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mrs frantic 
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:19pm |
Well no use beating around the bush here I won't mince words...
I had a bit of bleeding at 21 weeks... everything checked out fine afterwards BUT they couldnt find the reason. The midwife said at the time NO SEX!!! Which was fine with us cos we were so freaked out anyway.
Well now we are at 30 weeks and there had been nothing happen since...all has been normal... and so the fear is slowly leaving us and were thinking hmmm....might not be so bad hmmmmm....
So I asked the midwife today and she said that since nothing has happened we can try again...
While I am actually quite keen, I am also a bit nervous...
So I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and then resumed relations safely...?
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:24pm |
sorry i can't help you on that one...i would most likely use it as an excuse to NOT have sex until after baby 
poor hubby, i have lost my sexdrive completely!
i would say just try it, but take it slow and see how you feel. 
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:26pm |
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I bled quite a bit through the first half of my pregnancy with Josiah... we were never told no sex, but I was fairly reluctant as that was one of the (many) things that seemed to trigger a bleed.
Once things had settled down (around 23ish weeks) we resumed relations with no problems.
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:29pm |
I had a major bleeding at 18 weeks and was told no sex because tho there was no reason for the bleeding I had a small pouch of bllod sitting in there and doc said it is best to stay away till its all gone.....so finally at about 28 weeks or so I found out (after a scan) that its gone...I was very happy to jump my husband but Hubby was still so freaked out that he wont touch me.....Sad I know!! And he was afraid to hurt the baby!
So not much help I am....but if you are both keen go for it...but stay away from the mad freaky sex...you know kitchen bench, table etc..... ...he he ha ha ha
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:42pm |
ha ha no no I wasnt thinking of anything mad or freaky Roksana... my natural athleticism and flexibility seems to be somewhat decreased at the moment....?!?!?! 
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Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:44pm |
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I had bleeding early on with Andrew and was told no sex. Fine for me as I so did not feel like it at all. After a few weeks we were told it was all fine and could go for it. Ease into it don't go for any records with postitions, think easy for you.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 1:32pm |
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I had bleeding earlier on...quite a big bleed thought it was a miscarriage but then nothing happened. Ended up being a Placenta bleed where it pulled away. Bled for about 2-3 weeks and stopped. We have a pretty normal sex life now altho in saying that things are getting a weeeeee bit uncomfy but still okay!
Just be gentle.....no aerobics!!! (or should I say tell Hubby to be gentle)......
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 2:01pm |
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I wasn't sure if I should have started a new thread, but it sorta fits with this topic... anyway, once we are getting a bit more sleep and Erin has more of a routine, plus my stitches dissolve / bleeding stops, I can't wait to jump hubby again ! Although we have yet to have any serious thoughts about family planning LOL
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 2:46pm |
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yeah I have been trying to think ahead to the family palanning bit aswell for after when we are ready but have no idea what we will do - I used to use the combined pill but you cant use it if you are breastfeeding apparently so guess we will have ot find something else... ofcourse i am getting ahead of myself a bit here - who knows if I will even have the desire after all of that!?!?!?!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 3:02pm |
OOOH I LOST MY SEX DRIVE! I THINK IT TOOK MY MIND WITH IT TOO! 
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 3:39pm |
You can use the minipill will breastfeeding... you have to take it at the same time every day (to within an hour) for it to be effective, and there are the same things to watch out for as the combined pill (antibiotics, grapefruit, excessive vomiting) that make it useless.
(says me, who got pregnant on the minipill, while using it correctly! )
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 4:05pm |
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Hehehe, me too Becca! That's how my daughter got here!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 4:57pm |
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yeah I have heard that if you are very fertile the mini pill can be quite risky - considering I was on the pill of 10 years and two weeks after I cam off I was pg I think I might be pretty fertile so I am a bit worried about it as an option....ahhh still some time to figure that all out I guess
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 7:19pm |
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Yeah, I third getting preggo on the minipill.
Midwife told me the risks being extra fertile... and did I listen? Nope.
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 10:59am |
Please STOP saying that you guys...you are freaking me out!!!
I am on the mini pill too..........
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 11:02am |
Sorry Roksana - I am sure you will be fine - it's just what I have heard thats all...
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 2:00pm |
oh I sure hope so, not that I dont want another baby but I dont one now......
Well I have to run to the loo straight after I gues.... LOL
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 2:07pm |
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You'll be fine, Roksana.
I'd stopped breastfeeding completely, and was waiting for my period so I could start the combined pill again... and it didn't come properly... and I still haven't had the LMP this pregnancy is dated from!
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 2:34pm |
Is it true taht while youa re breastfeeding you cant get pregnant? I have heard people say it but it seems a bit risky?!?!?
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Posted: 20 July 2006 at 2:37pm |
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It's not true Frantic. It can seriously decrease your chances of getting pregnant but it is definitely not a reliable form of contraception. I know a couple of people who've gotten preggy while exclusively breastfeeding their babies because they thought they were safe!
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