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Shezamumof3 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:04pm |
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Maya
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:06pm |
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OK so my parents booked a trip to Portugal AFTER they found out the gremlins were coming for right around the time they were born, so I totally feel your pain!
Sucky, and I will *never* get over it! (Mum thinks I am a drama queen)
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:06pm |
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OMG that is awful... :( I would be sooo mad!
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:07pm |
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I'm confused though why wouldn't she want to be there..how selfish and b^&%&y of her! not a true friend:(
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:11pm |
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Well, i guess you know where her alliances lie...
If she chooses to go overseas knowing full well that you are getting married.. OK, unless its like THE biggest band ever and its a one off show that they will never repeat.. If that is not that case and she's just going cos she can?? Then thats not cool at all!
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:12pm |
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Sounds to me like her priorities have changed, and she feels the concert is more important to her than her best friends wedding.
If that's the case, call her bluff. Tell her to go to the concert and you'll find someone else to replace her.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:27pm |
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I had a similar situation and my bestie at the time ended up not being a bridesmaid. I could tell she wasn't that into it so I sat her down and asked her. Yep, it stung a bit but in the end, at least she wasn't forced to do something she didn't want to and I could replace her.
Do you think maybe she is jelly? Or do you just think she is that kind of person?
IMO I wouldn't have her as a bridesmaid. She doesn't sound worthy of sharing your special day in that way.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:34pm |
How rude. I wouldn't want her in my bridal party if she is going to be like that,
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:36pm |
How rude.. I'd be so angry if a friend was as selfish as this..
Like Becks said, I wouldn't want her in my bridal party if she acted like this 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:47pm |
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:48pm |
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if a 'friend' of mine did that, i'd tell her that's fine, i'll get someone else and don't bother with her at all.
a wedding is a one-off special time, concerts are happening all the time
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:50pm |
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Maybe not the same situation, but my this happened to my DH at OUR wedding last year, only his best friend decided he couldnt be best man because his pregnant partner was not included in the bridal party (he had only just met her, and she had him wrapped around her little finger!)
he didnt like the idea of her sitting at a table without him (she was lucky to be invited at ALL!) to top it all off his "withdrawal" from best man duties was sent via email and just weeks before our wedding. DH had no shame in letting him know how he felt! they arent friends anymore because of it.
in my opinion, EVEN if she was asked to be bridesmaid AFTER she knew about the band thing, she should still be at your wedding. Thats what best friends do. i cant imagine why anyone would choose a stupid band over a friend! in fact i find it so frustrating when friends do things like this to each other.
If this was me, i would wait until the next time i spoke with her.. then when the concert is brought up again i would say "oh, you are actually SERIOUS?! i thought that was all a big joke, i didnt seriously think you would go to a concert instead of my wedding".
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:51pm |
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 1:53pm |
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:24pm |
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h,mmmm that is just really horrible
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:32pm |
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That does suck..
But... and I'm not taking her side at all, as I would be steamed as well... She is clearly at a different life stage to you. I would just cut her loose. She obvously dosen't get how important the wedding is to you, and dosen't get why you don't understand why this concert isn't that important to you. Different life stage, different priorities. You will maybe reconnect when she catches up life stage wise.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:44pm |
sounds like she is totally jealous.. got a friend like that and she always turns the stuff back on her..
sounds like you could have made your mind up.. not worth having the stress for your wedding... imagine what she will be like leading up to the wedding....
i would tell her you are going to ask someone that will be in the country 
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:48pm |
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Well, this sounds for the week for crappy treatment by friends doesn't it??
I agree with cutting her loose to be honest, it sounds like you really have drifted apart and she has made it clear where her priorities are.
*big hugs*. These things suck!
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 3:03pm |
Yeah I'd say she's jealous. I think you're better off without her TBH but I think you're right, wait until you're settled with Caden before you worry about confronting her.
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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 3:07pm |
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