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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:19pm |
Yes, I have been busily uploading...
Rod threatened me with death if I showed anyone this... I think its worth it...
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:22pm |
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heheheh 21st.
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:28pm |
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yeah there is about 5 pics, so funny,a nd Rod is soooo not happy. he nearly died that I bought our wee "man" a stroller... it is his FAVE toy of all time! lol!
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:30pm |
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Andrew loves his "abc" stroller. Its the one he sits in but he will push it around all the time. His other "fav" toy is at his friends place and its the toy vaccum cleaner.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:43pm |
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yeah, jake loves getting out my vac and pushing it round making a noise, and has been known to have tantrums when having the broom taken off him...
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:01pm |
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KObe has a stroller and his favourite toy at the moment is a microwave that he cooks things for me with.
he also loves nailpolish etc..
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:28pm |
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Ooooo, that pic is so cute!!
Andy was mortified when I bought Quinn a toy stroller and baby doll too!! I have the CUTEST pictures of Quinn "feeding his baby" breastfeeding his baby like mummy feeds Kaia!!
Andy was disgusted with the doll house I bought him too...
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Posted: 10 January 2007 at 10:13pm |
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Don't tell Rod, but I am getting a dolls house.... Cute Quinn "breastfeeding!"
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 7:53am |
sorry but i am more with Rod on this one...a dolls house is a little much IMHO...
the kid behind us has a stroller, a baby doll and HE takes it to church...he was given a barbie canopy bed too while his brother had a buzz one...he is teased sooo much and his only friends that come to play now are girls...and I swear he even sounds gay already...cruel to say it i know but he is six and his older brother at 8 is soooo different...i think his mum really wanted a girl and has fostered the feminine side a little too much...
I think there is a cut off...mine would be a dolls house too...nail polish, dolls, stroller in the house are ok...they are imitating mum. Sorry.... 
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 8:49am |
cute pic annie! definitely one to save for his 21st!! sam won't let me get mikey dolls or anything 
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:36am |
Christopher desperately wanted a baby born (remember those)when he was about Jacob's age and we let him have one. He also had a fascination with one of my sister's silk petticoats and used to wear it around the house without a nappy on - he liked the soft feel of it against his bare skin. Cute. Aaahhhh - he was such a sweet little boy. I am of the opinion that if you make a big deal out of it - it will turn in to a big deal for the kid and then they get confused. I think they are just curious at that age. We just let Christopher play with what he wanted and tried not to worry. He's fine now - no identity crisis and very comfortable with who he is. Excessively masculine probably - his fav thing to do at the moment is fart mid-sentence...
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:47am |
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Yeah i agree Leish. As much as kobe loves girly things when you actually meet him you would never mistake him for a girly boy. He is fantastic and ball sports, rough and tumble real boy. very daring and into everything boyish but he just also likes playing with dolls sometimes. Could also be that all good friends and cousins are girls.
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:49am |
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Also just wanted to add, it wouldnt really bother me if Kobe decided he was gay. As long as he is happy then thats enough for me but i dont think what he plays with now is going to affect his sexuality.
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:52am |
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:52am |
BTW I think it's a gorgeous pic of Jacob 
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 10:27am |
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I totally love the pic of Jacob that is to cute hehe i giggled at the shoes hehe
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 10:33am |
very cuties kalem loved those things when he was jacobs age we used to play dolls etc but now he will not go near the things lol its just a stage
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 11:03am |
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Does anyone think there would be a huge market for toy vacuums that ACTUALLY vacuumed? Imagine how great that would be!
Personally, I don't see the big deal letting Quinn play with toys that he likes. I don't think a dolls house is going to affect his sexuality.
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 11:04am |
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Jax - I am all for nature vs nurture argument but when a child is fostered to become something they werent necessarily headed towards (fa'afaine for eg) then that isnt right...the kid next door doesnt leave it in the house, he goes out with all the girlie stuff, there are other boys around...only the girls will play with him etc...
it has nothing to do with homsexualtiy etc...but apparopriate boundaries for acceptable behaviour so that a child is not scorned - in the case next door at six he is suffering already for his mothers actions in fostering it too much...
i think Jacob is cute too, and like i said no harm in a stroller or a doll etc..but totally see where Rod is coming from with his cut off point too...
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Posted: 11 January 2007 at 1:45pm |
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Rods cut off point is anthing remotely girly, which I disagree with. As for the dolls house, it isn't specifically for "jacob" (probably more for me), but my grandad made me a beautiful 2 story one with stairs and all the furniature, carpet, wall paper etc, and it got stolen out of our garage a few years back, and I was absolutely devestated. My brothers and I had had many, many years of fun playing with it. I was really sad that such a special toy had been so carelessly taken, and that any children I might have would miss out on what we had had so much fun with over the years. Anyhow, when Dad died, we were going through all the old photos and found lots of really great pics of the dolls house, so I have decided I am going to contact the woodworkers guild and see if some lovely grandad would like to make me one.
I don't want jacob growing up thinking that their are "girls" toys and roles and "boys" toys and roles, as I don't want him to end up a chauvanist pig like my brother. while I won't be encouraging him leaving the house in girls dress up clothes or wahtever, i am all for imaginative play. if I could see it was going a bit far, and the teasing thing might be a problem, then I owuld worry about it.
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