Those with FOUR kids

I'm know I'm completely crazy for even posting a topic about it, but I am really curious...

HOW DO YOU COPE WITH FOUR CHILDREN?

The ones I seen on here with four children (or 3 with one on the way) the ages of the kids are pretty close together, so things would be really full on.

I'm questioning this, because DH is keen to have another child in a couple of years.  I seriously wanted DH to get the chop after Jett was born, and still would be happy for him to do this - and he is too - but he thinks we shouldn't make any rash decisions yet either just incase we change our minds.

I know a few things though - I DON'T want to be pregnant again!  So that's a huge factor in it.  If DH could carry the child, I'd be happy to have another one.  I'm constantly tired now, and that's with Jett pretty much sleeping through the night.  I don't think my body would cope with having another child, and being sleep deprived again.

I know in my case, there would be more CONS than PROS to us having another baby.  I just go through these clucky moments and DH & I love our kids so much, and see how cute they are all together, I know another baby would fit in nicely.  Even Rico says he's like another brother or sister!  I grew up in a family of 4 kids and it's great now (not so much growing up, I was the odd one out - 3rd girl and a younger annoying brother).

So tell me all about having 4 children!

I would love another girl.  I don't know why.  I just sold pretty much ALL Gia's baby clothes and she had some gorgeous stuff!  But realistically I don't want anymore children so I thought why have bags and bags of baby clothes taking up space?

Arrrgh!  My mind says no - but my heart says yes! 

Like you Rach, I know going out places would be manic - taking 4 kids in tow.  We don't go out a lot really anyway, we just love being home with the kids, but then will go do family things like go to the beach or park.  But going to peoples homes with them all wouldn't happen much, except our families places.  Also, if DH & I do need to go out, getting a babysitter for 4 kids is a big ask!  Although normally it's my mum who does the babysitting and she's had 4 kids before - although when she was much younger!  I think my MIL would have a heart attack if we announced another pregnancy - infact I think all my friends would!  Then again, they all are just expecting us to have another child anyway!!!  Why, I don't know????????

I know I have my age as a positive.  But I have horrible pregnancies.  Seriously bad morning sickness, and even more extreme tiredness.  And after having a post-partum haemmorhage with Jett, even though giving birth was easy (yes - it truely was!) I'd freak about haemorrhaging again.  Although haemmorhaging once doesn't mean you'll likely to again, does it?

When I'm in first & early second trimester of pregnancy I can't do much for myself, let alone look after the rest of the family.  So I feel like the kids would suffer and I feel bad that I wouldn't be able to care for them properly. 

I know I wouldn't have anymore children in the near future because I truely don't think I'd handle it.  But I guess it's up for discussion in a few years?

You never regret the kids you have - you regret the ones you didin';t have

I agree with this totally Ann.  Jett wasn't planned (although we would've had another eventually, he just came a year earlier than planned), but I totally love having him around even though Gia was only 13 months when Jett was concieved. 

I think that's why I'm pondering #4 now, because Jett is 13 months and I always seem to get clucky once my baby turns 1.  So I think I need to get through this stage, and think with a clear head in a few years.  I'd hate to get in my mid-late 30's and regret not having another.