Do I have to be weighed?

Crikey - I have seen your belly shots and you are NOT a big girl!

I would tell her that you aren't wanting to be weighed as it is stressing you out. I guess the thing is that you have such a short time left and some people do actually lose weight in the last week or so (sign of bubs coming apparently!) So you might want to know about htat. Also if you put on a lot of weight suddenly tat can signal extra fluid and stuff like that. But if it is stressing you then it isn't good for you or baby!

I think it is really bad that she congratulates you when you lose weight though. Mine says that my weight gain is good becasue I am keeping it really low (believe me, I am much, much bigger than you!), but she would never suggest that I try to lose any!

I was thinking about lying today when I see her, as she doesn't see the scales when I stand on them. But then I think 'that's not right, I should say something'.

I have only put on about 10-15kg so far, but I know I've put on heaps lately as I've been really really hungry.

I tried to say no the first time I saw her, but she was err quite forceful.

Thanks ladies, I will talk to her today about it.

It does have it's purpose, you're right, but I don't feel it has a purpose anymore. I know my body well and if I were to be gaining heaps of weight due to fluid, I would let her know. I have scales at home too.

I am definitely a big person, I'm a size 16-18 and I weigh over 100kg at the moment.

MW said when women are over that 100kg mark they aren't allowed to put ANY weight on. Not sure if that's right or not..

it's good to have done to make sure you aren't putting on extra fluid etc. however.. if you read ANYWHERE.. you wil find that the recommended weight gain during pregnancy is 10 - 15kgs.. which is what you have done. maybe for extremely overweight women it would put extra health risks into the picture for them.. however, i am sure you are not falling in that category at all!

and yes.. you will have put on weight more steadily in the last few weeks and that will continue, so too right that you will be hungrier as well.. the last 4 - 6 weeks are the time when baby grows lots lots bigger, and lays down all their brown fat underneath their skin and gets nicely chubba, which also helps them control their temperature once they're out of their mummy-incubator, hence why scrawny babies like my two had a few temp probs.   

If you don't want to be weighed, tell her that you feel uncomfortable about it, and ask her if there is any specific reason she has for insisting that you do it. If you aren't showing any signs of risks for pre-eclampsia, then tell her this is the last weight you want done unless you start showing any signs of danger - i which case you will have this last one to go by.

Some midwives do get stuck in the ways they do things. others are more easy going. sometimes, there isn't any really specific reason apart fromt he fact that it's just what they've always done.

i was never weighed when i was pregnant. my mw said she didn't weigh her clents because even if they did put on heaps of weight, there wasn't much they could do about it until after the baby was born so there was no point in worrying about it. you are not too big! you are growing a baby in there, it's normal to put on weight and 10-15 kg is only the average so it's still normal to put on more than that.

and oh yeah if anyone told me i was overweight id slap them, your not over weight renee your bump is lovely.
im not small prepregnancy but i was happy thats all that should matter.

thought Id add I was at least 85kg prepregnancy so id be pretty close to if not over 100kg right now.

Edited by haleighsmum

You don't have to be weighed - my mw's never bothered with it because the other tests they do are far more indicative of how things are going (that's what they told me).

Average weight gain is 14kg and 500g per week for the last couple of months. A lot of people stop gaining weight 2 weeks before the baby is going to come but that's not worth getting weighed every week for.

lilnutnut wrote: I was looking a pics of my honeymoon a year ago and where has that skinny bitch gone I want her legs and my face was so much smaller. I know it is normal to gain weight but why do we need to gain it on our bum thighs and face is this helping the baby

Nutnut the face weight is all fluid and goes pretty soon after baby is born - I don't like it either but it's nice to know it doesn't always hang around! (Now for this tummy though... )

My midwife never weighed me, the OB did, but if I'd said no I'm sure he would have let me get away with it.

I put on 23kg having the gremlins, lord only knows how since I threw up every day for 32 weeks, but somehow.... I was too heavy for the OB's scales at m 36 week visit, it kept reading 'error' - but I knew how much I weighed coz my scales at home could cope (so I wasn't thaaaaat fat!)

If you have an epi in labour the anaesthatist will ask how much you weigh to get the dosage of anaesthetic right, but they shouldn't be jdgemental about it. I'm sure I'm not the biggest woman he's ever put a line in (altho I must be up there somewhere at full term with the gremlins!)

My MW never weighs me but I always do at home anyhow. SO far I have put on 16kgs where as with DD I put on 25!!
The other night on the telly a baby elephant was born and they said that it was 81kgs, and I said hey thats the same as me....a few minutes later my 5 year old nephew went..."so Aunty Charlotte....does that mean you weigh the same as an elephant? Wow thats heavy!"
I kind of walked into that statement didn't I!

Try not to worry about it, sounds like you have done really well with the amount you have put on and you are so close now unless you bloat up with fluids and gain like 2-4kgs in one week it shouldn't be an issue

Hon, I am over 100kg and my mw has never said anything about not being allowed to put weight on! All she has said is that it makes the birth a whole lot easier for bigger women if they can minimise the weight they put on, by remaining active and eating sensibly - and not doing the 'eating for two' thing. I think what you have gaines sounds really good. your MW needs a slap.