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    Posted: 05 May 2007 at 7:36pm
Every now and again everything I do kinda overwhelms me. I keep getting feelings of guilt that I'm not spending enough time with the kids, or the kids individually... I know I'm a good mum overall but the job is just so exhausting! What do you do when the guilt comes on?
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I think about it and then try and put some time aside to just spent time with McKayla. (easy as I just have the one.)

I am feeling really quilty lately as I am spending a lot of time studying and then cleaning house so she is missing out a bit, but going to date my child for a week after exams and just do kiddy stuff and totally spent all my time with her.

House will have to wait a bit and already told hubby he will have to help more that week as McKayla is going to be treated like her mommy's princess and just do kiddy stuff with her.


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I eat chocolate to ease the guilt.....hence also having to go to weight watchers. seriouslyt I think part of the job description for being a mum was the constant feelings of guilt. For me, I've found making a schedule for us during the day helped. I could clean the house knowing that i had time for the boys scheduled during the day, and then spend time with the boys later - with the schedule kinda giving me "permission" to not clean if everything hadn't been done.
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Originally posted by busymum busymum wrote:

What do you do when the guilt comes on?


squash it and carry on!
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You're doing great. I love you lots. Seriously, you're doing great.
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You just have to look at things and realise that you can only do your best - which from chovynz comment you are. Remember you are one person making a difference in your childrens lives, you need to look after you or you will not be able to give your family all that they need. Take a break - you do not need to be wonder woman to be great!!
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big hugs busymum you are agreat mum
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