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mummy_becks 
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 Posted: 14 July 2007 at 8:11pm |
 busymum wrote:
I don't get why you are all saying its too expensive too have children at weddings - are you talking about the reception not the ceremony? |
Yep, I had younger people at my wedding ceremony (a 14 year old from my band and my 15 year old cousin) and they ended up coming to the reception only because we had a few people not turn up at all (another story alltogether  ) as we had paid for the meals they ate them. For a child at the place we had our reception they were going to charge us the same price as an adult (all apart from Andrew).
My feeling as a parent is going to a wedding is a "night off" you don't have to worry about your children and can relax and enjoy yourself.
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Mazzy
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Posted: 14 July 2007 at 8:30pm |
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How do you feel about having children at weddings?
We didn't invite kids to ours but in hindsight I would have invited them. Some people brought their kids anyway and (although it is rude) on the day I never noticed, except that one gave me a horseshoe and it was really sweet. My thoughts on this changed before we had kids, btw!
If you were invited to a wedding, would you expect to take your children?
No, it's up to the bride and groom and totally their choice. Some people just don't like kids! I would ask if I wasn't sure.
If children weren't invited would you take yours anyway?
NO WAY.
If you were invited to a wedding and couldn't take your children, would you go to the wedding?
It would depend on the kids, and the location of the wedding. If it was local, yes. If it involved travel to get there and the kids were young, maybe not. DH and I wouldn't split up to make it (ie: one stay at home with the kids and one go)
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aimeejoy
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Posted: 14 July 2007 at 8:44pm |
I have a whole lot on neices and nephews, but I didnt want any kids at the reception. I just felt that the parents never relax and they need a night off, as well as it being the b and g's day. They were at the ceremony, then went off with a babysitter. My biggest annoyance of our day, was my husbands anut and uncle bringing their 10 year old twin boys! They just assumed they were invited, didnt ask at all  Luckily, two people didnt show up (and didnt tell us, grr again!) so we didnt have to shuffle our seating plan.
I was a BM when Han was 4 months old. If my parents werent invited to the wedding I would have left her with them, but as they came as well, she came to the reception, then Daniel took her home when she got tired.
I definitely dont expect kids to be invited and would always check beforehand.
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Skyflame
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Posted: 15 July 2007 at 10:14am |
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My best friend is getting married at the start of November and I am bridesmaid. My parents are also invited but partially since it is out of town and they can look after Caleb. Children are not invited to this wedding with our boy being the exception. Mum and Dad are going to look after him while we are at the reception, so we can have a night off.
I know she has had some issues with people expecting to have their kids come but I think most of them have now accepted that it is a chance to have a night off and relax without the kids in tow.
I have no problems with kids at weddings as long as they are reasonably behaved, although unless they are breastfed it can be nice to be able to enjoy the reception without them.
I would never take my kids to a wedding they werent invited to, and would also check if they weren't included on the invite.
I would still go to a wedding my kids werent invited to as long as they were old enough to be looked after by someone I trusted.
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busymum
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Posted: 15 July 2007 at 2:48pm |
skyflame wrote:
I know she has had some issues with people expecting to have their kids come but I think most of them have now accepted that it is a chance to have a night off and relax without the kids in tow. |
A lot of people make comments like this, IMO it is a dumb comment to make - as though the parents can't make up their own minds if they want a night off.
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Sarah Beth
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Posted: 15 July 2007 at 3:22pm |
arohanui wrote:
How do you feel about having children at weddings?
I think most kids love being at the ceremony. Obviously sometimes babies can cry, but thats when parents should take them out. |
Unfortunately every wedding I have been to where children were invited, there was a young child that cried through the ceremony. I get that the mum wants to see the ceremony but honestly, the last one we couldn't hear a thing as the child was right behind us and I could see the bride getting frustrated as well. Some people just wont leave (even if a scary pregnant women glares at them  ).
We had no children at all at our wedding. Because of this my SIL didn't come as she didn't feel welcome if her kids weren't. That was her choice and we stipulated no children and told her a year before the wedding this would be the case.
I have no problems if we are invited to a wedding without Jack, and would never turn up with him anyway
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Posted: 15 July 2007 at 3:39pm |
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That is my experience too Sarah, while I understand babies can't always be left. Having a baby cry thru the speeches at the reception, was awful both for the baby and the guests. Some parents just don't get it.
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