Dating Advice

Why does he never get past the first coffee?? Personally I'd find that pressure awful and probably freeze up!
Theres that table for 6? dating service which seems a little more laidback.

What sports is he into? There are tramping clubs, kayaking clubs, etc that have fair bit of female participation.
What about a night course? He could take a language or a cooking class and see who he meets? He'd pick up some awesome skills too

I've got a sister in law in the same situation (except she's a gym nut) shall we set them up

Where does he live? My sister in law is single too!!!

Tell him to join the wonderful world of the NZ Dating messageboards.

I was a long time member of the messageboards there and so was my DP. I used to see his posts on there for a good 5-6 years before we even met.    

You can really get an insight into how a person ticks by how they express their opinions, how they react to certain subjects and how they interact with each other on that level.

If he puts himself out there, others will notice, read what he has to say and eventually if he gets around to meeting someone for coffee, it's less awkward.

Same with the NZ Dating events, a good place to meet others from the messageboards in an informal setting where there are lots of single people.

LOL there y'go CuriousG OB might be just what he needs
Keep us posted k I'm totally interested in how it all turns out!

Four_eyes wrote: i found nzdating awful for me personally:( but findsomeone was good and that's how i met my husband..

nzdating is awful isn't it! It's so sleazy and most people are just looking for sex or they're already married, in a relationship, secretly bisexual or wanting you to do something disgusting to them.

There are some really great people on the messageboards, but the general folk are just looking to get laid usually.

nzdating isn't that bad. There are lots of weirdos on there yes but me and DH met on there. I also met my now best friend on there too it's just a case of weeding out the nutters, but thats no different from real life really

I also met a few nutters from NZDating, but then finally... I met my DH off there too
We've been together 5 years and married for 2 and a half. There are some decent ones still left out there.

Yeah, parts of it are awful, but I meant to add that I met my DP there and he isn't a nutter and neither am I!

Like Stacey said, you just have to weed out the perverts and the weirdos, and there are HEAPS to weed out, but there are still genuine people on there.

Infact, we're still on there, under a couples profile!    (not one of THOSE couples, looking for extras in the bedroom though, just to keep in touch with old friends and post on the messageboards sometimes)

I agree that coffee on a first date is waaay too much pressure. I reckon the best first date is going to a interesting play or for something different Jess and I spent one of our date nights recently going to see Dai Henwood the comedian perform. It was only $20! The cool thing about doing something like that (especially comedy because you can have a couple of drinks during to break the ice) is you don't feel the pressure to talk right away. Instead if you find something funny or something you want to point out over the roar of laughter from the crowd you can lean in and can talk right in their ear to be heard over the noise which gets you close to each other. Then if you go for dinner or drinks or coffee afterwards you have an instant easy topic to talk about. No pressure to rely on boring "what do you do" or "what school did you attend" topics.