She Hates It..

What can i do, it tears me apart to see her cry so hard when i drop her off at daycare. Like that begging please dont leave me cry. It sucks so bad.
Its to the point where i actually want to take her out of daycare. The only reason i started her early was because i want to study next year and need her in daycare fulltiome come feb.

What can i do, does it get better? This morning i just wanted to cry!

I know i was like huh? Awww i really feel for your friend though.. i wouldnt know what to do in a time like that.

It's a hard one..yes it does get better..but for some children it really does take a while:( I can only imagine how heartbreaking it is.. :( If I was you I would stick with it though.. does she settle later?(do you ring later on?)

maybe drop her off and the sneak back in later to see how she is (without her knowing).  You might be suprised to see a happy wee girl playing.  Think how much they cry and rip out our hearts when we put them to bed sometimes.

For the first couple of months everytime I left Ella at daycare she would cry...but I knew as soon as I left she was happy as. When you leave does one of the teachers give her a cuddle? Ella now doesn't cry when I leave, but  still always gets one of the teachers to give her a cuddle as I am leaving.  I read someone that it was good for them to be a bit upset when you leave and then for someone to give them a cuddle, so that they are know they are in a safe place and someone will look out for them.

 

I know it is hard....but it should get better soon.

I think it was a good idea to have her go part-time now, so that hopefully by the time she starts full-time she will be fully settled.

I had the same thing. In the end the only thing that worked so she stopped screaming when I left, was me changing my attitude! It got so bad with me getting so stressed with Isla crying and me feeling guilty about having her there that the head teacher took me aside, and gave me some good tips on making it better for the both of us,..and it worked!

I had to decide at home if she was gonna go to daycare that day - cos when she started crying there I would have all these things running through my head like ' oh god maybe shes too tired, she did have a bit of a runny nose yesterday maybe I should take her home, she was up in the night s maybe she s too tired to be here etc etc. So I would decide in the orning - yes she s fine to go to daycare, and that was my final decision!
I have a diff bag that she only ever uses for daycare and I get it out in the morning of the day shes going, and talk about that shes going there and mummy will come back and get her later. All the time we get ready and on the way there I keep saying that, and things like "who's at daycare?! we list her friends and the name of the teachers etc', and u can do mummy a painting, and you like the sandpit etc etc.
I started doing exactly the same routinue when I took her, sign the book, take her food to the bench then hang her bag up etc,..getting isla to help me by showing me where her bag goes etc- all things to help her feel like she belongs there. Then take her tpo an activity/sandpit of what eve, then after a few mins say "Isla mummy is going to go soon, and I will come back and get u later', then in a min or so,...;right mummy is going to go now Isla, give me a kiss,...bye, see you later",..all the while being ocverly enthusiastic and happy and positive,...then just leave and not look back. I always waited where she couldnt see me, until she stopped crying.

You should see her now! She absoultely LOVES it there! She even often asks to go there on a non-daycare day! lol! I struggle to even get her to give me a kiss goodbye now, she is off and having fun!

Im sure Kylah will love it soon too. Its definatly a good idea to start her now, long before u need to. She will be settled in by then, an u wont have this stress/worry like u are having now.

Hope some of that helps!!

ETA- Isla was 15months old when she started at daycare.

Edited by Kellz

Kandise, lachie does the exactaly some thing. He screams (goes purple the whole bit) and I feel awful but the teachers said he settles in a couple of min and then loves it and everytime I arrive back he is always happy and playing away in the sandpit or chasing other kids around the place - he LOVES the older kids. He used to start crying as soon as I returned but now he often continues what he is doing once he sees me heading over so I know that he is more settled. But I really do wish he would not do the screaming thing. Talk about tugging at your heart strings!

I think it is great you are getting her used to it this year before she goes to full time next year.

Kandice - Didnt read what other have written! but I put Z at day care after she was one years old and that was the worse time because by then she is use to familier faces and she develops the understanding and so dropping her off every mornig was HELL!!

Just like Kylah Z was fine soon after I left but for those 5 min she was Blue in the face crying!! You wont believe it but she is 3 years old now and up untill recently she would cry when I left...Teachers did a good job distracting her but still she managed a few tears...and it was horrible. Finally tho she is a happy little girl and waves good bye and kisses and cuddles me before I go. I also phone at 1.30ish to see what she is upto and she is always next to the phone and has a small convo with me which is awesome!

Hang in there hun...they do get use to it!! Our DC teachers told me...some kids take 1 week to get use to it...some take 1 month (in my case two years...LOL)...But they do get over it...and then they love it! Depending on the child ofcourse!

Big Hugs...I know how you feel!!

Thanks for all your replies. i know shes happy when i go, but even when i come back to get her, as soon as she sees me she drops what shes doing and starts grizzling.. like she doesnt want me to see that shes happy.

dont take her out hun i know its hard jamescryed like that foe about a year but i was a hard ass and knew he relly had fun whens he here he now runs there and is relly settled just try to stick it out it will get easer