Discipline.. What do you do?

Um we really could be a bit more on the same page but it seems to work well enough. We have a naughty corner that Jack gets sent to. He gets two warnings unless its really bad (hurting someone) when he goes straight there. We try to praise him as much as possible for good behaviour. He has to say sorry when he comes out as well. Jack gets let away with a bit more when i'm in charge, Ben expects him to clean up any mess he makes and stuff.

With Caprece she just gets told no and removed from whatever shes doing that is naughty. Thats enough for her age. Although she did have a spell in time out when she played with poo and then climbed all through my clothes she had just pulled out of my drawers

Willie doesn't discipline the kids, he lets them get away with murder, but the nanny and I both do time out with the gremlins, not in a naughty corner as such, more just removing them from the situation. With the gremlins it's usually for hitting each other or getting physical and it's as much a safety thing as discipline.

Maya has a sticker chart and she gets a sticker if she does her chores etc. If she's "naughty" she gets sent to her room to cool off.

At the moment with Spencer we tell him no and explain why. Like "no don't play with the electic socket its dangerous", "no don't poke the cat she will scratch you". In my supernanny book it says that it is good to get into the habit of explaining why they shouldn't do something, they won't understand at this age but they will understand the difference in tone and you will be on auto pilot when it comes to explaining when they are old enough to understand.
Now sometimes I say no and he stops what he's doing but most times he stops then just starts again 2 secs later so I pick him up and take him somewhere.

I've tried ignoring Spencer if he has done something bad, like trying to rip my nose off my face, but he doesn't care and is quite happy to play on his own. So its more just saying no and distraction for us at the moment.

I forgot to say that I also used to apply natural consequences at a young age (and try to now as well)... (except in the case where 'logical consequences' are more appropriate!)

Say she keeps throwing her spoon on the floor. Well then I don't pick it up.


This is quite a good article about natural and logical consequences.

Oh I like that...and I use it now too in some cases. For example recently DD has become fussy breakfast eater...wont eat any thing at all. So this weekend she started to say that her tummy hurts and she is hungry way before lunch time. I told her that her tummy hurts because she didnt have breakfast...and gave her fruit to eat until lunch...which she ate!!

This morning again same thing, didnt want breakfast. I asked her if she wanted a sore tummy and wanna o to doctors? she said no...and then I told her that she has to hav breakfast. And tho she made a fuss she ate half of what was infront of her!!

Kandice Jack has only been saying sorry for about the last month. Every time he came out I would get him to give me a hug and tell him to say sorry and it eventually worked. He also gets sent until he calms down.

Kylah probably understands a lot more than you think, so removing her from the situation and explaining will help. The thing with at this age is that they might know they aren't suppose to do it but they just don't have the brain power to stop themselves (a bit like me and chocolate lol). Knowing that makes things a bit easier for when it seems like they just won't learn.

Would he read a book on discipline? What I did was read a whole lot of parenting books then found a couple that I liked and felt summed up how I wanted to parent- then I got DH to read them

It worked well for us. We still go back to them when one of the girls goes through a rough patch or we feel we aren't dealing with situations as well as we should be. I've read 'How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so they will talk' about 5 times now!!

DH and I are on same page with this....and in time I can see time out coming...but havent needed it yet really....

if she is naughty we sit Ella on her butt - eg remove her from the situation etc and turn her around and sit her down, come down to her level, all the while telling her NO and / or "that was naughty we do not do that." then we walk away....you can see her wheels in her head turning about why she got told off....

She also gets a warning for some things - eg: she has this horrid habit of dribbling her drink when she is done or bored with it - and looks straight at you when she does it - I cannot stand it! ....she gets a warning that the cup WILL be taken off her if she does it again - and if she does (50% of the time!) then I walk over remove it from her and tell her at the same time that it is being taken because she was spilling her drink. Usually we have tears but as I walk away she gets over herself pretty quickly

We also follow our DCs method that if she bites, scrathces or anything similar she gets told off, accompanied by "that is naughty we do not hurt people like that" and "now say sorry to mummy / daddy / bubba etc" she then comes to whoever she hurt and pats them ( a DC thing) and usually gives a cuddle - this is her sorry.

She really does understand what she is and is not meant to do and the fact that she hurt someone.

She has also been taught that when another child (one in particular - her best friend ugh!) at DC hurts her she is to yell "stop" and put her hand out like a stop sign (sooo cute) and an adult will intervene - she is not to retaliate. THis has been working really well for weeks now....and is totally cute to watch..... and we have been able to stop the scarred faces etc as a result....total love hate relationship between them