Some advice please!

I think if it were me I would probably tell them sooner rather than later. Like you say, your SIL is not thinking of starting a family for another 4 years and at that stage may have decided on other names. We have decided not to tell people the names that we have chosen just in case someone decides to steal one of the names for a child of their own.

I wont bother telling her.......

Just keep it to yourself (only if it is what you want). Its not any ones business what you name your child. If some one has a problem with the name they can deal with it!!!

I did not tell my MIL what I was naming Zaara untill the day she was born....she said she wanted to name her some thing else and we told her tough...we have decided on her name and that is it!!!





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Well if has wanted it all her life then it's the first we've ever heard of it and as we chose ours around a year ago...you get my drift....

This btw is the same SIL who sulked when we got pregnant because she thought it would detract from her upcoming wedding so you can understand why I think her sulking is highly possible!

personally i wouldnt tell her till baby has arrived - you may decide not to use the name, and if you do, when everyone has seen your little girl and identified her as *name*, they will be less likely to listen to her sulking. even your sil may decide that. besides, you cant "bags" names ahead of others, thats just silly. In our family there is xanthe, my nephew zander, and my sister wants to call her future daughter zanzibar - all similar but so what? perhaps you could drop into conversations that you have chosen the name a year ago, and it is special to you etc etc... get her used to the idea of a special name ahead of telling her what it is.

Hey Paws,
A few thigns come to mind - first off you cant "book" names for a non-existant baby, how silly! Secondly I think if it was me I woudl just keep quiet until baby comes - the reason being that everyone will be so happy and if she sulks then she will really be exposed for being completely childish and selfish, and I would say taht at that point the family will tell her to pull her head in and they will deal with her - I understand why you are tryin to get her "sulk" out of the way, but to be honest with people like that I just think if they are going to be so selfish let them expose themselves totally and perhaps they will feel some shame for the way they are acting! (or they wil be upset in private and not show it so that they dont expse themselves which is likely too which is good for you cos it means that she will just have to get over it in her own time)-you are havin a baby first, you get to chose a name first. End of story. She needs to grow up by teh sounds of it...just my opinion anyway...

oh and we have 3 names in our family starting with j and 1 that means james in maoir so what its only a name

i wouldnt tell her, its your descion, she shoudlnt of said anything like that anyway!!!! and what if you didnt name your baby what you like, and then she didnt even have a same sex child to name the baby that anyway! argh!
i dont think you can really "book" a name for so far away, things can change in that time anyway, and she might not even want to call her "future" baby that. i was always going to call my son zach bailey but when i got pregnant (and before i knew i was having a girl) i went off of it, and hubby didnt want it anyway either....

do whats right for YOU and your hubby and your precious baby

I understand that you dont want her to be a downer when baby is here...but ask your self this....will your family care what the @$%& she is doing when your beautiful little girl is here? They will be way to happy to see her and too busy to get to know her to notice what she is up to.......Can you tell I am pissed off about this? I just hate people like that!!!!

Hehehehe I know what you mean....I think the only reason we're not mad (yet anyway) is that B's obviously grown up with her always being like this and I'm getting used to it.

We're going to go with the advice of telling her once bubs arrives and let her deal with it herself. After all if she does say anything then and there to me she will be dealing with a woman who has just been through labour so hopefully she'll think twice!

We're also going to take the advice of dropping into conversation the fact that we picked the names a year ago.

Besides my MIL is bound to pull her into line quick smart unless hubby or I beat her to it!

Thanks all!

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sounds like a great plan paws and i would,nt want to pi33 off a lady whos just gone though labour lol and sounds like you have a grweat mil