DH is getting the chop!

cuppatea wrote: KA, my DH has a fear of needles, blood etc so it's not so much where the surgery is, it's more having surgery. He would probably be more keen on the idea if he could have a general. He's never said no, when I was pregnant he said he would think about it. I decided to get an IUD so that we had no worries about an accident (well hopefully we won't be that 1%) so I haven't raised it since cos it's not necessary at the moment. They would probably suggest he waited till he was a bit older anyway.

fair point..I didnt think about fear of needles..if you hate needles it would certainly be a hard thing to do:(!

I'm getting mad at people telling me to wait till I'm older..I'm 32 married with two kids but apparently three is the magic number lol! just annoys me they think they can decide when is a good age!

DH had his done about 6mths ago, he was 29. it was $90 for the first consultation and just over $300 for the actual procedure. the dr didn't ask him anything about his private life....ie kids or married

the whole op took aabout 30-40mns and he was back to work a few days later.

i would've liked a #3, but DH was dead against it so i went along with him. so far i've had 2 different mediums tell me there's another baby there for me, so we'll see     DH never went back for his 2nd and 3rd test so he can't blame me if a miracle happens LOL   

i dont think id want another but i guess you never know. what are the options for freezing sperm? anyone know. might be worth me looking into now i think about it. lol

I am not sure what would happen if something happened to one of our children, But the decision has been made and I am all for it.

The thought of being pregnant again freaks me out and I never want to go there again.

Odette we had a few miscarriages and also had trouble concieving. It was devastating to lose that little blobs and I cant even imagine how it will tear me apart if I have to lose my two kids. And if something happens I might regret Grant having the snip as I really cant imagine what I will feel.

However I also know I dont really want to go through another pregnancy. That waiting until 12 weeks, wondering if this will be our baby or is this going to land up in heartache. dealing with the depression afterwards. That is just not for me anymore. And I cant put our "surviving" child through that. Or what if you lose both?

For us we did say if we want another one we will adopt. We looked at it before McKayla and both of us have no problems adopting. It will be a child coming from the heart not the tummy. But I do know having more kids right now is just not on and I physically cant carry another child willingly.

Dont even know if I am making sense today. Anyway time for Andrew's nap.

Odettenz wrote: Don't you guys worry about what would happen if (God forbid) something happened to one of your children? I know it's an awful thing to say, but if I lost a child I would want another, to try help heal that gaping hole it would leave in my life. I know you can't replace them, but I'm sure it would help give you the will to keep going. That's why I would never let DH have the snip-it's so final.

nope..i could never replace them and i dont think for me having another would help me heal:( although if i had just one child and was then childless i guess it might be different..?

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hehe ive now talked DH into freezing sperm. lol. he has really good sperm motility and all the jazz so apparently it will freeze really well. he is definitly getting the snip cos it is still pretty reliable. 1 in 1000 after 3 -ve sperm tests seems pretty good to me compared to birth control that i cant really take anyway. but that way if something happens we arent screwed if we change our minds. im really glad this topic came up. lol. the jadelle implant lasts 5 years anyway so our youngest will be near 5 when DH gets it done anyway