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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 1:36pm |
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Well this has been a topic I have been thinking about alot lately. I am so sick to death of people having comment's about how many kid's I want hubby and I are planning for 6 and everytime someone asks and I tell them we get comment's like" you have no idea what you are in for" or "you can't afford that kids are too expencive"
So anyway I want to know how many other's out there are planning a big family and what do you say to nasty people that have an opinon.
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 1:44pm |
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How rude of some people. I said to the MIL yesterday that I am quite happy having 3 - and she said you don't want to risk having twins and end up with 4. She HAD 4 children. Good on you for wanting to have 6, hope you get your wish.
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 1:56pm |
If you guys want a big family and can provide them with everything they need (love, time and all the other basics), then what business is it of anyone else's?? Only you guys know what you can manage and what you can afford.
It's slighty different but the comment about kids being expensive reminds me of the number of times that I got similar comments from that difficult woman at work. She would often make comments questioning if we could really afford something I had bought. It bugged the hell out of me becuase what the heck does she know of our financial situation? But I digress.
We've talked about having 3 though according to some articles I've read recently even that is considered a big family by many! But hey if we can afford it, want it, and can provide then we'll go for it and people can mind thier own business! (and I'm sleep deprived enough to merrily tell someone that too!  )
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:00pm |
We planned two, but I always secretly wanted three - and I got my way in a round about kind of way
But my parents wanted 6, could only have 4 due to medical issues, and even then we were considered a 'big' family. But Mum was so keen on having more that they even fostered a little girl for a while when I was quite young.
Course when we got to teenagers I think she might have been glad for only having the four after all... 
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:04pm |
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paw's I know what you mean about people asking if you can really afford that we have been really having abit of money trouble lately and I have had well meaning friends aske me that question and it started to bug me I mean even if I can't that is my problem not their's.
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:24pm |
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Daniel and I plan to have either 2 or 4 - i want an even number. My dad and both Daniel's parents come from 6 child families and daniel comes from a 6 child family and Daniels brother and sister both have three child families and are only in their early 20's so will probably have more.
Anyway we both come from big families. But the funny thing is that any family over two or more kids these days is a big family.
As for the nasty people who have an opinion - You don't have to tell them anything or just tell them it is non of their business. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:38pm |
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Well, we're already getting similar comments about having ONE!! And we are very established with our own house etc, and in a lot better financial state than most of our friends.
So I think it's just nosey people with nothing better to do than butt into your life!! Try and ignore them (and maybe they'll go away??)
We'd like to have a few kids, but we will see...
Sure kids are expensive, but 6 would not cost 6 times as much as one!
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:50pm |
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When I was pregnant with Andrew I got a lot of the "can you afford it" comments. I was 22 in a relationship - yes we were renting our house (and still a lot of people are still renting with children), and both of us were working fulltime earning quite a bit for a couple in Palmerston North. I think a lot of mine was my age and I was the first of all of my friends my age to have a baby. This time around we have had no comments about the affording thing - even thou we are only on 1 income and we now own our home (more expensive). Why can't people just accept what people want to do. There are people out there that don't want to have children and I think quite often it is them saying "can you afford it". Grrrr don't ask. I am hoping I can get my way and have 3 - and if it's 3 boys so be it, I am so looking forward to the "oh your pregnant again you trying for a girl this time" to turn around and say no another boy.
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:54pm |
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lol beck's
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:57pm |
I dont see how its any ones business how many kids you want. Like Paws said...if you can provide them with all the basics then you should have how ever many children you want. You and only you would know if you can afford them....so next time tell them to grow wings and buzz off.
I always wanted 2 because I come from a family of two. Hubby want three because he comes from a family of 3. If my next is a girl....I might consider a 3rd but, if it is a boy....snip snip for hubby!!!
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:57pm |
i didnt want childern at one point in y life but i would of never throw my jugdement on to people who want 1 or 2 or even 10 kids i came from abig familiy of 4 kids and no my parents were,nt rich but they made do and for that they have 4 kids who love and respect them and maybe now if i get a nother chance i would have another baby
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 2:58pm |
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LOL Becks - I was 21 when I got preg with Maya and I didn't get the "can you afford it" (we couldn't) but I did get the "you're ruining your whole life"...
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:02pm |
As is fairly well known now, we want 5. Nat actually wants 6, and I've told him we can discuss it after #5
Most people say "So, I guess you are done after this one?" (meaning #3) and are surprised when we say "No, we want 5." The general response has been to check if we're kidding or not, and once they realise we're serious we usually get "Five! You're game!"
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:07pm |
Ah but Becca will it be one every year till you get to 5?
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:16pm |
Deb - just tell them you've inherited a whole pile of money. That'll shut them up. Or they'll get inquisitive and you can make up a whole pack of fun lies.
My Dad has a friend who has 8 kids. They are the most amazing family I have ever seen! They have never had a huge lot of money, but the kids are some of the most innovative hardworking people I have ever met. They know that they have to support the family and sacrifice for younger siblings etc. I can't say it would have been fun and games all the time but it definitely instills some great family values.
You go for it! 
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:18pm |
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Nikki do you remember that lady who used to post here sometimes that had 12 kids?
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:20pm |
My mum was the most supportive with having Andrew so young. She had me at 19 and now 3 kids later she was a nana at 43 and at 44 is a lady of luxury (of the no kids at home type) and can go out and enjoy her time and is still young enough to do so.
I would love to have a big family, but I know DH is not keen as he was the youngest of 4, but how knows time will tell.
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:28pm |
Oh yeah... Astrid. Just found her post in 'tummy pics' page 2 I think.
Her oldest was 17 and youngest 8 months!
Atleast at that point you've got a few extra helping hands
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:51pm |
Nikki....Nikki....Nikki.....
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Posted: 11 October 2006 at 3:54pm |
Whaaaaaaaaat?
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