When is it a good time to try for No. 2

We have 22.5 months between ours, and at the moment its quite a nice gap, not sure I would want it too much closer but thats just me. My sister has 2.5 years and my SIL has 13 months!!

Hmm well ours is WAY smaller than we thought wed have. We were aiming for a 2 year age gap, but I fell pregnant in November with Baby 2 and we had our son in the June lol So there will be 14 months between them, we are not too bothered! They will be best friends!

I've got a 5 year gap. Alia is really helpful, although some times over bearing BUT she has started school so we get alone time during the day.

We certainly didn't plan it like that as it took us a lot longer than planned to get preg 2nd time around, so you might want to factor in that possibility?

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I personally think for your 1st baby to be at least a year old when you decide to conceive....Do abit of research on Sibling Toddler Rivalry, because alot of what is written is very true & if I had known then what I know now I definately would have made bigger gaps between my childrens births....I have a 18yr old & a 17yr old who do not get along, Plus I have a 30mth old & a 20mth old that probably would have ended up like my oldest girls if I never found out what the problem is which im dealing with now so hopefully it's not to late for them....Im not saying what im going thru will happen to everyone who has babies soon after the other but unless you know what your getting yourself into and you really need to have a hand on the situation because Sibling Rivalry is very real & it can affect our little darlings depending on how soon you decide to have your next bubba......Sorry if this sounds like a lecture but do keep it in mind.....

I asked the same question when we were thinking of TTC #2 and the answers were very varied. Personally I think that your children will either get on together or not no matter what the age gap as it depends on the type of personalities they have. I get on well with both my brothers now that we are older and one is 2.5yrs younger and the other 7yrs younger than me.

We will have about 26mth between our 2, I was hoping for about 2.5yrs but got impatient while waiting to TTC so started earlier than planned!

We have just over 2 and a half years and I quite like it. The oldest it a lot more independent, not needing to be with me all the time and able to look after herself a wee bit. It was nice having both girls at home for the first few months and when Keira started Kindy at 3 we were ready for a break.

Keira loves to help although at 3 can be a bit too helpful sometimes. It was hard for her not getting all the attention after having it for so long. I love watching Keiras interaction with Maddi when she was younger and and Keira was a lot of fun to have around during the pregnancy and had a pretty good understanding of what was going on.

I think there are positives to what ever age gap you want.
You just have to make it work.

We have 18mths between Dominic and Isobelle. I would have initially preferred two years but it is working out quite well. Its very busy and can be a bit hard when you have both of them wanting you at once, and neither can understand that they have to wait. And sometimes I feel a little sad about not spending as much time with either of them as I would like.
I think that under two years you get a lot less jealousy than right on that 2yr gap. More than 2yrs would be a bit easier in terms of already having one out of naps and the older child's language and comprehension being more advanced. But in the end it is what you think will suit your family.
Probably, healthier, easier on your body, to wait a year before concieving again.

Well, fingers crossed for this month, but we will have about a 3.5 year gap. Watching DD with a 7 month old on the weekend, I think she is ready to accept another baby into the house, she adored it and was ever so helpful.

I'm thinking about 2 1/2-3 years. Factors I think about - having MS with a toddler in nappies , my energy levels and the physical and emotional needs of the older child (I had wicked back problems while pregnant) and being able to have some time out (20 hours free ECE once they're 3). The mortgage is also a factor. I do sometimes wonder if I'm being selfish and whether they would have a much closer relationship if they were close together. I see my sister with a 10 month old and a 2 and a bit, and they get along so well. But you can't guarantee these things. I also think that next time will be my last pregnancy, so I want to be able to enjoy it and not so dead tired from being on call 24-7.

I'll be waiting until Thomas doesnt need to be in a pram all the time. Stuff getting a double pram!!! He's gotta be doing things by himself (pref at kindy) before I even consider it.
Matt wants to start TTC now - he is so dreaming. I just laughed at him and said he can have the baby instead of me ;)