What if they like the same name?

Kinda. I have an Andrew John. When I had him I knew someone was that was pregnant at the same time. We had never discussed names at all. Turns out she was going to call her boy Andrew, but as I did she didn't.

Anyway she had her 2nd boy in 2006 and she called him Andrew John. She was told by a lot of people that she was silly for calling her boy the same as someone she knew but she said she was having that name no matter what.

Now I don't see her all that much (it has been over a year since I have seen her) I don't care all that much about it.

To be totally honest I wouldn't worry about it at the moment. Most people change their minds about names numerous times! You may change your mind or they may or you may both wind up having girls

DH wanted a name before I even fell pregnant- SIL knew and told him if she had a boy she was using it. We were really annoyed, then she had a girl so its was no big deal- but I was still a bit annoyed that she was planning on using it even though she knew DH wanted it. By the time I was due with DD1 though- we had both well and truly gone off the name so wouldn't have used it anyway.

my SIL used the only name we could agree on for a boy as well, and to be honest it really doesn't phase me. We weren't pregnant at the time and like others have said, this one could be a girl, and there will be other names we can come to agree on. Every chance that even if it is a boy he won't look like Jacob anyways! lol
If you're really worried about it maybe you could talk to them about it?

My SIL mentioned a name she liked for a girl that we wanted. I said we really liked that name and had thought of that too.

My SIL is the type of person who would call their child that because we wanted to. Anyway, I never bought it up again and they eventually changed their mind.

It so happens they went on to have two boys!

And...we had a boy too so neither of us have used that name.....yet

you could mention to her that it's the only name you two have agreedo n, but in the end you can't "bags" a name. So maybe explain to her that .. well, she can go ahead and use it, as long as she knows that chances are if you have a boy you too will be using that name.

We went into negotiation! My sister was due 3 months before me and we had a "what are your top 5 names" conversation. Turns out that Daniel was her #2 name - it was our only boy's name! I ended up saying "these are the names we're thinking of" - Daniel for a boy and Elia for a girl. Turns out that she was thinking Eliza for a girl (family name). She ended up calling their girl a different name. I feel guilty that she might have changed names cos Elia and Eliza were similar, but I don't really know! She had a similar conversation with her BIL when her first was born, as he was expecting a baby a few months later!

We have another boy in coffee group called Daniel. I briefly wondered about not using Daniel, but decided it didn't really matter!

My SIL asked our permission for their name for their DS2 before I was even pregnant because she knew I liked the first name and the middle name is my DH's. I had taken the first name off my list anyway because it's too popular and I didn't want anything 'top 10'.

Then when I was in hospital the night after having JJ, I was sharing a room with a girl who'd also had a boy. I asked what they'd called their boy and they said they hadn't decided yet and asked after ours, and when I said "Jeremy John" they both went "ohhh Jeremy! I love that!" So I said they were welcome to use it, it's not like we're likely to see them again!

LOL this happened to me and I won

Years ago when Maya was a baby there was a lady on the Huggies site who called her baby Eilish Sienna and I really loved the name Sienna so it was in the back of my mind.

When I was preg with the gremlins Willie named Mercedes and I had to choose Sienna's name. I had a friend who had "baggsed" the name for her next daughter and I knew she would lose the plot if I used it, but no matter how many baby name books I read I kept coming back to the same name, she just FELT like a Sienna. I should mention that at the time my friend was single, not pregnant and not planning to be any time soon so there was a good chance she might a) not ever have another baby b) have a boy next time or c) that her new partner might hate the name and she wouldn't end up using it. So I decided that coz I WAS pregnant, and I WAS having a girl and my partner DID like it that I would go with it. And I did. And my 'friend' hasn't spoken to me since I told her when I was about 6 mths pregnant with them.

I should point out too that I never said she couldn't use the name just coz I did, I have no issues with that, but apparently it wouldn't be 'special' for her coz I used it. For Heaven's sake, she's not the only Sienna in the world!

When I picked their middle names I wanted to make Jayde one of Sienna's and I have a friend with a Jayde so I asked her first and she was stoked, esp since I ended up using the same spelling she'd use.

I never mentioned names to sil because she was pregnant first and so didnt want to bags any - also we knew what we were having but didn't tell anyone so didn't want to give it away (having said that rhyley could be male or female) she did use a middle name I momenterely thought of but wasn't bothered as went off it.

A friend of mine got a dog and was going to call it Charlie, then she remember if I had another baby and it was a girl i wanted to call her Charleigh so she didn't call the dog it (Nice of her )

Yah I am kinda with Nikki here...who cares if cousins end up with the same name? years ago there were JOHN, JOHN SR and JOHN Jr....all in the same family!!??

I guess I have never been in that position so I dont know....Indians have many variety of names and lucky for me no one ever though of Zaara and I dont think there will be many Zaara's in either side of family.

I havnt chosen a name for this one yet as I dont know what we are having....and once I have chosen I am not telling any one...I dont care if my SIL and I end up with the same name (She is due three days before me)....because if I like a name (And DH and I dont like many) we will name our baby that and thats that!

Just wait and see.....she might end up with a girl!!