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Just wondering what you would do , if you could earn alot more than your partner would you swap roles??? I can earn prob a good amount more than my dh and have just applied for a job if I get it then we will be swapping roles, a bit torn but think we would be way better off money wise, and the job I would still get to have plenty of time with the kids so thought if it all goes to plan we will give it a go... would you ???

Yes probably......PROVIDING.....he didn't just drop everything once I got home & then I had to do it. Fine once a week, like when I ask him to cook tea.

I do!! I would LOVE to be able to swap roles with my DH - and he 'says' he would too - especially as currently he doesn't like his job and I loved what I did ... but for us that is just not an option, as his salary is three times my previous salary - we just couldn't survive on my income alone.

I think it depends on your DH - mine would be great as a SAHD, and he's not the kind of man to have a problem with not being the main breadwinner. Having said that, I suppose the same things that bother me about being a SAHM could come to bother him in time too - and I think I might get a bit jealous of his time with DD...

Mmm, actually I think in a perfect world we would both work part-time!   

yep, I would, but there's no way that would happen, so I'll never have to walk the talk so to speak! good luck!

Yes but I'd set down some ground rules. ie that everything I do now gets done by him. and I'm not expected to pick up the slack on the weekend

my Dh would be brilliant..and would prob do everything while i was at work but i wouldn't leave E and the new baby full time..i would like to share roles but we cant really do that.. so yeah i would do it i guess but would prefer not to leave them full time.. but you still get heaps of time so sounds great?

i find it bizarre people would swap roles and not do the housework etc? my Dh is way better at that stuff than me:)

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We already have!

I earned about 4 times what DH did so when we got pg it was a mutual decision that I go back to work and he would be the SAHD.

Even though he is a student now, he will still be the primary care giver of both our children from next month when I return to work . DH "cooks" for Isabelle .. but I cook my own meals (and usually his if he wants a proper meal), im just better at cooking than him lol .. its no biggie, when he is in his SAHD role, he does housework, washing etc

Nope definitely no role-swapping here. I love being at home and DP would go mental. He can barely get through a weekend if he doesn't have heaps to keep him busy. I'd hate going out to work too.
Even if I could earn more than him, which is possible but not hugely likely, then we wouldn't do it.
In saying that he would be a great SAHD both with the kids and running the house.

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Yes absolutely, we always discussed that I'd take the first year off and he'd do the second year (this was when we were earning the same amount) which I know he would love to do but he just earns so much more now than that it's not feasible unfortunately. I wouldn't have had a problem as DH does all the cooking anyway and loves a clean house so he'd probably enjoy doing the housework more than I do.

I'm a bit biased though as I'm all for shared care and don't believe in those old fashioned ways of life i.e. a 'mans' role & 'womens' role.

When I'm working full time I earn more than DH, not a sginificant amount though, around $10k. I'm able to work part time in my position though and my work is more flexible than DH's so it makes sense for me to work part time and DH fulltime - he would struggle in his job working part time and would probably end up doing just as many hours as he does now but be paid less!

In saying that though I think DH would like to work part time (if there wasn't the pressure to do a full time workload) but I'd bet you anything his mum would end up coming over most days to look after DD and DH and do the housework!