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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:03pm |
What are your tips for dealing with tricky in-laws? Meddling mother-in-laws, silly sister-in laws, fussy father-in-laws....
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:06pm |
Nod and smile 
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:07pm |
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Drink lots of wine , nod and smile
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:10pm |
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Alcohol and biting your tounge!
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:16pm |
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I find a simple "Thank you Sir" works great when FIL says something that makes me want to throttle him. If he continues I use "thank you Sir, but on the next subject....."
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:19pm |
Peanut and kelly already gave my methods! 
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:21pm |
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Living 12 000 miles away really helps as they can't see you stick your fingers up at them over thephone, although it's a bit tricky to hide on MSN
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:23pm |
 Redbedrock wrote:
Living 12 000 miles away really helps as they can't see you stick your fingers up at them over thephone, although it's a bit tricky to hide on MSN |
I second this as well as screening your phone calls.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:45pm |
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Smile & say nothing
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 12:50pm |
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:08pm |
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Ignore them. I just go on as if they've said nothing at all. And in extreme circumstances, I tell DH to talk to them - things like his mother introducing the girls as "her" children I can't ignore (and have already had words about it with her which seem to not make any difference).
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:13pm |
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Laugh, nod and smile a lot. Might make you look like an idiot but it seems to work! Or act like you didn't hear them.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:25pm |
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Well I have a "neat" relationship with my outlaws (NOT!) It's not only them it's the extended family in the UK too that have total disregard for me and my kids. I choose to ignore the extended family, don't send emails/photos or anything, the less they know about me the better.
I put on my best actress mode when I'm around the outlaws.. as they have gotten older they seem to have got worse...
Imposing curfews on DH and I stating when we have to be home to pick the kids up if they are looking after them for the night. We chose to ignore it one time and OMG she flipped her lid so we promptly left after picking the kids up 45mins late.
Ummm I don't let them boss us around anymore, especially when it comes to the kids. Now that we live in the same place as them, we actually see them less, which is fanfrickentastic!
As for the BIL - he's useless, we never see him so don't have to worry about him at all.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:26pm |
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Ahhh , the MOLE huh Mel ?
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:34pm |
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Avoid them like the plague but if all else fails just sit there and say nothing unless you have to defend yourself or they say something to really get up your nose then get right up them.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:45pm |
I don't know, but would love to find out!
Don't see FIL although he always rings up drunk so that creates interesting times in our household (DH gets quite upset by it).
BIL is fine but NEVER leaves (like he'll stay all night on a weeknight - also a drinker).
MIL moved from 4 hours away to 900 METRES away from us  Which is great for the 2 days she'll look after the kids, but she pops in every damn day. I have to make sure I've parked the car in the garage and locked the doors (and not go into the front rooms) so she doesn't come in all the time
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 1:58pm |
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 2:29pm |
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Shock tactics are fun as well. Like one time when MIL said something pointed like all of her friend's kids are having babies (she is gagging for us to have one) I said "well, we don't like children". That shut her up.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 3:08pm |
i tend to take the head on approach im a confrontational person (IRL lol not really online) so if they say anything out of line i tend to snap back and put them in their place 
Iv always had a HARD relationship (if you could even call it that back then!) so im very intollerant to the b**lls**t! now.
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Posted: 26 January 2010 at 3:23pm |
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Well, my parents in law are both dead, and DH's family live all over the place, and I have no issue wit them.I do however have to watch one SIL and one past SIL treat my mother like sh*t and see her left out of family stuff as they only like their families involved, (xmases etc) so I can see the other side of the coin, seeing how upset that makes mum. i know she can be difficult (understatement) but it comes out of wanting the best for her children, and its also just the way she is...
I basically suck it up (I have a so so relationship woth one SIL and ok with the new SIL) but like I said I suck up any differences and try to put myself in their shoes. No,they don't do things like I do and aren't afraid to say, btu then again I am the same to them, I guess, so its a matter of put up and shut up as its only a short amount of time.
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Tips for dealing with tricky in laws...
