Feeling stressed - big rant ahead !!

So I'm starting to feel a little stressed, and a lot of it is probably because of the hot weather and having so much to do, and all the hormones. Well, that's probably ALL of the reasons really... but on top of that, and I feel SO bad for saying this, I'm getting REALLY REALLY sick and tired of having a housemate, even though she's meant to be a mate of mine. She's got this new boyfriend of whatever, who I think is a really bad influence (although he is apparently coming all the way from Palmy to visit her), and drives around in an old bomb of a Ford station wagon, and stays at our house during the day while she's at work ! She lost her licence a few weeks ago for DUI, and I understand the frustration of not having a car, but it's her own fault really. Plus, in the first trimester I asked her not to smoke inside (she was doing it in her room, and it wasn't like we'd said it was OK in the first place!), and she agreed to stop and did (and went outside on the deck)... but then after we got back from our trip to Canada, about a week later, it started again !?!?! I can't for the life of me think of why the F*** she'd think it would be ok to do this when I already said it makes me sick ?? Plus who wants their developing baby around all that nasty secondhand smoke. Anyway, Roland asked her if she'd started doing it again just so we could be sure, she said yes, and so he's asked her (yes, for the second time) to stop and it looks like she has. I can only really put it down to the boyfriend, but I could be overreacting?? In all of this I somehow feel like I'm being really mean and nasty, but another example is that our dishwasher is all of a foot away from the sink right in the middle of the kitchen bench... and she never empties it, or puts dirty dishes in it - (well, almost never, maybe once a week!) and so they sit on the bench or in the sink. Then there's the fridge - she never throws anything out. And I don't know if I pointed it out, but with the bf visiting and being here during the day when she's at work - it means he has her key and can come and go as he pleases, which I'm not entirely happy about as our house is also on the market - which compounds the whole issue of them being so damn messy. So now I feel like having a lie down and a great big fat cry, coz I feel so paranoid and bitchy and just want things to run smoother - anybody want to buy a half acre section with a giant garden and two story house ??? Plus even our cats don't come inside as much anymore, except for blondie (dumbo cat) Nina... and I miss them heaps, and am going to miss my budgies and ratties too when they go to new homes later this month.


GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR !!! *bangs head on desk*

WHY WHY WHY !!!

This Classic "Help I'm going insane - so how on earth am I going to cope with a real live baby!?!" Moment brought to you by 2 Minute Noodles.

*sigh*

Jax

Hrmmmm... kick her out and blame your hormones???

Why don't you let her know you are getting stressed about little things like that, without pinning it all on her. Perhaps make a big deal about the house being on the market and if she has any respect for you she should be more considerate.

But yeah, it's pretty normal in pregnancy to get really frustrated with people. I absolutely despised my flatmate when I was pregnant, despite him being the sweetest guy in the world. I don't know what got into me!?

Well... as well as what I mentioned before, Rols and I have decided to give her notice tonight or tomorrow night, approx. 5 weeks. Although if the smoking starts up again, that's it - no notice needed. Plus I've also just discovered upon checking my bank account that she is almost three weeks behind in rent, and hasn't paid the latest power or phone. I *SO* need my own space !!!

Well you already know what I think...

*BIG HUGS*

kick her out kick her out i,ve had the ;i,ll pay tomorrow; flatmate and the stress isnt worth it hope u feel better soon

I agree just tell her its not working out. A good friend came to live with us once and I would never have her back again she was such a slob. I ended up telling her that rob and i were so used to living just by ourselves we found it really hard living with another person and it wasnt her we just needed our space.

Good point Nikki. Yep, you def have a good reason to ask her to leave now. I used to live with friends and I would never do it again - too much stress.

What was her reason for not having paid any rent? Shes obviously had some money if she was able to pay you some last night and she is working too?

unfortunately some people think that becasue you are friends you will let it slide. Personally, I also would HATE the idea of her b/f being there when no one else is. *shudder* You're well shot of her. Do you think your friendship will be salvaged? Good luck!

friends don't take advanatage of friends...simple as that Jax. Kick her sorry a$$ to the curb

(sorry, been at home watching too much Ricki)