your village?

I love this I consider mnie my church the people there are so loving and caring. In saying I don't just trust anyone there or anything silly, but I guees that is where my most of my kids friend's are so we have most of our play dates with them. Now Alan i goign ot be going to kindy I guess it will grow my village if that make's scence.
Awsome topic tho chick.

we live extended family anyways - and i was raised in one also with my great aunty living with us for 17 years (so always 3 generations in the house) and also with mums penpal (since she was 11) in USA coming over for 6 months every 2 years and we refer to her as my "Aunty", we knew her family as ours, her parents were my grandparents in my mind.... and still do refer to them as my american family to this day. She then adopted a chld from india further expanding our "village" and outlook. We grew up with mums boss (20 plus years ago) and his wife who had no family here calling us their family - which raised some eyebrows as they were "hongkonese" (family joke!) - they called my grandma theirs, and we called their Goopaw (great aunt) ours too....talk about a mix up trying to explain to people!!!

Then we have my best friend who is cambodian, who dotes on ella (and is teaching her cambodian and only speaks to her in cambodian on purpose!), friends here and overseas who have been friends for years and are closer than family at times and their kiddies, as well as friends who spoil Ella rotten.

Ella will know so many aunties and uncles - am an old fashioned and she will be raised to call adults aunty and uncle - even those off OB (Aunty Emma and Aunty KAtherine etc!!!) as well as family....

our "village" is already around to help raise Ella....I dont pretend to be able to do it on my own....theres always her mum and dad for her...and then there will be all of the village people!!!

we have a wide world ethnic village around us....

we have aunty and uncle as well. at playcentre they encourage kids to just call adults by their first name and it actually made me a bit uncomfortable

lizzle wrote: we have aunty and uncle as well. at playcentre they encourage kids to just call adults by their first name and it actually made me a bit uncomfortable

That would just annoy me casue when kid's go to school they have to use Miss/ Mrs etch so why not had pre school although I noticed Kindy they use first name's. I not like that at all.

Mazzy I feel we are in the same situation as you. I dont like to call on my parents too much as they all work and have their own busy lives, even tho I know they wouldnt mind. And I have a few friends with kids but not enough to just ring up and say I'm having a bad day, can I drop Hannah off for a few hours.

Its quite sad isnt it. Might start work on building a village... All our neighbours are elderly so we dont have too much to do with them, but I like to think they would call us if they needed us, like when one of the nieighbours husbands had a fall and she couldnt get him up.

daikini wrote: When your family is in a different part of the country it is really hard to know who to reach out to.

I don't have any family to call on even they did live in the same town or country for that matter that why I find my church is so important. In saying that tho there is really only 3 ladies in our church that I would feel like i could really call on if I needed help and one of those is so busy I think I would feel really bad. Thank's for your take on the aunty thing I never thought of that so I think I might be a little more careful who they call aunty and uncle.
Hope you get into mainly music Becca we love our's so much it is almost the high light of our week someday's.

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Sound like you have an awsome friend there nikkiy

My village is my inlaws, my friends and my special coffee group of people off EBB. I think I could lean on any of those people if I needed to and to different levels they are part of Lily's life. Then I have the people on EBB and Ohbaby as well, I think that when ever people ask for help on these palces people answer it and I like that, it makes me feel safe.

When Brae was a baby we lived in a real village with a population of 42 & quadrupled between 9=5pm
Since moving into the big smoke my "village" now consists of mainly friends, my neighbours, brother, grandmother & IL's.

My friends are my village. I have really learnt that over the past few months when times have been a bit hard, kids have been sick, I've been sick, my friends have made sure we had a decent meal on the table, visited me in hospital, brought food to me in hospital, even ordered a nanny in an emergency when I was too sick to get out of bed. I have no family in Auckland, so my friends are like my family.

And most of them I met on here or have a presence here. So thanks guys, you rock, I couldn't survive without you.