Hi im a newbie. Having my first child..

Im due in september and im pretty scared and excited. I cant wait for the sickness to go!

Been a pretty tough time since i found out about the baby, my so called boyfriend decided he doesnt want anything to do with us! So it'll be hard but i have my family and friends and im sure i will cope!
At the moment i just need to think about keeping my baby and myself healthy and happy!

Just wanted to say hello to everyone, i've read some posts and your all seem really lovely and helpful!
I will definately be back here.

Thanks alot. I appreciate it.



All ive heard from him and his parents is bad things and them wanting me to get rid of it.
My family have been awesome though they are sticking by me. Im only 20 so yeah.

I am trying to think positive
cant wait for bubba to come along anyways!

just read your reply post and thought i'd add, i'm 20 too so i know how scary it is when you fall pregnant unexpectedly at a young age. where abouts in nz do you live?

Welcome to OhBaby! and congrasts on your pregnancy

Thanks all. Its good to have people to talk to when you need it!

And ellabellame im in Hamilton. Im staying with my sister in law till i find a place with my sister. Hoping its in the next couple weeks.

im 25 now and was 20 when i was pregnant, her dad and i broke up when i was 7 weeks after only a 2month relationship (ooops!) but we remained friends so i was very lucky in that case.
But ur story is very similar to my friends, she was 19 when she was pregnant and her boyfriend of 3 years was really adament in that he didnt want the baby, as was her mum and her boyfriends parents, they would say she was doing it to trap him etc etc etc that she should "get rid of it " that it was gonna ruin his life etc etc etc, in fact i was the only one who supported her hence me being her birth partner and bubs godmother, anyway after bubs was born dad came over looked at her and said he didnt feel anything for her, but then a week later he was over everytime i rang and now he adores her (tho imo he still doesnt do enough to help my mate out but thats her lesson to learn) his parents love her and my mates own parents adore her, she is very spoilt (too spoilt really but again their lesson to learn )
thing is, altho there are people out there who do, generally its very hard to look at a new baby and hate it, im sure they will be changing their tune once bubs is here.
also sometimes these things happen to show us who IS there when we need them..
and if the bf doesnt come round-it really is his loss

Welcome!

I am only 22 and pregnant with my first child. (Due in May) I am moving back to Hamilton in a few weeks, so if you ever need someone to chat to or go for a walk with or anything, I have SOOOOOOOO much spare time at the moment.. :D

When I first got pregnant my partner took it horribly. We have only been together for a year, so when I got pregnant we had only been together for just over six months. We had been having huge problems and in his shock, he told me he was going to move to the south island and have nothing to do with us ever again because he never wanted kids. He calmed down and is now very excited. I made it very clear to him that I would not beg him to stay, and that his choice was his own, but he needed to think about his family and what it would do to them as well as what it would do to me.

Anyway, I'm rambling on. Hope you're feeling better soon and that things start to work out for you. Send me a message if you'd like to chat. I'm in Hamilton staying with my mum and waiting to get my tooth pulled.

yeah my mate had that from her ex bf and his parents, it seems to be a very common threat, but on what grounds should they get custody?p*sses me off cos we all know children shouldnt be used as a way to get revenge and hurt people but so often they are.

and fair enough mottskiez i would be expecting one hell of an apology too! and if not he can crawl back under his little rock till he grows up

cool i hope u and eomachine are able to meet up, that would be good for u guys and eomachine, im very sorry to hear ur having ur tooth pulled out

I've said it so many times but thanks for the advice. Everyone. Its been very helpful.

And ill be sure to give you guys (eomachine and Eva) a msg. I dont really know many people in hams so that would be cool.

Been trying to keep myself busy. Im looking after my sister in laws house as her, my neice and brother have gone to Thailand for a month (jealous!).

Thanks



The ex actually came round lastnight.. i had a weak moment.

We somehow got onto the topic of the baby and he told me that basically its not his kid. It may be biologically, but hes not having any of the responsibility so it isnt his.

It really hurt. How can a person i thought was decent and nice turn out to be so horrible?
How can you just pretend your own child doesnt exist?

i get so mad and upset i just wanna punch him in the face lol.