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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 3:29pm |
Is there some prejudice out there towards SAH Kids or am I over-reacting? I intend to home-school my kids so I don't see much point in enrolling in kindy. But everywhere I go it seems that someone wants to know is, or when is, or where is Hannah going to kindy? I'm always at a bit of a loss what to say. Apart from the fact that I have a newborn and a toddler to handle as well (and Briona sleeps from 8.30 to 11am most days so it's hard to get out in the morning), but Hannah's all fine developmentally and I've taught her colours, shapes, numbers, letters, counting, and even some phoenics (sounds of letters). We're involved in a music group and play group anyway, and have a good selection of toys/activites at home... isn't that enough?
I think it just bugs me because it's strangers in the supermarket etc who ask me/Hannah, without knowing all that stuff and there's no short answer to get all that across to them 
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 4:00pm |
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Ive never thought anything against people who dont send thier kids to kindy etc... personal choice really but, and this is only my opinion, I also think its good for children to learn to be away from parents and socialise without them there. For me this probably stems from my childhood where i was so attached to my mother i couldnt leave her to go and play at peoples houses and sleepovers were totally out of the question until i was at least 12ish and I dont want my kids growing up to be totally relient on me. I remember seeing an episode of trading spouses where the kids did absolutely everything with the parents, even slept in the same room with them and I just thought that was really sad for the kids.
But I certainly dont see anything wrong with home schooling, I would love to do it myself but dont have the skill or patience. I wouldnt be worried about the educational aspect of it but if she doesnt do anything away from you ie kindy or whatever when will she learn independence?
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 4:09pm |
I think it's your choice and if thats what suits you so be it. Its sounds like your kids have all the learning tools they need at home, and will be able to get the social skills they need from the music group and play groups you attend. I say "go on you"  it takes a hell of a lot of patients to home school  (not that Ive tried, but my friend does).
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 5:00pm |
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i think it's less of habving something "againest" it, and more just tyhe assumption because most kids do end up at some kinda preschool. Good on you for the homeschooling thing. I was looking at it when we were living in Japan and the resources are amazing - a lot of the stuff you can get is fantastic and well worth while - I would love to IF i had a lot more patience and inclination.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 5:37pm |
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Robyn, she goes to Sunday School by herself and has stayed with friends a couple of times (although not overnight yet - TT first I think!). I do want to make sure she can have other people in her life that she can rely on if I'm not available, especially as she gets older, and once she's older (6?) I'm planning to get her involved in something like swimming/dancing/music... which will involve learning off another person than just me all the time as well.
Good point tho, and it's good to read what crosses people's minds because it's hard to stand back sometimes and think it through from different perspectives.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 6:09pm |
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I agree with Liz that's it's probably not a deliberate dig, more just a question coz that's what *most* kids do. I know that I often asked kids "so do you go to kindy" as a way of starting a conversation with them, coz most will say yes and then I can ask what they do there etc.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 9:09pm |
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Teresa I know that here in Palmy there has been a big thing about home schooling in the Tribune (the Sunday free paper). Some guy is doing a column every second week (he did it last week, I think his name is Steve Elders) and so in that paper there is heaps about kids being at home and people "thinking" that they don't develop social skills. For some children this does happen, but as you said she goes out to music and goes to other peoples places so i'm sure she does have social skills.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 9:55pm |
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Just wanted to point out that I didnt mean she wouldnt learn social skills or anything, I just mean time away from parents, well mums especially.
And Busymum thanks for not taking my post the wrong way.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:08pm |
Robyn. I got what you were saying and I've seen clingy kids like that too.
Becks yea I saw that article. Maybe I just need the guts to say "nah we're gonna home-school". Just seems weird to be saying that so early - she's only just turned 3 and school's not compulsory until 6!
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:21pm |
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older people esp will ask as a conversation starter. and even if you home school i dont see anything wrong with kindy - a lot of people think of it as a break, both for the kid and the parent...
and did you mean phonics...????
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:25pm |
Quite a few of the nappy networkers are Homeschooling - maybe you should come over and join in the HomeEd threads? Sounds like they are all doing well and might have a few responses for questions like that 
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:26pm |
 yep lol
I don't really have a problem with kindy, but just don't feel it's necessary as school-entrance for a to-be home-schooler... but I'm getting that it's just a common expected for 3-4yo's, just like school is for 5yo's I guess (man why didn't I think of that earlier? )
I guess my biggest problem is feeling at such a loss to answer the kindy question, briefly, and on the spot. Time for some mirror practice maybe lol
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:28pm |
But Nikki if I join another forum I might never have time to home-school! 
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 10:43pm |
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Ive just been thinking about the kindy thing lately. Kobe is in preschool one day a week purely for the social aspect of it, he loves it and has good wee friends there but a couple of ladies from a playgroup we go to have just put thier kids in kindy. Id never really thought about changing kobe cos he loves his preschool. Is it an expected thing that kids go to kindy? I presume they dont have to go there? No one has ever asked me if he is going to go and I was kind of surprised its been an issue for you, as in, being asked about it a lot. Apart from the couple at playgroup I only know of another two kids who are in kindy.
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Posted: 19 February 2007 at 11:43pm |
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Hey busymum, just sticking in my suport for you. I know what its like to be doing something outside what is other peoples "norm".
Good on you for doing it.
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Posted: 20 February 2007 at 12:03am |
Good job doing home schooling, I have threatened my DH about that. Maybe in a round-a-bout way they are paying you a compliment ..... Maybe people are suprised at what Hannah seems to know and maybe they are looking for a good kindy!! Lets put a positive light on the situation!!
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Posted: 20 February 2007 at 6:53am |
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Sometimes I sincerely wish I had the patience to homeschool especially after some of the bullying micheal has put up with but I don't think I could handle it to be honest, so good for you it sounds like you have put a lot of thought into it.
My2angels both of my older kids went to kindy but we are not sure if we are sending Abby, like your wee one she goes to daycare for the social side of things and to be completely honest the preschool she is in is no different to the kindy my boys went to. The biggest issue I think is for some people it is cheaper and their kids go for a longer period of time. Also due to the free 20 hours coming in A lot of Kindys are going to be changing and from what we could gather at our last committee meeting are going to be more or less preschool centres anyway with a change in hours so they can cash in on the 20 hours paid by the government!
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Posted: 20 February 2007 at 7:20am |
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I am one of those people who would assume a child is going to kindy....its an assumption just like assuming a 5 year old is off to school soon...and i wouldnt be offended if someone replied that the child was being home schooled...put us right!
As for home schooling - OMG good on you...You are def goign to be busy with those three....I totally admire you for doing it...me = well im sending mine off to a school each day, i have neither the patience or inclination to home school....but fully admire those that can.
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Posted: 20 February 2007 at 7:55am |
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Posted: 20 February 2007 at 8:01am |
I think you need to just be straight up with people. Or teach Hannah what to say in response she is a pretty bright girl. My brain is not working at this time of the morning ,but if you get people questioning further just come up with something smart to say to end the conversation. IF I think of something will let you know. I would love to home school, but Pete has said no so oh well school for my kid's.
Just don't let anyone judge you for your choice I think it is great and you will do a wonderful job. 
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