i need advice!!

If the complaint had been investigated and fault had been found, then I would consider. However, if you're getting on well, you feel you are getting the same care as you did with #1 and #2, then I'd probably stick with her. Have you heard positive feedback about her?

I think sometimes peoples expectations of a MW are way to high! Not saying that is the case here but often I am surprised by what people expect from their MW and what bugs them about their MW.

My MIL is a retired MW and I am shocked by what some people ring her about and the times they ring!

So, I would go with my gut instinct. If you are happy with her care and feel that all your basic needs are being meet etc, then I would stick with her.

Edited to add - who did you get your MW through and who is encouraging her to make an official complaint etc?

My MIL is on the Midwifery council and I am happy to ask her opinion on the situation and/or the MW if you like. Just PM me.

Edited by Peanut

From someone who HAS laid a complaint against a m/w (and also 2 other women I know laid complaints against her too, and I find out after the fact that she has one of 'those' reputations), I would think about what the complaint is about. Like others have said, some people have high/unrealistic expectations, some don't actually know what a m/w does etc.

If you feel confident in her care, then stick with her. I think your gut feeling goes a long way with these things (I for one never felt comfortable with my m/w).

Go with your gut on your own care from her, I suspect mw's get complaints all the time from people who want to be "babied". Keep your eyes open but don't stress yet. Also remember that if you are feeling not cared for as you think you should, talk with her about it.

If you were happy with your care before you found out before the complaint then I wouldn't change. I had the same midwife as a girl in my coffee group and talking to her afterwards she didn't really rate the midwife, felt she wasn't supportive after the birth etc etc, whereas I felt the complete opposite!

apparently, my MW didnt check this ladies urine stick (where she did with mine) and this woman also has problems with diabetes so is under the care of the hospital as well and i dont think the MW had much to do with that side of things...also the MW didnt listen for her the babies heartbeat at 15 wks.. i get the feeling this woman had a recent scan at hospital soknowing all was well probably didnt think it nesacary...the woman didnt ask to hear the heartbeat as im sure if she said 'can we listen' the MW would of...
so its just a build up of little things where she was feeling not looked after.
ihavent felt like this with her...so im thinking it must just be a person to person thing..
i support the other woman as if i was feeling abit neglected i would change too...but its all good in our camp.

Heya, reading with interest here, as we share same MW...

My first preg didn't go so well and I found the MW I had then completely washed her hands of me when I needed her the most (I needed a referral for d&c and she basically cut me off and repeately told me "no you don't') but yet wouldn't take 5mins to actually make it for me when I was in a distressed state!

As I was only a few months along, I wasn't sure if her 10min (if that!) appointments were normal or not and didn't know what was to be expected... this lady had years of experience etc so I just assumed she knew what was what.

I found out while searching for a MW this time that she was going through court as there was a an incident, and found through friends of friends they had also seen her and made complaints about her as well.

To shorten my wee novel... I was quite particular on who I was choosing as my MW this time round, and I do find my current one to be quite thorough but then again it is my first really so again I am just assuming that what she does is the norm!
But I am comparing her to the ogre I had previously...

Im happy with my current, I feel she explains everything quite well, gives me pamphlets left right and centre haha

Remember that you can change your mw at any time during you pregnancy so I would stay with her but if you start feeling like your aren't recieving full care (and you would know as this is not your first) then change. Only problem with that would be avaliability of another mw. I am in Aux and I changed MW at 36 weeks and went on to have a lovely lovely mw so try not to stress about it too much.

The only problem with changing m/w is they're quite often not available. I tried to change mine from 27 weeks onwards but there was noone available unless I went with the hospital m/w's. So better to change sooner rather than later.

Flake wrote: Did something go wrong that the midwife missed? For example, my midwife was fantastic up until the birth and had me pushing at 7cm. Now I had no idea anything like that would happen, her pre birth care was awesome but no way will I risk going back.

Umm, mine had me pushing at 4cm . I don't think I will ever understand how it happened.   Needless to say I have a different MW this time.

Peanut is exactly right - it's such a gut instinct thing. If you feel happy & comfortable with her then I'd be inclined to stay put.