irrational fears???

I'm 14 weeks pregnant today... Yaaaayyyy!!! Hallelujah for the 2nd trimester.
For the last couple of weeks, I've been worrying more. I'm naturally a ponderer, but not a real worry-wart, and used to be miss independent and afraid of very, very little. But recently I've worried SO MUCH that something bad could happen to my lovely husband. He barely knows what it's like to worry about anything, and will happily climb up on the roof to fix it, carry on finishing a job before getting the 5 stitches he needs thanks to said job, drive too fast, climb tressles and and perch on spaces so small you have to, well, perch on them to work... and he hasn't come to any major harm.

But suddenly I'm WORRYING all the time! It's terrible - I know it's a waste of time and energy and happiness, but it seems he can't get in his car without me giving him a "drive safely" speech (in all reality, I don't know that it is entirely irrational to fear that a man who speeds sometimes could come to or cause harm by accident). I dreaded him taking a 2-hour drive in the weekend in case he crashed, and the other morning when he popped out to quickly get some food and took 30 mins doing so, I'd already had to fend off pictures of being widowed and not knowing what to do with everything. Now at least I know that's rediculous, but I can't seem to stop it happening.

What I'm wondering is, do others find that pregnancy has a similar effect? I've been very hormonal/emotional with pregnancy anyway, and that I can understand, but the worrying thing is just entirely destructive. If this is something that's a 'normal' ailment of the delicate condition, something that will pass, then I'll stop worrying about the worrying; but if it's not, then methinks I'd better try to address it asap, so as not to become a total worry-wart of a mother - worrying about things we are powerless over really does rob us of some of our joy! See - I know this, yet I'm still in it. Go figure. I miss by previously brave self and want her back!!!

This is my third time pregnant, and I'm worrying too! I'm driving Nat crazy, but he realises that its just a hormonal/emotional thing and I can't really control it... Relax ( just kidding) you are normal!

Yep, although mine are mostly paranoias that the baby has died or something terrible has happened to baby. Totally irrational, but also totally natural!

yup me too, i am also a bit of an overthinker by nature but am a real worrier during pregnancy. i was pretty bad after my daughter arrived too, but i think that was also the natural reaction to becoming comletely responsible for another (tiny and helpless) human being's welfare. now i'm back to fretting everytime DH leaves the house now that i am expecting again.

I know exactly how you feel. I worry so much more about something happening to my husband now than I ever used to.
Crazy!

Sorry to tell you, but I am still a bit like that now Sometimes when Daniel is late I get these awful visions of having to bring Hannah up alone and how would I cope without him... I am a bit of a worrier tho

I too am a crazy lady, I worry about hubby when he drives alone but probably more when him and I have gone somewhere together without the children!!!! I have a huge fear of what would happen if something happened to us both. Sometimes we fly with only one of the children and that just does my head in.......

So andie welcome to the world of parenthood! It never stops I am sure as I have a 14 year old and a bub. The 14 year old girl brings her own quarry of stress and then my wee one has me worrying about all sorts of illness's, developmental disorders etc etc - all completely irrational but apparently normal mummy fears.

Thanks, ladies
Good to see it's quite "normal" to worry more about hubby's wellbeing during pregnancy (good prep for spending the rest of my life concerned about our kids, eh! ha ha ha). I guess it kinda highlights things that might have lurked in the back of our minds beforehand, and I suppose I figured that out of all the bad things that could happen to us now, the most likely would be for my husband to have a car or work accident.
I think it'll settle down but I see what you mean Deharn, life will never be as carefree (oh why do some brands have to go and ruin perfectly good words for us?!?) again!
If it got worse, or didn't evolve into something more reasonable, I'd be seeking help faster than friends could say "I think she's cracked"!
Thanks for the reassurance, peoples.

Ahh pregnancy is full of irrational fears.

Geez, why does anyone do it?!??!?! I'm definitely not having any more kids.

i second that one nicki