Sex Drive

Im having some issues with my sex drive its non existant and is starting to cause issues between me and DF.

Has this happened to anyone else?? I was fine until a month or two ago.

Have tried "spice it up" things but it just doesn't help.

Any ideas?

i haven't had a sex drive since i had jack   poor DH   it does cause abit of trouble between us but i really don't know what to do about it

Yup i lost my sex drive altogether when my first son was 4 months old but it was due to getting hypothyroidism apparently . Even when my HT went away i still had no sex drive and was told that the more you do it the more your libedo will return so thats what we did (helped that we were TTC at the time! lol) and all is back to normal now!!....and hopefully the same thing wont happen again after this bubs!

Iv spoken to sooooo many people who have gone through the same thing and like me their stints were lasting for years!! but im sure your DH understands, i know that my DH was getting so frustrated! and it made for alot of fights! but when i spoke to him about him he really did understand but couldnt help but show frustration sometimes.

It does get better....

I wonder if it will ever come back for me but I figure people have more than 1 child so it must I have been having little thoughts lately about it but now I wonder when can it start to bring on labour as I am not ready for bubs just yet

Yup I think it's pretty common. Are you still bf or waking in the nights? They have a huge part to play in your exhaustion which in turn affects your "feeling like it". It's good to be honest about it but I feel sorry for DH when I'm in that place so I try hard to get in the mood for him. Gosh this is a TMI subject LOL! One thing that really helps me is that after the baby has gone to bed for the night we might do a little bit of kissing and then I'll excuse myself to have a little bit of "me" time in the shower, that helps me have a bit of space and recharge and then I put on something which helps me feel sexy lol (not flanelette! ) and usually enjoy it after then!

The other thing I find is that once my AF returns I get back into the hormonal swing of things and the mood rises and falls help somehow. And doing it at least 1-2 times a week helps to not get "stale". Dunno how that works but the more we have it, the better it gets LOL

Mine was removed during the birth of Jacob, and replaced with supersonic hearing... DH is planning on putting up a missing/reward poster...

So nice to read this as I've been feeling very stink. I've got no mojo AT ALL! Last night DH kindly pointed out that we've only done IT twice (thanks to 2 days of weeeeird preggie hormones!)in our new house! We've been here for about 15 MONTHS!!!

In the latest Treasures mag I saw a calender that has rewards or something for when you've .... Might be worth a go ...

gandt wrote: i misplaced mine after my second child, and i'm still looking for it ... sometimes some of it comes back but never for very long...

it was obviously back for long enough

Good to know I am not the only one. I can understand about the self confidence thing - I don't feel sexy at the moment.

I'm just too tired all the time. I know that sounds like a lame excuse, but I am so physically tired after looking after the kids etc. but my brain doesn't shut down so easily so I find myself wide awake with no energy to even initiate anything with Willie but still not able to sleep.
Good to know he's not the only man being starved tho - I'll have to let him know!