Decisions

I consider myself very lucky that DP and I are very much on the same wavelength. Anything we had differing opinions on, we discussed and we have always come to a compromise or conclusion that worked for both of us. We both have areas of expertise but even with those - we still each have an input on what goes.

nicandtyler wrote: basically it was me doing all the hard work lol and then explaining to DP which has worked well for us

Ditto

Flissty wrote: nicandtyler wrote: basically it was me doing all the hard work lol and then explaining to DP which has worked well for us Ditto

same here lol

Emmecat wrote: Flissty wrote: nicandtyler wrote: basically it was me doing all the hard work lol and then explaining to DP which has worked well for us <IMG border=0 src="smileys/smiley17.gif"> Ditto <IMG border=0 src="smileys/smiley1.gif"> same here lol

Us too!

We tend to be on the same wavelength about most things too. The one thing we didn't initially agree on was leaving DS's foreskin intact. DH is circumcised and thought that we'd just do DS so he "looked the same." Ahhhh no thank you! So that took a wee bit of talking and showing him info and stuff Didn't take too much convincing though.

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kiwisj wrote: Emmecat wrote: Flissty wrote: nicandtyler wrote: basically it was me doing all the hard work lol and then explaining to DP which has worked well for us [:) Ditto same here lol Us too!

yup same here. DP and i havent had a differing opinion yet anyway, but if we did we would discuss together, research etc.

For day to day care I guess it will be me at home and making the decisions.
On bigger things like daycare/education etc we'll make them together.

The other debating thread has got me thinking that this is our child not just mine and its for both of us to decide on how we raise her.

I know how this is going to sound but I make majority of the decisions, I talk to (at for all he takes in) DP about what I think and he just says ok. He knows I'm the one that deals with her day to day and have the best interests in mind. I decided on vacc, I decided on the vit k inj, I decided on cloth, I decided I wasn't going back to work and that I would be studying. I have the time to do the research and its my time that will be taken up with whatever the choices we make are.

Anything medical or health wise, DH defers to me (I've got a medical background) he trusts me to make the right decision there, I think he knows as long as I'm calm everything is good.
Everything else (parenting, sleep, discipline, feeding) DH has pretty strong feelings about, so we tend to discuss everything, and he's pretty clever.

me and DH decide everything together. we are the same though and pretty much agree on everything. it also depends on the other experiences you have. we both know the same families and the same kids which is where a lot of our decsions in regards to TV and food and stuff comes from. i probably get to pull the strings a wee bit more as i am the one who is around them more but he will always put his 10 cents in over things when they come up and we work it out 2getha

SMoody wrote: For us it has been a continous conversation. It started before we got married when we discussed how many kids we would like to have and him saying he would want one of us to be a SAHP. Then it just went from there. As things came up we just discuss it. It is more easier for me to sometimes research things more due to hubby working but there has been a few occasions that he sends me links or tell me things and we look into it further.

Yep this is most like us. I tend to make the day to day decisions because I'm with them during the day but the big stuff we talk about. So one of us staying home we discussed, discipline, then when the time came we discussed types of childcare and so on. I have done most of the deciding about food though, the oldest has allergies and I am also anal about preservatives etc. Dh calls me the food nazi but it's a title I'm proud of!

With the vaxxing, I hate to say it but I was in the you just do it cos the doc says, they wouldn't give it out if it wasn't safe, I had them it didn't hurt me, I wouldn't forgive myself if they got a disease that a vaccine could prevent club. Dh was the one who first brought up not doing them. I wasn't convinced (I was scared of not doing them, cos that is how we have all been programmed) but after he showed me some research, told me what the chiro and homeopathic doc he had talked to were saying I was convinced enough to at least go and look into it and then quite frankly I was horrified at what I found but I was still scared about not doing it. Originally we had planned to hold off until he was 2, but as we did more research over that time it's been decided that they will never have them done (not unless something majorly changes with regard to the vaccines themselves).


Circumcision we have never even talked about. DH isn't done and I would never contemplate having them done unless it was medically necessary so I guess with that one discussion wasn't needed.