: 09 December 2010 at 10:56am

Have tried that too Bizzy, he just screams his way into a frenzy. Not keen on CIO at one month old, so am avoiding that.

Jackson was such a good sleeper, I haven't had much practice!

Oh well, at least he sleeps at night. I should be thankful.

I think it is wind waking him. I spend so much time getting burps up but it seems to all be in his lower gut and he's uncomfortable. Just hoping he grows out of that soon. ]]> Thu, 09 Dec 2010 10:56:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1216556&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1216556 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : maybe you could try putting him...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215751&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215751 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 37006
Posted: 08 December 2010 at 9:38am

maybe you could try putting him down still awake?   wrap him up and put him down and walk away.]]> Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:38:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215751&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215751 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : *hugs* laurie!! does he use a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215749&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215749 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 37006
Posted: 08 December 2010 at 9:38am

*hugs* laurie!!

does he use a dummy? I always found my kids slept miles better with a dummy . So I would have them up roughly an hour, fed changed swaddled tight and back to ebd with the dummy and some music, and left them awake to self settle.

It seems your doing everything you can, so Im not really sure what else to suggest hun...maybe try some resue remedy(I used this with bella as she was a very unsettled baby).]]> Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:38:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215749&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215749 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : With DS1 I had a similar issue...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215716&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215716 Author: newme
Subject: 37006
Posted: 08 December 2010 at 9:09am

With DS1 I had a similar issue - hard to get to sleep and would only sleep for max 30 mins during the day. And he was snuffly.
I cut dairy out of my diet and that helped so much, he stopped being snuffly, and his tummy seemed better and was much more contented. It took about a week before I noticed a big improvement. Maybe something to try?]]> Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:09:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215716&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215716 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Poor you. My girls also refused...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215714&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215714 Author: Danda08
Subject: 37006
Posted: 08 December 2010 at 9:06am

Poor you. My girls also refused to sleep during the day (except on me) but were good night sleepers (clearly exhausted from their efforts during the day). The only thing that always worked for me was taking them out for long walks in the pram, but with a toddler that's not so easy for you.

We ended up getting hammocks which made things a bit easier but you're already trying that!

Someone mentioned above wedges, have you tried those? Before we got the hammocks my girls did sleep a bit better on their side in wedges.

What about having the hammock in the living areas so he can still hear everything going on around him?

]]> Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:06:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215714&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215714 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : I am getting him resettled within...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215684&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215684 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 37006
Posted: 08 December 2010 at 8:31am

I am getting him resettled within the hour.

I can't understand it. He settles fine during the night but JUST WON'T SLEEP during the day.

It's utterly doing my head in. I feel like crying!]]> Wed, 08 Dec 2010 08:31:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215684&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215684 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : i was wondering about how long...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215610&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215610 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 10:58pm

i was wondering about how long he is up for too... he might be over tired if awake too long.]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 22:58:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215610&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215610 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : My wee girl was exactly the same How...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215595&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215595 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 10:20pm

My wee girl was exactly the same

How long are you keeping him up? the family centre told me 45 to 50 mins and be consistent, do the same thing everytime

Does he swallow alot? I didnt notice til they told me, but she had heartburn, losec fixed it
but also wind drops helped before that

are you using a dummy? My babe is really sucky and would only fall asleep with a boob in her mouth, but a dummy fixed that, but it took a while for her to take it

just a few ideas that worked for me, It hard with a noisy toddler around

Best of luck x]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 22:20:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215595&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215595 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Re the slings, etc, it&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215547&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215547 Author: High9
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 9:22pm

Re the slings, etc, it's normal for them to cry the first couple of times, they just have to get used to it, firm movements when putting them in are meant to be reassuring as is shushing and doing a lil jig until they calm down (patting their bum too)...

Unfortunately my lil one has always fought sleep at night and not during the day *sigh* can make as much noise as I want during the day but the slightest noise at night wakes her ]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 21:22:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215547&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215547 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Can you try putting him to sleep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215507&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215507 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 8:58pm

Can you try putting him to sleep somewhere else? Bassinette? Cot? Pushchair? Ben was in the hammock and then his sleeps started getting shorter and shorter, down to about 10mins. Can't remember how old he was, couple month max. Anyway one day I decided to try putting him in the cot for his naps and his sleeps suddenly got longer. Maybe for some reason he has gone off the hammock??

