Depressed!!

 People say Im being hard on myself but I cant help feeling like absolute crap. I see my self as a huge, fat, ugly, disgusting person. I know this is not the right frame of mind but I cant help it. It also doesnt help when Im wearing my pre-pregnancy clothes that dont do up (hehe) . I got up to 114kgs when I was pregnant and now Im 96.kg. Im usually 63kgs. im trying to do weightwatchers but cant keep away from chocolate. I have my wedding day in March and really dont want to look like this then. My tummy just wont go down. Its so flabby and has stretchmarks all over it.  I still look pregnant. My gorgeous wee son Jaxon is now 8 weeks. I thought that my tummy would have gone down by now. I did have a C-section too.

Is there anyone else out there that feels the same way??

HI Clare,

Im breast feeding. Yeh I thought it was meant to come off quick but I suppose it doesnt help when Im eating crap. yeah talking bout a pouch, mine is huge. For my wedding day I might have to get some of those undies that hold your tummy in. lol.

Hope I can lose weight elsewhere though.

thanks for your support

Hang in there, honey... it does eventually get better! When Emma was 6 months old, I weighed 5kg MORE than my heaviest pregnancy weight -- and I was breastfeeding! I just let myself sit around the house and eat junk food all the time... I joined Weight Watchers two months ago and have lost about 6kg so far (it's slow going for me too, as I have a hard time avoiding chocolate). Which programme are you doing -- Points or NoCount? It can be difficult at times, especially when you're tired from looking after Baby and just want to grab some chocolate to make yourself feel better. Are you up to having a walk with the pram every day? Just 30 minutes makes SUCH a difference, I've found. (And earns you a few extra points on WW, which you can spend on chocolate!). Now that the weather is nicer, maybe you'll feel inspired to get outside and walk around a little bit?

My best friend had a C-section and she found that there was a little "pouch" there from the incision that people who have vaginal births don't seem to get. Hers went away after about 6 months, though (the pouch, not the scar!).

Where do you live? Is there someone who can go walkies with you a couple of times a week? Are you finding any support with your antenatal coffee group (if you have one) or Plunket? Sometimes having a friend to help you and encourage you can help, too.

And the old stand-by -- putting a photo of your wedding dress on your fridge -- or, if you don't want DH-to-be to see that, putting a photo of a sexy swimsuit or some other goal outfit up there to remind you what it's all about!

Hang in there! Sending you big hugs! :)

mum2emj wrote: i think we do see oursleves distorted and not really how others see us.

So true!!  Us girls are way too hard on ourselves with body image and all that.  It's only been 8 weeks, chick.  These things take time, and I'll bet you feel far worse than you look.  You and your bod have done something truely amazing to bring Jaxon into this world, so give yourself some credit.  And hey - if a few new wardrobe items (stuff that fits nicely so you don't have to stress about tight pre-preg clothes or loose maternity ones) help, treat yourself to those.  Even if they only fit for a wee while then get too loose, they might be a good boost to the ol' self-esteem.