Gory details...

OK I have just started to think about the actual process of giving birth, and I realised I am not sure what actually happens. I mean, I know you push the kid out right? But then do you have to push more stuff out, is there like two parts? And does it take long? I guess I was just wondering cos i imagined pushing thsi baby out and then eveyrone running in to see it but what if i am still pushing out all the other stuff - that would be a bit wierd? Also I was wondering about *cough ahem aham* bowel movements. I have heard you can have them and this scares the life out of me - I just find the whole thought so humiliating! So for the ladies who have done it, can you please tell me exactly what happens, do you push baby out then have to push more stuff out, and does it take long, and do they clean you up before they let the rest of the family in, and is it common to have "äccidents" - I know it's gross but I just think that if I know what to expect I can come to terms with it before the day...?
TIA!

Edited by mrs frantic

The placenta birth part is actually quite intersting I thought. Also when I was in labour, I really didn't care who was in the room. And I was really body-image hang up beforehand.

as for poo,. no poo for me...i tihnk. I was "active" in the bathroom after labour actually, which apparently is weird as it should be beforehand too.

yep, I agree with all of the above, esp. the um bowels opening and clearing themselves out before hand. Apparently most people are worried about that, so don't feel weird. Also, the placenta thing is easy compared to the baby thing, by then you will be so blissed out over your little creation, and like they all say, you won't give a fiddlers' what you look like. It was just me, DH and baby for about an hour or so after, which was really amazing. We didn't even ring or tell anyone till about and hour and a half after He was born, we let the midwife clean him up etc then. It was really special knowing we were the only ones who knew about him for that very short time. A special secret!
Alas, I rant again..

I was always really repulsed by the thought of all the blood etc that would be there after the birth, to the point that I rejected the idea of a water birth cause I didn't want to be sitting in a pool of bloody water.... In the end, I had a water birth and the water was not bloody or gross.

Placenta, had to get out of the pool to deliver it. Don't really remember it. Your midwife can give you an injection to hurry it up or you can decide to go naturally, the conversation should come up in reference to your birth plan. I do not remember if it were painful, but I do remember that my midwife tried to show it to me but I am a bit too squeamish for that!

I didn't poo during the birth either, I can imagine that pooing in the pool would've less than attractive. I wouldn't worry about that tho, at the time you will have far too many other things to think about!

hEY - HOW BOUT, YOU GO READ SOME OF OUR BIRTH STORIES - ITS UNDER THE PREGNANCY PART OF THE SITE, UNDER THE HEADING BIRTH STORIES - IT HAS A FAIR FEW OF OUR BIRTH STORIES ON IT AND WE ALL HAVE HAD DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES EVEN FROM 1 CHILD TO THE NEXT..   ARGH!!! sorry, mike put caps lock on again and there no way i was deleting it and typing again.

any way, we are all different... but hearing other's birth stories can help dispell some of the hazyness that surrounds giving birth, for the 1st and even for the 2nd, 3rd 4th times lolol.

All tho I had a C Section...I did push for hours...I remember telling my midwife...oh crap I dont know if I am pushing other things out (Ahem...poo)...she said dont worry about it!!!! Just push! and I did. I dont know if there was any thing or not and did not care to be quite honest....All I wanted was a natural birth (which did not happen)..and a healthy baby.

Edited by Roksana

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hehe i have book marked this for hubby coz he asks about the process

When I had Bailey, I had him Standing up leaning into a beanbag which was on the end of the bed, I had Bailey at 11.47am and as far as I was awaer I didnt have any 'extra' (poo) I must admit though it certianly felt like I was going to, ecpecially when they said let me know if you are wanting to 'poo'... and it was just bailey pushing against my bum I too had a concern about this and the midwife asured me that it is completly normal and you would be suprised how many woman actually do it. She said if you do, dont be embarrest its natural.
As for the placenta I was still standing and they had just given Bailey to me (up under my legs) and she asked again if I wanted the injection, I said yes. I gave Bailey to the other midwife who wrapped him in a towl and gave him straight to Jamie (this was great... Jamies first hold, and I didnt mind as I was preoccupied I climbed up onto the bed and 10 minutes later at 11.57 the placenta was 'born'
as for getting cleaned up, they covered me in towels straight away and was given back bailey... we then proceded to have our first feed, which lasted 1 hour, I then got up and had a shower and the rest of the family arrived a couple of hours later

Sorry for the novel hehehehe