Also you could try a carrier such as a Manduca or Ergo instead of the hammock

Good luck

Oh and most importantly, you are doing nothing wrong!! Babies just like to drive us mad!]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 20:58:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215507&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215507 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Yeah DS was a terrible day sleeper...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215421&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215421 Author: Nutella
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 7:04pm

Yeah DS was a terrible day sleeper but made up for it at night time. I tried lots of things and eventually just gave up, and once he got more active he would sleep during the day....but until he was probably 6 months old he just never slept during the day, maybe 1 hour nap if I was lucky.

So I have no advice just to let you know that there are other babies out there just as useless at sleeping...you are not alone!

Oh and if he is not grizzly and cross etc then maybe just try going with the flow and let him stay awake? Or try letting him have 'quiet time' in his bed, put him down when he is awake and leave something for him to look at...this was the only thing that kept me sane haha!]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 19:04:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215421&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215421 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Do they have those Plunket Family...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215403&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215403 Author: crafty1
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 6:44pm

Do they have those Plunket Family Centres in Welly? Lots of girls rave about them for help with this sort of thing.

My second was a total screamer and i had a 21 mo at the same time so honey i can totally empathise with your situation. Time helped us tbh, little else. Some days some things would work other days other things. I tried to get at least one good sleep a day just to keep us on an even keel. Actually side sleeping in a sleep wedge helped at about this time i think. That and white noise and bum patting. J would also sleep in frontpack so i went for lots of long walks.

]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 18:44:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215403&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215403 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : I don&#039;t really know. He&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215354&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215354 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 5:50pm

I don't really know. He's windy, but I get so many burps out of him before I put him down. I can't help but wonder if he has a little cold or something as he is a bit snuffly when he sleeps.

But really, I am struggling a lot with the inability to keep him asleep. ]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 17:50:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215354&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215354 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Does he appear to have an upset...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215201&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215201 Author: newme
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 2:39pm

Does he appear to have an upset stomach or anything like that which is stopping him sleeping?]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 14:39:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215201&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215201 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : I need to keep trying with the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215190&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215190 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 2:22pm

I need to keep trying with the slings. Both times I have tried he's completely let rip.]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 14:22:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215190&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215190 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : will he sleep in a wrap/sling?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215165&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215165 Author: Mum2ET
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 1:57pm

will he sleep in a wrap/sling? Tom spent most of his first 6 weeks asleep in the moby wrap- Ella's noise didn't seem to bother them at all as long as he was nice and close to me.

]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 13:57:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215165&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215165 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Don&#039;t worry you aren&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215107&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215107 Author: kebakat
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 12:42pm

Don't worry you aren't alone. Alex does this alot too. I'll spend a good day fixing it when Daniel is at daycare so I can concentrate soley on Alex, we have brilliant days after that but then the weekend rolls around and it goes back to short sleeps and I start over. I'm hoping he grows out of it.]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 12:42:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215107&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215107 <![CDATA[Sleep Help - 1 month old : Ollie sleeps well through the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215097&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215097 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 37006
Posted: 07 December 2010 at 12:27pm

Ollie sleeps well through the night time. He wakes at about 1am and 5am for feeds, and then up about 8am.

However, during the day it's a nightmare. He just won't sleep! I get him drifted off, put him down and then ten minutes later he is awake again. This cycles on and on all day, which is very difficult as I have a toddler too.

I am swaddling him, shushing him, rocking him and bouncing him in his hammock, there's white noise and block out blinds in his room.... but nothing keeps him asleep. I have tried walking him around and letting him sleep in my arms, but said toddler is so noisy that doesn't work either. I have read and tried tips from the Sleep Store.

He's clearly tired, all red around the eyes, but fights sleep totally. He doesn't want to feed any more regularly, and gets very upset if I offer, so don't think it is a growth spurt.

It's very difficult to manage, and the worse he sleeps the worse he feeds.

What am I doing wrong? Is this a stage babies go through or do I have a tricky one?

Any ideas/experiences/help would be hugely appreciated!]]> Tue, 07 Dec 2010 12:27:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37006&PID=1215097&title=sleep-help-1-month-old#1215097