What does you hubby/partner do at home?

What jobs does your hubby/partner do around the house? And what hours do they work?

We have been having "discussions" in our house at the hours Daniel has been working and I am getting super grumpy at doing EVERYTHING and him hardly seeing Hannah. He was leaving for work at 7.30am and getting home about 6.30pm. Now if he was getting paid a decent wage I wouldnt be so bothered but it works out to be about $10 an hour in the hand... We have come to a kind of compromise - he will now work 6am - 4.30pm so will see how that goes.

I realise that when he gets home he is tired and just wants to relax, but so do I!! But I still have to put Hannah to bed, do the washing etc... Plus he gets to do things for himself on the weekend (like car stuff) while Saturday and Sunday are just another day for me.

So other than having a bit of a rant (!) I was wondering if your partners are very helpful around the house!

Hey there,
I am in a similar situation to you Aimeejoy. I do ALL the house work, all the washing, cooking etc. The only thing that DH helps me with is doing the dishes but I have to ask him otherwise he will leave them to dry in the rack. Having said that he does do most of the renovations in the house i.e. painting for example as I don't want the fumes to harm the baby and he has gotten rid of some furniture in the house to make room for baby. He does have quite a stressful job and most days he just wants to sit down and watch the news etc etc but he has to understand that I work full time too AND I AM CARRYING HIS CHILD!! I do look forward to my maternity leave.

My DH promised me that he will help me more when I get bigger - I said that he better otherwise I will just hire a cleaner ha ha. I guess in some ways I prefer to do some things myself as I know that I will do a better job and on the odd occassion when DH has done something for me he has done the job half properly.

Hopefully things will change soon

Kent leaves for work at 7am, and gets home just before 6pm

he does the 6pm (if hes home, sometimes he has to work late) and the 10pm feed, and takes over completely on a friday night, (doing all the feeding, changing, early morning getting up) until i get up on a saturday morning

Kent will also look after Rhiannon most the day saturday so i can go do the things like grocery shopping etc. (will also help bath her if he is home when i do it)(will even get in the big bath on a weekend and have a bath with Rhiannon)

He also folds the nappies, does the dishes, will also get up once or twice through the week to do the 6am feed

but most importantly Kent gives Rhiannon and I lots of hugs and kisses and is always telling us he loves us.

hmmm Kent does more than i thought he did, i think tonight i am going to cook him a nice dinner and tell him how much i appreciate what he is doing for me.

Nathaniel leaves for the school just before 8am, and usually gets home around 5pm. Both the kids jump on him as soon as he gets home, so I help Nat detangle himself long enough that he can escape to the bedroom and get changed! Then he plays with them while I cook dinner. Oh, and Nat usually has more prep work to do during the evening as well.

We've agreed that I do the laundry and other housework, and Nat does the vacuuming and lawns, and we both do the dishes. I cook most nights, but thats more because we try to eat dinner around 5:30pm and Nat's not home in time to have it ready by then. He will barbeque the meat when the weather is warm enough for him to be outside that long, and he cooks in the weekends.

As far as caring for the kids goes, I organise most of it but I can say "Will you do this?" and Nat takes over... the only thing Nat really prefers me to do is to change Josiah's dirty nappies because I can hold the little wriggler stiller than he can! In the weekends, Nat does most of the general care (especially of Josiah) as the kids don't leave him alone.

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My hubby is an angel when it comes to these things....

Hubby works from 8am to 4.30 pm but most days he finishes any time between 2.30pm to 4pm. He comes home and my aunt (who looks after Zaara)leaves. So he entertaines Zaara and starts all the prep for dinner....
I come home at 5.15 - 5.30 and either look after Zaara or cook dinner, give Zaara a bath, iron or wash dishes, put Zaara to bed etc. Atish Also washes dishes and vacumes etc. On the weekend Atish and I clean the kitchen, bathroom, dust, do washing etc. Atish does spend a good chunck of Sat at soccer but he does loads of work around the house before and after. He also cuts the grass, cleans our cars etc.....

