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jjands
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Topic: what does... Posted: 18 March 2009 at 1:57pm |
your DH do?? I'm curious as to what other peoples partners and husbands do...does he come home and grab a beer and park up for the night? Does he cook and clean? Does he play with the kids? what goes on ladies?
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:02pm |
He comes home, has a quick cuddle with Jack then goes off to the computer for an hour, asks when tea is ready then plays with Jack for 1/2 hours and puts Jack to bed. Other than that, I do everything
On weekends I get one sleepin morning but he's so noisy that I'm always awake anyway. And once I'm up I look after Jack, DH does whatever he wants basically. He's never grasped the concept of shared parenting, but he will pull his weight if push comes to shove, he just knows that he can throw his weight around and I'll put up with it cos he keeps us sheltered, fed and otherwise happy
Despite it all, I went back for another  He's a lot better than he used to be though, he comes from a screwed up household where his mother thinks the father should be allowed to take off for a week, shack up with random chicks then come back as long as he brings her flowers  At least I don't have THAT problem!
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:10pm |
Comes home, kisses his daughter before going outside for a smoke. I can rope him into changing maybe 1 nappy a day if I'm lucky. He mows the lawns once every 3 weeks. Goes away most weekends, either for a day trip fishing, or for a day ride on the bike or away for the weekend to see mates who live out of town.. He doesn't like bathing her so does that maybe once a fortnight. does dishes every 3rd day (but does a fantastic job when he does them.) Plays with her sometimes so I can cook his dinner.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:17pm |
DH gets home, gets changed and then plays with Oli pretty much until its time for his bath. I get him undressed and ready for his bath, whilst DH runs the bath. DH baths him and then I get him dressed, then DH does the bedtime bottle and puts him to bed. I do all the cooking and cleaning generally, but he does a LOT of stuff with Oli!
I am very lucky, DH gets up to him for his early morning bottle most mornings (normally about 6ish) then DH goes straight to work and goes straight back to bed after his bottle, so I get to wake up at my leisure! Oli normally wakes properly at 8ish. On a weekend we get one sleep in morning each!
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:24pm |
Now that I am working part time also DH helps out alot more but because he is on shift work it is a bit difficult. I am really lucky...DH is great and admitted that he will have to pull finger and help out a lot more and he has.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:33pm |
Mine is home half a day with Issy .. goes to work in avo (while Grandma watches Issy) .. then gets home in time to bath her, except on a Monday when he has evening classes.
On the days he is at home (Im home on a Wed) .. he does the washing and whatever housework needs doing, looks after Issy and studies as much as she allows him too.
Because im home before him .. I usually do dinner and I also feed Issy, I would bathe her but with my ever expanding bump its a tad uncomfy so he does that when he gets in.
On weekends .. I tend to hang out with her so he can get some study time in.
In saying that before he started studying he basically ran the house including cooking and I just went to work and earnt the money to buy the bacon for him to cook
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:40pm |
We both work full time so probably a wee bit different but we share the cooking (and whoever cooks, the other cleans up) and pay a cleaner! I do the washing but DH hangs it out and brings it in, I fold and put it away.
I do everything for DS in the morning e.g breakfast, dressed, room tidy, daycare bag and the daycare drop off. I am rather anal so also make sure the house is tidy before I leave the house.
I pick DS up from daycare but DH does his dinner, bath and bed routine at night, although I do clean up his dinner and get him dressed after his bath.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:49pm |
For now, while we don't have kids, DH comes home, grabs a beer and plonks himself in front of the TV. If he's hungry, he helps me cook tea. He mows the lawns maybe once every 8-10 weeks (he's SHOCKING). I do everything else, although he will help with the dishes if I ask him to. On the weekends, if we have racing, he starts getting the car ready about 10.30am and I go round about 4pm (I just muddle round home until then, or do things I want to do). He does make me a Milo in bed every morning before work, and I make him a coffee on the weekends.
When these two arrive, things are going to change dramatically. He knows he will have to start pulling finger, I think he's just making the most of it while he can. He's already said he will bring them in for their first feed when he gets up for work (I don't get up till later) if they're awake, and little things like that - and he will be doing the night feeds. And I have put my foot down and said I don't care what else happens, I WILL have a dishwasher by the time these two arrive, I don't care if it's 2nd hand, but I am NOT having dishes sitting round doing nothing or feeling the pressure to do them all the time. It's a non-negotiable and I don't care if he doesn't agree. It's what is happening
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 3:01pm |
My DP LOVES to clean so whenever hes home hes pretty much cleaning, or chilling with me or practicing his guitar. I do all the cooking and that suits me fine because id much rather do cooking than cleaning. As for the kids part we dont have any yet.... but when they come i know hell be pretty great he has a sister who is 12 years younger than him and his mum was a single mum so he helped her out ALOT so she could work etc, also just had a friend over with her two little ones under two and he was absolutely amazing with them! Yea i have it pretty good
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 3:10pm |
DH comes home, gets changed and then plays with Ella while I have a bit of break and do dinner. He then baths her and then hands her over to me to dress her and get her into bed. I cook dinner most nights (a lot of it I prepare while Ella is sleeping), but he does the washing up. On the 2 days that I work he gets her up in the morning and dresses her, while I have a shower and then I feed her breakfast.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 3:25pm |
DH gets home from work between 4 and 5 each day.
He gives her a cuddle and buggers off onto the computer for an hour or so while I feed her dinner and play.
He then gives her a bath, dresses her and plays.
I give her her bottle and put her to bed. DH gets funny about putting her to bed - it's odd.
