Pregnant again

I haven't used one of those digital tests that tells you how far along you are .. what do the instructions say on the back? If it's the Clear Blue one I think they're quite clear about what they mean? But also say you should confirm dates with a doctor? How late is your AF?

I had that heavy and full feeling early in pregnancy, yep it is normal It's hard not to freak out about everything in these early days (specially if it's unexpected??) but try and take it easy until your appointment with the doctor and I hope everything goes well for you this time.

How soon can they see you at your doctor's?

Hey thank you it is lovely to get some friendly support, I am also learning that the bloating may actually be alot of wind too! Well I am seeing a doctor on Wednesday.

It does make a real difference being with my mum you know, I was so frightened when I was in NZ last year without my family except my 'now husband'.

however I am still in the miscarraige zone I guess, which I am still thinking about, I am quite frightened about having a baby and my body changing as I love my road cycling and yoga...keep chatting as I would really appreciate some friendly banter.

Hi Miss Shell

ok thank you for this, but I guess I am still in the miscarraige zone until the end of September, so I have only told my mum and dad an no one else, although I am panicking about what is happening to me, I am also quite nervous about my body rejecting it as this happened after 7 weeks, I am currently into my 5th week

Congrats on your pregnancy!
There is no need to stop exercising, just don't push yourself too hard. The fitter you are through your pregnancy the better you 'll feel.
I was really fit when I got pregnant, I use to ride racehorses for a job and I kept riding 5-6 horses every day until I was 6 monhts. After that I was just doing ground work at the stables but still pretty physical work. Stoped working 2 weeks before DD was born. I had a great pregnancy and lost most of my baby weight only a few months later without even trying.
Good luck with everything!

yogalindy before i started trying to concieve (before i even wanted children) i too was terrified of getting big and the pain of birth, but its only temporary remember, just a couple of months and then you will go right back to normal body wise!

If you read other mothers birth stories it may help also, as the more relaxed you are about the impending birth the more smoothly it should go,. just think positively that everythig happens for a reason and you are meant to be a mummy! oh and there is pain relief if required too!!

it might help if you could go and see a councellor about your feelings? as time goes on and you have time to think aobut things you might become excited about having a lovely baby in a few months time.. i know more people that regret not having them, and not ONE person that does regret having children..

is your husband/partner excited?

just be gentle with yourself and take care of yourself too..

I agree with Lisa85.

I think you should be less worried about your body changing, the pain of birth, and maybe changing your exercise plan and a bit more concerned about looking after this little life you have created, who is relying on you to provide for it - love it and look after it, and do what is best for the baby. This baby wasn't an accident, and you really need to step up and take responsibility and put the baby first.

I know you are scared, and that is natural but you need to put things in perspective. I think perhaps you would benefit from some counselling, to talk through your issues.

Hi All and Lisa85

That is ok I can take other peoples opinions and I realise that when I tell people how all this has happened some people may not agree with my methods or thoughts etc. think for me that the one time last year that we used nothing it took one go to get preganat and based on that I was in such shock - my fertility and my 'now' husbands were sharp as!
Since getting married in June this year I guess I may have relaxed a little and thought oh well it is now or never and I really did think my age would slow my fertility down and I thought well it may take a few months etc, but no! it took one go again! I am just in shock at how quickly I am getting pregnant at 38 years old!

Apart from last post I am feeling better about this one if you compared me to last year but I am still frightened, my husband won't believe it or get excited until it passes the 12 weeks only because of the miscarraige I had last year, which really upset him.

But just on the issue of Miscarraige I do want to say that my experience is no one wants to talk about it and I do feel pressure that If I felt relieved over having one then I am a bad person, why? it was not the right time, I was not mentally in the baby zone and yes I was relieved my body dealt with it - I was not sad, except for one little thing, that I had a ' prescence there and it had gone' otherswises I was able to get on with my life aftwards and based on this I do feel that for some women a miscarraige is not always a sad thing. I can't be the only one on the planet surely!

Anyway all that aside, I will admit that I am feeling a bit scared about miscarraying this one, isn't it funny? maybe I want this one more, I have thought about it because I just don't want to go through 2 weeks of heavly bleeding and pain.

It had made a huge difference having mum around and she is doing a good job to calm my nerves, her excitment helps me cope with looking at positives.

I have already had counselling for the last one last year, it helped but didn't resolve anything. I think it is fear of the ' Unkown' and wanting to be in control - this is part of my personality and now I am not in control.

I guess what will be will be....and I am only 4 weeks.

I do enjoy your posts and actually really it really helps me, it is nice to have some company online.

???? maybe I've missed something but I'm not sure where some people are coming from with their posts.

YL - totally normal to be completely freaked, even if it's something you've planned and wanted for years. The fact you're "panicking about your body rejecting it" suggests that at one level, you are quite keen on this PG and looking forward to meeting your baby even though other parts of you are confused or ambivalent. And that's OK! Great you've got your mum and dad to talk to.

Just went to the docs today - quite a different set up in the UK to the New Zealand system - I favour NZ! I am 5 weeks now and won't see a mid wife until I am 7-8 weeks then she will take HIV, Hep and blood count tests, but I don't get to chose my midwife - back in NZ I was able to. She didn't seem too bothered about my previous miscarriage.

Now..................

Freckle and Flissy! thankyou there are women who understand and you are both totally right, I think there maybe a bit of me that is ok with this but I am also freaking out , and I feel with other posts mentioning what about the' little one' believe me when you are confused and frightened like me you are not thinking on that level and certainly not thinking about it being a baby at 5 weeks even more so when you have previoulsy had a miscarraige at 7 weeks.

I have not come here to wind people up, it is me and I am frightened, yes what I say might offend but that is really down to individual perspectives and experiences, it is nice to get some understanding from above threads, I also think my body is totally taking over here - we are not incontrol of how we operate - really and so I think it is down to science and nature on how I cope with this and what my body wants to do.

Yes I can help it along and relax etc..but it is a frightening time, not all of us giggle with excitment at the thought of pregnancy, as thrads above have metioned freaking out also seems normal, great for those who don't but realise that not every woman on the planet is insitnctivly maternal!

If it makes some people angry so be it that is your perogative but what I love to read are threads that are understanding and positive constructivly and like minded. I can't believe every woman in the forum is the same?

I'm sure at the end of the day if you have this baby it will be the best thing that ever happened to you and you'll look back and wonder what you were so worried about :) I also have known a lot of women that have had whoopsie babies at bad times but they have never been happier with the outcome so I wish you the best and I hope things get easier for you soon.

Thankyou Lisa85 - I know you mentioned you would sound a bit insensitve but I can take it, what was lovely from you was written above.

And Marengo - lovely words also and it is this sort of thing that helps not words implying ' how dare you feel this way' .

A BIG thank you to those that have been helpful!





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And Lisa85

I'm sure at the end of the day if you have this baby it will be the best thing that ever happened to you and you'll look back and wonder what you were so worried about :) I also have known a lot of women that have had whoopsie babies at bad times but they have never been happier with the outcome so I wish you the best and I hope things get easier for you soon.

I too like your words, ( above ) that is ok if you felt your were insensitive, I can take it.

it is god for me to hear comparatives etc...as it helps me think and process what is going on.