Close in age considerations

That the new one might be born with some health problems that will mean lots and lots of time away from your other child who is still a baby too and still needs lots of mummy time.

The isolation..... worse when you have a toddler that is used to going to lots of places and mummy just cant be naffed because she has been up all night or dealing with other things etc.

But its all good when the baby gets to be a few months old. seeing them play and share so much togeather because they are close in age.

Eeek.. you guys make me feel glad that there's no possibility of another one!!

Though I am sure they are delightful too

oh and having a hubby who only really wanted 1 kid, has had trouble bonding with the second one (possibly because she is soooo much like him!) and now that #2 has turned into a hair pulling biting hitting mischievious monster sometimes - who still wakes and screams the house down many times some night - cpoing with the remark "see, this is why i only wanted 1" (don't even ask what i say back.. It would have to be censored.. lol - j.k.. i usually say yes but we have two, we can't go back so just suck it up and deal with it!)

Grocery shopping. If you cant find the right trolley and have to put the capsule in the trolley there isnt much room for food. You cant take the pushchair because then you cant push the trolley and if you have the toddler running around its hard to keep up with them with the trolley. Sometimes Im so busy putting back whatever kobe has pulled off the shelf I forget Ive left Addison and my handbag sitting down the other end of the aisle!

if i sit the boys together in the trolley gabriel leans all over toby or bangs him onthe head with cans when putting them in the trolley for me.

Taine pulls hair. jake finally has some. Weirdly enough though, Jake seems to like it. He puts his head near taine's hands and waits. very very strange.

The guilt was my big thing. I feel like Jake is soo overwhelming, I forget about Taine sometimes. Jake was read to EVERYDAY since before he was born. Yet Taine would be lucky if he gets read a book once a week. And it's not just me I'm pleased to note. A lady at playcentr said she is exactly the same. the older one is so vocal and can do so much, you kinda forget about little quiet one in the corner!

Yep Liz - we realised the same - Paris was read a story every night before bed.. and h=now that has even stopped for her, Ayja doesn't get read to, i stop and MAKE myself sit down and work at things with her - cos i used to sit and play with Paris all the time cos i was a SAHM for the first year and only part time study after that.. which i believe is why Paris learnt to sit and figure stuff out and knew how to do stuff - cos she was taught and helped to do it. Poor 2nd child. no wonder they learnt to beat up their older sibling!

dont want to put you off - after xmas would be better tho cause then you can enjoy xmas booze and ham etc...

but even tho i wanted two kids i wasnt really prepared for it. a lot of supermarkets arent really geared up trolley wise for two small kids unless you use the capsule and toddler seat combo...and i know that gabriel is only just now at almost 3 able to walk in the shops with me, but only for short times.

theres things too like i used to keep gabriels bedroom door open all the time, but i cant with toby cause gabriel will go and play in his room and wake him up. then i worry that toby will wake gabriel up if he screams in the middle of the night... and somtimes he does if he wakes too early, so like on sat i had both kids up at 6.30 raring to go.   

and yeah being read to - gabriel gets stories every night with daddy, toby is lucky if he gets one once a week. men seem to be unable to share those sorts of things. it took ages for hubby to get used to bathing two at once and he doesnt know how to read to them both. its a shame too cause i discovered that toby loves being read it... he took to it much better than gabriel ever did.

oh and comparing them all the time. i am constantly saying "gabriel did this at..." and it drives me batty cause they are two very diff kids.

oh wow that was a novel... (and this from the lady who cant decide wether she wants another or not... )

I babysat for the neighbours kids the other night and was sooooo glad that the younger one (Hannah's age) is very placid and happy. I managed to get him in the highchair with some food, put the older one to bed, tried to get Hannah to bed (to no avail) then the older one had got out of bed to ask why Hannah was crying, then I tried to put him back to bed and left Hannah to play in the lounge... then I heard the quietest little noises coming from the highchair and realised the poor little one was still sitting there! He'd pushed his plate away from him and was just waiting for me to notice that he had finished!

The kids got to bed quite a bit later than their designated bedtime. Definitely couldn't do it full time unless the other one was like my neighbour's youngest!!!

he he I would never have coped with two littlies.......

I like my seven year age gap. Paige is great. She is independent which is helpful. And at school...so I get baby and Mum time...which I love. ...But down Side is the age gap means she has no siblings so we do have to spend a lot of time with her.....as she cant just go out in the garden and play with her siblings!!!