Be careful what you post!

Sorry to hear that! I'm not sure what you're referring to exactly but in general I must say I am quite amazed what some people say on this forum when it is easy to tell who they are from the photos of their kids and their names. You can see from the number of views that each thread gets, compared with the number of actual replies that there are TONS of lurkers out there!!

Hope things resolve themselves soon.

Sorry to hear that. I hope things smooth over soon.

Yes I am suprised at times by that people post, as NZ is a very small country! As said in the phone ad, there is only 2 degrees of separation.

I have always thought that forums should be anonymous, that is what handles are for so that you're not using your actual name. 99% of people reading this will be fine, but there is always that 1% that have different motives.

It's great that you have to have 100 posts before you can access the photos thread but everyone seems to put pics all over the place anyway! I would be interested to learn what percentage of viewers are members vs guests.

I remember your post. Sometimes we forget where we are as we are used to seeing the usual ones around but there are so many out there that we can not see.
The WWW has made cyber space a small world.

I removed my photos of my kids as I like being anonymous. I don't know if any of my friends or family post here, don't want them knowing that we have been trying for another, don't want them knowing what I am doing or when I am blowing of steam.

I like it that I can come here, to a public forum, have a laugh with my online friends, say my views on topics weather they are agreed with or not.

Once you put a pic up & add personal info it is so easy to be spotted & you are not the only one on here that has had it happen to unfortunately.

All you can do is talk to your dad & tell him how you really feel, it maybe good for you to clear the air.
Now that your stepsister knows how you feel, she should grow up & take to hart what you said as it sounded like she was the selfish one....if I remember your post correctly.

Renee, that sucks .

I'd be interested to know if we could go to an active member type system like TNN - you have to be registered before you can view most of the threads and then some threads are for people with a certain number of threads (similar to our photos).

that sucks renee - i think i remember that post...and think she got what she deserves. shes probably only upset cause it wasnt nice stuff and she knows now you are onto her!

but yes we do need to remember this isnt a private place!

i go to another place that requires a little more registration etc and has not many members and feels safer but i dunno you never know who is lurking...that is why I am way more careful what I post too and also deleted my pics when I was going to leave.. and won't post my baby names atm as i know a few people log on here just to find out info which is really sad:(

anyway Renee *hugs* I know how much it sucks ..the first time this happened to me someone logged on found out I was pregnant and txted my whole family including BIL who said 'oh yeah i already know' when I announced it a week later at Xmas.. I felt so stupid and so did they after i mc'ed...

Oh I know it's not fool proof but it makes it a bit more work for someone to lurk/cyberstalk

:( i hate to think people do that with pics...some people suck:(

Yeah unfortunately it has happened more than once around here, and it sucks..especially when someone is actively snooping! I don't really think there is any way someone "accidentally" starts reading through the posts of someone they know.

*Hugs* As much as it has possibly messed things up right now, I hope in some ways having your feelings out in the open will help others understand your point of view. I remember the thread and don't think you said anything particularly mean anyway.. she is the one who should be ashamed, not you.