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NeoshasMummy
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Topic: Sorry Need To Vent Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:27pm |
Well I had arranged a birthday dinner for myself out a local bar/restaurant and invited all my close friends to come out and celebrate with me as I hardly ever go out. That was all good, most people could come and booked that weekend and today the day we are ment to be going out I have had txt after txt saying sorry busy or can't make it see you next week, have fun without me and now im left with myself, DP and a good friend.....that is out of like10 people all of which I see on a weekly basis. I rang two others that hadn't cancelled and neither have answered the phone. I am left pretty depressed actually, the same thing happened with Neosha's birthday we had almost everyone RSVP by the date then 9 people cancel that day and 5 just not turn up, im probably having just a sensitive day but I have never missed an event that I was invited to, I make it to all their birthdays and dinner parties. I have only been here in Gisborne a couple of years but know my friends in Auckland would never do this to me especially on my birthday.  Again im probably being over sensitive but it has been happening alot lately.
Do you think I am being unreasonable by getting upset? I chose an affordable place to go and on a day when people aren't working, gave 2 weeks notice and got people to rsvp.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:37pm |
Happy Birthday! (although it doesn't sound like you are too happy right now).
That is horrible Jess. I think it is awful if they RSVP'd and have all cancelled. I can understand a few would maybe have things come up unexpectedly but all of them!?
You are not being over sensitive. I would be very upset too.
I hope you still have a nice time with DP and your friend tonight.
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NeoshasMummy
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:38pm |
Yeah there were no reasons... just oh well got other plans. I could understand if there were issues with kids and stuff but it's not. Oh well guess you know who your real friends are.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:40pm |
I would be upset too hun!! It's reasonable that some might have genuine reasons, illness, probs with kids that sort of thing...but to just have other plans....that really sucks!
Happy Birthday hun!!!! I hope you have a great day anyway!
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:50pm |
I was upset after a birthday like that too, and was telling DH that I must have real issues about it 'cause it just hurt my feelings so much - he said 'well anyone would be upset if that happened - happens to us all and I don't know anyone who doesn't feel stink about it'... and he's not at all sensitive, and doesn't indulge people in having 'issues' one bit! So if even he thinks that, I'd say you're not being a petal about it - it plain sux when that happens and I'm sure most of us have had it happen, too (so either we're all nigel no-mates or there's no need to take it personally, your friends as a collective just stink this weekend!).
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:56pm |
Thanks just needed someone else to tell me that im not a total dork by sitting here getting upset over it. The one good friend that is always there and never misses a beat came for breakfast this morning and made me a beautiful cake... im really grateful for that at least I know someone cares.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 2:57pm |
Dont worry I'll still be there! We can have fun without everyone else!! And u so better not cancel cos Im SOOO going out!!!
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:00pm |
LOL thanks, I felt like not going out but I shouldn't let it get the best of me.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:07pm |
Aww chick! I had a birthday like that last year, I was really gutted too and I really wanted to cancel the whole thing because I felt so stink about myself.
DH wouldn't let me though and even though it was only 5 of us in the end, we had such a fun night and I was really appreciative of the people who did make the effort to be there in the end.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Don't let slack friends spoil your night, you don't need lots of people there to have a good time.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:11pm |
Happy Birthday!
As some of the others have said, it's happened to all of us so it's not just you  I think it's harder when you've moved away from home though.. I know I'm always thinking of how much better it would be if my close friends (who never let you down) could be there.
We'll just have to throw you a virtual party in here
And make sure you dress up extra nice and ENJOY YOURSELF tonight, I bet it will still be fun x
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:19pm |
Well we could always do something diff instead! Or u can tell the outlaws that they are invited after all
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:37pm |
Bruce said he can sit in between us LOL a women on each arm  I haven't heard from C yet so she might come and if I changed the plans now could you imagine it!  Im ok now I was just on a high then it started going wrong but I know im going to have fun. Oh oh oh and I got some more westlife and britney spears songs on singstar. Im such a dork LOL
Sorry for my lil wimp out guys  but you all made me feel so much better
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:40pm |
Oh yay bring on singstar! He he! God poor bruce having to put up with us 2!!
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:44pm |
Happy Birthday chick :)
But i think its really rude if people have rsvped saying they were coming then cancel as they had other plans... I loath people who cancel already made plans to make others...
Have a good night out anyway :)
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 3:45pm |
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 5:10pm |
My Dad always told me that you can count your true friends on one hand and most people don't even get that many.
Chick, people are fickle and they just don't get it. Clearly they are not as important in your life as you thought. If they don't have enough respect to show up then they don't deserve your time and worry. I tend to walk away from people like that cause they cause more hurt than good. 'd far prefer one friend than ten acquaintances. Tell them to stick it.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 5:34pm |
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dont worry about your friends........you have the most important people with you and that's all that matters. Hope you've had a great day....aside from the pullouts!
MIL has made a birthdy cake for the BBQ dinner we're having over there place, so I'm glad I didn't go down to the supermarket last night and buy one to eat by myself lmfao.
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 5:53pm |
Happy birthday!
You're completely allowed to feel down and pissed off with so many people cancelling. I ditto what everyone else says.
Even though it's now only a small, select few, have a fab time and enjoy having a night out!
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 7:45pm |
Happy Birthday
I would be P#SSED I don't mind people saying they can't make it but to say they will and then pull out the last minute really makes me mad. I have one friend in particular who does this on a regular basis and its got to the point I don't actually ask her to go to places as one she will say she will come and then doesn't or she just doesn;t reply to my invite so i am left wondering if she is or isnt coming.
 It sure suxs
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Posted: 15 November 2008 at 7:57pm |
I would be upset too!! Maybe it's just really, really bad luck?!? And if not, then you need some new, better friends!
Happy Birthday!! I hope you have a fabulous night out, even though it is just a few of you. And I hope it ends in tragic Britney renditions at home.
Hugs!
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