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JoJames 
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 Posted: 10 March 2010 at 9:42pm |
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Mine did that at 33 weeks with my first, she went on holiday for 4 weeks over my due date, and she said that my MW would be whoever was on call at the time (in a practice with 4 MW) so not cool and I was pretty hormonal at the time.
Anyway what I learnt is that the group practices usually will have lists of MW and whether or not they have room for more ladies in your due date month cause they lose ladies due to moving, MC, or prem babies, so if you don't have any luck just ring around the practices and see.
I actually found the MW I ended up with was amazing and I have her this time.
Good luck and H&H rest of your pregnancy
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mybeautiful3
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Posted: 10 March 2010 at 10:14pm |
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This is so sad to hear :( You build up a relationship with your carer & look forward to the exciting day of baby's birth & then to have the relationship severed-you are rightfully fustrated!!!! I am a Doula-in-training & the importance of continuity of a trusting & caring support team during your pg & birth is so very vital!
I do hope you find some who is truly wonderful & caring from Birthcare who will look after you for the rest of this special pg journey & be an incredible support to you when you birth your baby!
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AandCsmum
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Posted: 10 March 2010 at 11:18pm |
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I am horrified!! I think it warrants a complaint as well!!
I have been passed on in both my pregnancies. Both very legitimate reasons! IN both cases I was given a back up & even though I hadn't established a great relationship as I was 4 weeks out with Alia, I still had the support of the whole office & one main person assigned to me.
When I was given a back up they arranged my next appointment with them & made sure they were up to speed with how I was & where I was in my preg.
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Zaylah
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Posted: 11 March 2010 at 5:41am |
Just lots of  s for you!
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RinTinTin
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Posted: 11 March 2010 at 3:18pm |
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Um, don't know if anyone has said this yet, but you would have signed a contract with your MW at the beginning that is in essence an agreement to care for you. Part of this agreement is that if she can no longer look after you it is her duty to find someone who can look after you.
So although that fact doesn't really help your situation, I think you should consider laying a complaint as this is out of order on her part IMO and she has broken the terms of the agreement.
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emz
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Posted: 11 March 2010 at 8:23pm |
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I personally think that's disgusting, if she told you that she was keeping you on as her only client, how could it possibly be such a hassle to keep you going until at least the birth!
I would definitely lay a complaint, it's not up to you to find a replacement, that's her job and she gets paid to make sure there is a backup for emergencies etc.
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sunnyhoney
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 11:23am |
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She has contacted me this morning via txt asking how I am getting on...I haven't replied yet...don't know what to say to her (would rather just ignore her as I feel so let down by her actions)....
Ladies, would there be much point in laying a complaint when she technically isn't a midwife anymore??
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bubalys
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 11:34am |
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Oh thats terrible, Have you found someone new? If not I have two numbers (am in similar area to you) of some lovely midwifes.
let me know and i'l get them to you asap
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sunnyhoney
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 11:36am |
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Thanks bubalys, I'll keep you in mind.
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MindyW
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 12:47pm |
I'd text her back saying how disappointed and hurt you are by her actions. She will still be a midwife though wont she? just not practising at this stage... I personally wouldnt complain- but thats just me, you need to do what you feel is right. The others are right she has been unprofessional but due to unplanned circumstances- she should never have said that she will keep you on as the only client if there was a possibility of not being able to see that through! Though maybe her mum's health condition had deteriorated or changed negatively..... 
Sorry i think I'm playing devils advocate....  Basically I think you need to do what your gut is telling you, but I do think you need to tell her that she has badly let you down
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littlestar
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 2:12pm |
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Hmmm - If it were me I'd want to say that I was upset and disappointed at her actions - I mean you've been left with no LMC only a few weeks out from birth.
We're all thinking of you during what must be a hugely stressful time!
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emz
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 2:52pm |
I would complain - regardless of her reasons for not being able to be your midwife anymore, she has a DUTY to you to find you a new one or give you as much support as needed to find one and feel comfortable. I mean, god, wouldn't most normal people do that, let alone a person who is in a profession that requires so much empathy?! 
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BugTeeny
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 4:07pm |
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Gosh, I only worked retail before having Hannah, but I made sure I spent time calling my clients and letting them know I was leaving and inviting them to come in and meet the other staff members for future business.
It's just courtesy!
*hugs*
I hope you can find someone soon.
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Emmecat
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Posted: 12 March 2010 at 7:58pm |
Totally worth laying a complaint. Absolutely 100%.  This is unprofessional behaviour- the issue isn't just that she's dumped you at this last stage and broken her contract...it's that she hasn't made sure she has a back up for you . It is NOT your job to find a replacement (altho obviously you are now going to have to).
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kmarie
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Posted: 13 March 2010 at 2:22pm |
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Aw you poor thing, that seems really unfair! Granted we don't know the full story and her reasons are legit, but I totally agree that she hasn't dealt with it in a particularly professional way. I think to be fair to both of you, you at least need to let her know how upset you are about it all (even a reply to the text something along the lines of 'not so great actually, feeling quite stressed about finding a replacement midwife so late in my pregnancy. Thanks for asking tho.')
Hugs hun, let us know how you go with finding someone new x
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sunnyhoney
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Posted: 13 March 2010 at 10:46pm |
That's probably a good way of wording it, thanks Kmarie 
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Dumped by Midwife
