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Bombshell 
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:39pm |
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OK I say it is too early and she is too little, and he is too unsure of her in many ways yet.
DH (BSDH) says he will be fine and she is not too young to do it
IT - being have a shower!!!
I dont agree with it this soon...he does...I am also scared he will drop her, she will be slippery etc and he would never forgive himself! She is a total wriggler.
HELP - what do others think, how did u feel if DH did shower with bubs etc soo young....this debate is turning into a mega argument now!!!
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:45pm |
We showered Ethan from about 4 weeks, and he loved it, I was also paranoid about DH dropping him, but he never wriggles much there, just chills out over daddys shoulder. Also get a non-slip mat for the floor, it made me feel better, just incase of any soap or shampoo on the floor.
not taking sides, thats just what we did, but we were both ready.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:46pm |
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I think the littler they are the better it is to get them used to it. Charly been having showers with me for about 3 weeks now? so about the same age as Gabriella is now. We never took Jake in, and he HATES them now, so I regret it. That made it mega hard when we were on holidays for 2 weks and only one motel we were in (and only for one night) had a bath!
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:46pm |
Yes she will be slippery, but BSDH has giant hands so he should be right! And the water won't do him any harm. I've never showered with mine (and Willie can't coz of the chemicals he is exposed to at work) because I find it tricky trying to hold them and wash them at the same time, but I bath with them all the time (or whenever I can convince Willie to dress them - they play up for him something chronic, clever wee girls 
But at the end of the day Mum has to have the final say! If you don't feel comfortable then she's not ready yet!
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:51pm |
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another thing we do is not really wash him in the shower, I wont let DH use soap on him, so then bubs is not super slippery.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:55pm |
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I'm too nervous to head down the shower road yet too bombshell, and agree with Emma, only do it when you feel comfy!!!!
In saying that I know heaps of people who have done it pretty much from the word go and love it.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:09pm |
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we used to shower gabriel when he was only a few weeks old. they only need a couple of minutes and i used to just give him to my hubby when he was in the shower with a flannel to wipe him down then i would take him. no soap needed at that age.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:14pm |
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oh and it will prob help BSDH with bonding and getting to know her better. you have to let him know you trust him now. or later he wont want to do stuff cause he wont feel he can.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:17pm |
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DH showers with Brenna, but I wont cause too scared of dropping her!! I have heard of people who wear a t-shirt in the shower to help with 'grip'??? Don't know if this would be helpful or not?? I agree with Emma - do whatever YOU feel comfortable with...
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:27pm |
james has been in the shower since he was 3 months old if you are worried about bubs sliping get hubby to wear a old t-shirt helps stop[ bubs sliping and let him try things with bubs bombshell it relly will help with bonding i was worried my dad would not bond with james but as soon as he strarted doing things for james the bond grew and grew 
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:54pm |
We've both had showers with Ella from when she was little, and she still has a shower each morning with one of us. She sits or stands (we have a shower over a bath) and plays with her toys. If you are going to have a shower with bubs, make sure the other person is there to take the baby from you when you get out.. it's pretty difficult (but can be done!) to get out of the shower while holding a slippery baby! 
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:57pm |
Oh yeah, and you say that your DH is unsure of your baby.. that's because you spend most of the time with her. I had to learn to let DP do things without telling him what to do, he got so frustrated with me hanging over his shoulder telling him how to do things. Eventually I decided it was better to let him do things his own way than to worry about whether he was doing things "right".
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 9:59pm |
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Hi, Nathaniel used to shower Hannnah (didn't/doesn't so much with the other two babies) and it was fine. We didn't use soap, just a flannel to wipe her all over, and I was on hand to get her out when ready. Just watch the water temp, cooler than usual for adults, and if you are there when your DH is showering her then you won't need to worry (I hope).
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 10:06pm |
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We have showered with Erin from the very start, we had no choice really - as we don't have a bath ! I mean, we had a plastic baby bath, but it was just as easy to go in the shower with her (or DH). Her being slippery was more of an issue when she started to grow for us, and now we sit together on the floor of the cubicle and I clean her that way since the showerhead is on one of those removable flexi hoses.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 10:20pm |
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Isla had her first shower when she was less than 24 hours old, with me, the morning after I had her!
We dont use soap on her, and maybe he could sit down the first time he showers her if it would make u feel more happy about it? I have found that Isla really relaxes when she's under the shower and stops wriggling around.
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 10:57pm |
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I'm too nervous myself - I've decided to wait until Gina can support her head well so there will be less things to worry about. We are OK with giving her baths for now in her baby bath.
I think you should do what you feel comfortable with - maybe try showering with her first before letting BSDH?
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Posted: 06 April 2007 at 11:00pm |
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do it! go for all the help you can get!!!!! he may not offer again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! okay can you tell ive been drinking????????? anyay id be all for it, my dh NEVEr bathes our kids and if your dh offering take him up on it!
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Posted: 07 April 2007 at 7:22am |
Put him in a t-shirt, hand him the baby in the shower...then run away as fast as you can for a sit down and enjoy!! 
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Posted: 07 April 2007 at 9:38am |
Alize haas been showering with me or my eldest daughter since he was 2mths old. He loves his showers and baths. Like everyone has said "mummy's choice"
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Posted: 07 April 2007 at 9:41am |
 Maya wrote:
But at the end of the day Mum has to have the final say! If you don't feel comfortable then she's not ready yet! |
I dont completely agree with this. She has two parents, a mum and a dad. and if you exclude the dad in the beginning or say your judgment is better than his then you run the risk of him withdrawing.
like i said earlier tho, soap isnt needed at this age and she should only be in for a minute or two. i always found with gabriel too he was mega relaxed after wards.
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