going too far......

How often do people on such forums as this go too far and say things that are really just plain nasty?

This is the only forum I have ever posted on so have no other experience and up until recently I have had no experience of things getting nasty. But as of today reading through another thread I have thought twice about ever asking for advice or support on here again.

Maybe I am just naive and too new to realise its common practice, and maybe I am taking things a little personal but in the same breath it feels that the particular comment was directed at me and I just would never do that, especially when someone had asked for advice or support.

Heidi's mum, I have just read through the other thread and I'm sure that comment wasn't specifically aimed at you. Its just a very heated debate, and I would try not to take it personally.

Unfortunetly online forums can get a little heated at times.

I tried out a couple of forums before finding this one and found the others to have way too much negative attitude for my liking.

Ohbaby is the most positive place I have found. I have to say in the past year I have only come across one negative person who came and went very quickly everyone else seems to be pretty understanding of where the line is and how to pick battles. Sometimes I have to bite my tounge when I see some comments lol but I think most of the people that have been long time users of this forum know when to say when. I'd say 99 percent of the people here are genuine and just out for advice or friendships but no matter how friendly and safe the site there will always be that 1 percent that are just out to stir the pot. If you spot them just avoid them.

Oh and thanks everyone else! From now on I will have my salt shaker handy LOL!

Things always tend to get a bit heated when controversial topics come up, even I jumped on the bandwagon with that topic because it's close to my own heart. I always try not to personally attack anybody though and I apologise if I offended anybody.

All in all I've found this place to be really supportive and helpful and I wouldn't have stayed around since 2006 if it wasn't!

Threads like that one only come up once in a while, most of the time we are a happy bunch!

Wow I just read the thread! Talk about drama lol well I've had my drama fix for the year. I think I might turn off the computer now and go to the beach with my kids and remember why somethings are better left the heck alone

That's the first time I've seen something so heated in here! Except for maybe the old vaccination debate which seems to come along once in a while and get everyone divided.

i read the post, I think the person was just heated about it I wouldn't take it personally hun.

You can still ask for advice on Ohbaby I have seen more positive than negative on the forums.

Jezsika wrote: Theres been MANY threads that turn nasty on here but that doesnt make ohbaby bad, its just a forum and coz things get taken different ways to how pple intend it comes across wrong. Ive had a full on barny at Bizzy once but like to think we get along well now lol Its just when people are strong minded they clash and things get taken the wrong way *hugs*

Yeah, I've seen some HUGE fights on here and they are soon forgotten about.

And this is meant to be a compliment to Bizzy - Bizzy is a strong minded woman I would probably back down immediately if I came to a head with her (And I'm pretty strong minded) but after meeting her and her two lovely boys a few years ago in Hamilton I have to say that she is a really really lovely person and I have come to really admire her over the years.

Often I tend to hear things in probably a different tone than the person has intended when they have written it down and then sometimes things get ugly, but I would like to think that I can always come back here and ask questions or ask for some support and feel like I am part of the community. I don't know where I would have been without Ohbaby when I was at my lowest point with my ex.

Oops, I just flooded my kitchen!!

I've not gone to any other MB as I have read some of them and they are REALLY heated. I think sometimes OB can seem heated, but as someone above said, some people are less cautious about their wording, and sometimes some things just come across wrong/harsh when they're written down.

Just like in 'real life' there will be people who have strong opinions, people who take things too personally, people who speak well, those who don't and people you just don't 'click' with for one reaosn or another. You don't have to love everyone on here (or their opinions) but as long as you conduct yourself well then that's all you have to worry about.

I have had a few comments that get my back up, but it's often not worth adding to the debate. I just try and keep it free of personal attacks and let it go. BUT in saying that I'd be happy to defend my POV if it came down to it. You have to remember anything you post here you should be prepared to shout from the roof tops - although it 'feels' private, it's not!

I have generally found OB friendly (although sometimes a little hard to 'break into' - IYKWIM), I hope that this experience won't put you off. I've made some good friends here.

dont forget too that there is no tone of voice to judge a comment on... its very hard to get a feel from just a typed word. i have heard of some very nasty boards out there and when you get a bunch of woman together there are bound to be differences of opinion.