Man while I write this.....I feel like I do nothing!! LOL

But my main job is to look after and entertain Zaara. Dont get me wrong Aish spend time with her too...but when she gets grumpy.....I get her back.....quick.

my partner leaves house at 8.30 gets home at 5.30 sits on his butt and does nothing! i do everything round the house and everything to do with bridgette once a month he will maybe dry the dishes but very rarely, he will play with bridgette for bout hour wehn he gets home but then i have to bath dress her give her a bottle etc as well as clean up, weekends he does absolutley nuttin to he really is a slack buggar :) he goes to golf oneday in the weekend (which annoys me dont get any me time) and the other day he lazing around. I have tried asking him to do things having set things for him to do yelled cried etc but nothing has worked he jsut lazy

hehe DH is shocking at taking initative. I've done a few little tests with him. Like last week I decided he was gonna have to start the dishes for once rather than me and he didn't, we ended up using damn near ever dish we had and even then I had to take the initative. Same with washing or anything like that otherwise we get to sunday night and he might think about washing his work clothes and then complain they are wet in the morning. *rolls eyes*

We have already discussed (in great depth) about what I'd expect from him when it comes to having kids. I don't nag him about anything and I told him that if I start nagging he better watch out! hehehe

Sorry to say but I also have a fabulous hubby...he doesn't always take the intiative for little things but that's well and truely made up for with what he does do...espcially since I fell pregnant.

He does overtime at moment 2 nights a week plus Saturdays. He still does the washing and what little ironingwe have (we only need to iron his work shirts and my uniform so it's not much thank goodness!), cooks dinners, cleans the bathroom each week and is normally the one to do the vaccuming and put the dishes through the dishwasher. He's also the one who cleans out the rat cage to save me hauling a heavy cage in and out of the house.

Now I also feel like I do nothing!! *lol* I usually do all the other stuff like cleaning the rest of the kitchen, living room, dusting, I do more of the cooking again now that meat doesn't make me want to yak (unlike the first trimester!), keeping the bedroom tidy, stuff like that.

Dh works long hours 8am till (um he gets home most nights around 6.30pm but he has to drive 1/2 an hour) some days hes at work till 10pm and others if they have an upgrade (hes a network admin) he can be home after midnight... anyway when we moved intogether as we both worked we agreeed I cooked and he did the dishes. His job got easier around a year ago when we got a dish washer - he still complains about dish wahsing though. I do most of the work during the week - well all.. in the weekend he is helpful in tidying the house and vacuming with out me asking but is never too keen on the bathroom - which I have to ask him to do it and even then its not to my standards of clean. He doesn't d the washing which doesn't bother me as I get fustrated if he puts colours with white or towels with clothes (pet hates of mine) but I would like him to think oh theres some washing in the machine I'll hang it out - after all it is his clothes too. But then he does most of the 'man' jobs around the house. We are in the process of redecorating Josh's room (which was the spare room at the other end of the house) so the baby can have his room normally I would paint the ceilings but being pregnant I can't (or won't for that matter) so things have been a wee bit slow going. we have the paint, wallpaper and new carpet just need his a into g to get it done. Josh is very keen to get in there. Josh my son is the lawnmower man as he is 13 years and both Brooke (8) and Josh empty the dishwasher. I still feel like i do most of the house work but every little bit helps.
Oh my grumble today is:: I am off work sick, when DH is off work sick he doesn't have to get up in the morning to sort out the kids and get them to school as I do it every morning anyhow and if your sick you need to stay in bed longer. So this mornign I thought that he may just may offer to take the kids to school. NOPE!! I had to get up and get their lunch ready (josh does the breakfast and feeds the animals) then when I said about it to DH he gets all sh*tty and makes me feel bad about saying it. Then he goes to go then tell me go back to bed he'll take the kids to school - which I did after complaining he could of offered before I had to mention it(and got up). All I wanted him to do is offer with out me saying about it and 'making' a fuss about it. Anyhow thats my moan for today.

Well, we'd planned to both work (me part-time, hubby full-time) for the beginnings of our marriage until we had a family on the way, but circumstances intervened and I ended up having to work very very part-time.  So we both agreed that hubby would support us financially, and I'd run the house and work outside the home to the extent that I could.  This means I'm the housework queen 'round here!!  The whole lot is my job. 

I expected hubby to help with the dishes each evening - handwashing dishes are a group task in my book, and I've always liked the 'if you didn't cook, you help clean' rule of thumb.  That said, he's spent the last half year working 7.30am to dinner time, then every evening on a temporary (but not small, dag nab it!) project.  So there's simply not time for him to help with any housework!  That project should be all over in a month or so, then there's getting ready for baby's arrival to do, so he'll still be a busy boy!  I'd rather this now than when we have baby here.  But after then, the dishes get re-negotiated! 

It'd be totally different if I were out at work every day, I've gotta say.  I feel for ladies trying to get reluctant men to life a finger... we wouldn't divide jobs half and half if we were both working outside the home, and we both know that already!