We share the cooking (for us) during the week, but I prepare all of Hannah's meals (including breakfast every day, including weekends), and do all the housework and laundry. He, however, does his own laundry
So no sleeping in for me, but he misses out on the lovely sleepy smiles and snuggles 
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 3:48pm |
Gets home washes his hands, has dinner with us. Plays with boys untill bathtime, baths boys & gets them ready for bed.
He doesnt do much housework or cooking(unless I ask)
Mornings he will get my early riser up, dressed & breakfast & will wake me when his is about to leave for work
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 3:55pm |
SimSam wrote:
DH gets home, gets changed and then plays with Oli pretty much until its time for his bath. I get him undressed and ready for his bath, whilst DH runs the bath. DH baths him and then I get him dressed, then DH does the bedtime bottle and puts him to bed. |
This is pretty much the same here except we bath the girls every second night.
In theory I get 1 sleep in at the weekend but in reality it's normally 1 every second weekend
Also on Monday mornings I go into work early and he looks after them until the Nanny arrives.
As the girls are getting older DH is getting a lot better with them.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 5:01pm |
Charly .. I actually prefer SD to do the bedtime routine too .. only because he has been doing since I went back to work, so its kind of "normal" for her to have Daddy do it ..
She likes to "push it" if Mummy puts her down .. as she figures Mummy will get her back up lol
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 5:21pm |
Hi, at the moment I'm home (for another week & a half) so I'm doing the cleaning. Dinner is a mixed bag - DH may cook once every couple of weeks, but otherwise I do it or we order in Wok (yummy, yummy). I look after bubs from when she gets up in the morning until when he gets home and then its daddy time - he does 2 feds (hoping to drop the last one soon) bubs is up for a bit so its a play time normally before the shower/bath, and sometimes the bath or shower (otherwise its me) and while he's doing the fed I'm putting on bubs washing and dinner - this is my downtime!!! He always manages to have a beer around too!!! Sure is going to be interesting when I go back to work - yesterday morning I had 50 minutes to get bubs fed, dressed, playtime, bottles washed/sterilised, me showered at out the door to a daycare settling in (before heading to Plunket), hubby gets up dressed, feds cats and walks out the door, last night I said thanks for helping this morning and he was like what?!?! I didn't realise the bottles needed doing - he stood right next to them soaking in the sink while I was doing a fed - god men!!!! hehe.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 5:30pm |
He gets up at 6.15 get's ready for work, gets Ryan up and changes his bum, at 6.45 kisses me goodbye that's my que to get up, then leaves at 7am.
He gets home at about 5.20pm says hello explains his whole boring day then gets in the shower. I plonk R in with him then I start dinner. He'll yell when he's done and I get R out and put him in the lounge to crawl around for a bit. Dh put's R's jama's and nappy on and feeds him a bottle, then one of us will put him in bed for the night at about 7pm.
During the day I do all the cleaning, washing, bake, weed the garden, do the shopping and look after R of course.
Dh mows the lawn every second weekend and he vacumns coz our hoover is SHYT! and he does the dishes at night.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 6:25pm |
Glow wrote:
Gets home washes his hands, has dinner with us. Plays with boys untill bathtime, baths boys & gets them ready for bed.
He doesnt do much housework or cooking(unless I ask)
Mornings he will get my early riser up, dressed & breakfast & will wake me when his is about to leave for work |
This is what my DH basically does too! But we have girls. DH starts work at 8.30am. Why is it soo hard for men to help put with the housework?!  I have never met anyone so good with the girls, he plays with them more than I do, then again I am always cooking tea etc.
From Shortland St onwards... normally is glued to the TV, kids are in bed by that stage anyway.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 7:05pm |
I guess I am one of the lucky ones. My DH is cooking tea as we speak, and we generally share the cooking pretty evenly. He makes heaps more mess than me, so whoever cooks cleans up too.
He is quite good at being oblivious to housework and washing, but will definitely do things if I ask him, and even though sometimes I have to ask a couple of times, he isn't that bad. Once a week or every ten days we do all the housework together.
He does most of the garden stuff, and I sort out all the bills.
He will def def def be a hands on dad, he is going to stay at home when i go back to work for about a month, so that will be cool (can't see multitasking being a strong point, but hey, I can't have it all!!)
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 7:10pm |
Its so funny how all the DHs are such creatures of habit. Mine is actually quite good when he is home, at the moment it feels like he is always away.
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DH supposed to get up at 5.45am and go for a run (supposed to being the operative words!). Gets back 6.15am, makes breakfast for Dom, has shower, gets ready for work and gone by 7.30am. Home from work sometime after 5-5.30pm, kisses and cuddles for Dom and Issy, if she is up. Cares for Issy while I give D his bottle. We bath D and Issy together and then get them dressed seperately. I get a cuddle with D then DH puts him to bed. I give Issy a bottle. We take turns doing dinner. He does the dishes (which means stacking dishwasher).
I do eveything else cleaning, shopping, banking etc.
Most of the time I feel like he could help a wee bit more in the weekends but this month I have mostly been by myself and I feel so happy and grateful that when he is home he is so involved. My heart really goes out to all those mums and dads who are doing it all by themselves, it must be so hard and lonely.
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Posted: 18 March 2009 at 7:24pm |
DH works nights and isn't home until 10:30pm so Michaela's long since been fed, bathed and put to bed and I've tidied up the house. I leave for work at 6:45am and he is sole charge from then until midday (when he leaves for work) during which time he gives her breakfast, morning tea and lunch, dresses her, keeps the house tidy and does the vacuuming and dishes and any washing, keeps her entertained (which always includes story time and he's also big on 'educational' time) and if she's going to kindy in the afternoon he gets her ready for kindy otherwise he gets an activity set up for her nana to do with her in the afternoon so she's not just plonked in front of the tv.
He does all this and then goes to work to manage a team of staff for several hours (and he's good looking too, man did I hit the jackpot or what!)
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