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Posted: 13 February 2006 at 10:01pm |
I don't know what to say, and I don't have anywhere else to get this out but here. I apologise in advance if this upsets anyone.
I got a text message today from a friend in Sydney telling me to ring another friend urgently. So I did, and her husband told me that they lost their little boy last night. He was six months old. It looks like cot death.
What am I supposed to say? This couple were such great support to me when I lost our baby a few weeks ago (I stayed at their house, I have photos of Maya with their little boy not six weeks ago). I am speechless. Absolutely gobsmacked. Sometimes life sux!
Sorry to start such a depressing thread, but I needed to get this out, and I know you ladies are such a supportive lot 
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daikini
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Posted: 13 February 2006 at 10:04pm |
 Emma, how heartbreaking! And very scary. No idea what you can say to them, but I agree with you: life sure can suck!
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Posted: 13 February 2006 at 10:05pm |
Oh My God I am so very sorry to hear that. Lots of love to you and your friends. What a very awful thing to happen. It makes me go all cold 
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Posted: 13 February 2006 at 11:36pm |
Maybe just tell them that you don't know what to say but you are here to listen, and to give a shoulder to cry on..
That is so, so sad big ****HUGS**** to all of you.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 6:40am |
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That just brought tears to my eyes, how very very horrible. I guess all you can do is let them know you are there for them when they need you. How awful, it really goes to show how fickle life is and how you need to enjoy every second you get to spend with your children. Love and huge hugs to you, you will be in my thoughts all day.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 7:09am |
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Oh my Gosh! That brought tears to my eyes, and I am not the one to cry. Emma, you poor thing (that seems to be underestminateing the magnitude of what's going on, but ...), it must be so hard to think of what to say to your friends. I can't imagine what must be going on, for you as well as your friends. I'll be thinking of you too today and hope that you get comfort from that (in some small small way)
I just don't know what to say....
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 7:49am |
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Oh Emma, big hugs to you and your friends,
In a time like this there isn't really a lot you can say to them, but they know you are there for them and that they can cry on your shoulder and they will take comfort from that.
come and talk to us as you need to as im sure this is just as hard for you too.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 8:32am |
Thank you all so much  I didn't sleep much last night, I just kept thinking about little Kalen, it all seems so surreal. A group of us have all arranged to put some money together for some grocery vouchers for them, not much in the grand scheme of things I know, but we thought more useful than flowers. My Mum is sending flowers as well.
I'm going to call them again later today, they get the autopsy results back then so I think it will be a tough day. It's just so bizarre, I met this lady online a few years ago, and have met her many times, was there all thru her pregnancy with Kalen, and Maya loves her older kiddie to bits. I just can't believe it.
Out of the mouths of babes this morning tho - I was talking to Maya and explaining that baby Kalen had gone to heaven (she asked why I was crying) and she said "Just like our baby Mama" I guess I underestimated how much she understands what's going on around her.
Thanks again ladies for all your support, I felt yucky posting this thread as it is so morbid, but I need to process things in my head and this is my way of dealing with it I guess.
And Lizzle, it does help to know that you are thinking of us 
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:48am |
I cant start to imagine what they are going through . My thoughts are with you and your friends
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:52am |
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I'm sorry to hear about Kalen, Emma. **Hugs**
I find when I am grieving that I just write and write and write and get all my feelings and thoughts out and I feel better after that
I am amazed at Maya! It's amazing how they remember things and tell it back to you in their own little way -
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:54am |
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As a gift Emma, you said they had an older kiddie..I know they have some really neat kids books that relate to dealing with loss, maybe you could get them one of those.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:59am |
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Maybe, with your permission of course, it might help the older child if their parents (or you) said Kalen is looking after your baby now...
just a random thought.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 1:30pm |
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Oh Emma that is so sad - it has bought tears to my eyes. Like everyone else said to just be their for your friends and share their tears. I have a wee poem that I will post for you that you could maybe do up nicely for them and give to them alittle later when the hurt isnt quite so raw for them. I gave it to my friend when her son died and she loved it. I will dig it out asap
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 1:32pm |
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Found it
In a castle just beyond my eye,
my baby plays with angel toys that money cannot buy.
Who am I to wish him back into this world of strife? No - play on my baby, you have eternal life.
At night when all is silent and sleep forsakes my eyes, I'll hear his tiny footsteps come running to my side. His little hand caress me so tenderly and sweet,
I;ll breath a little prayer, close my eyes and embrace him in my sleep.
Now I have a treasure that I rate above all others, for I have known true glory - I am still his Father (or mother if you want to change it)
Edited by k&jsmum
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 1:34pm |
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That's beautiful, Marlene.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 1:41pm |
That is beautiful Marlene. I am thinking of making a scrapbook page with the pics I have of Kalen to send to them in a few weeks when it is not quite as raw, and that poem is perfect. Thank you
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 2:05pm |
Oh Emma that is soooo sad. Life really is just a precious thread. Thinking of you all, i can't even begin to imagine the pain your family and your friends family is feeling right now.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 2:08pm |
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Aw Emma, am so sorry to hear that. Big hugs. Will be thinking of you and your friends. Really makes you appreciate your own little ones aye
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 3:10pm |
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oh that is so sad and that poem made me cry. Just the thought of losing a child makes me feel sick. I know when my friend lost her baby she was really upset because people felt they couldnt talk about her and she wished they would. My thoughts are with you all.
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Posted: 14 February 2006 at 3:28pm |
Thank you
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For once I am speechless
