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    Posted: 21 October 2006 at 10:18am
OK so after I had Bailey I got this really bad! I thought I was 'on top' of it untill I found out I was pregnant then everything seemed to go wrong (dont get me wrong Im glad Im pregnant now but its just taken me a while to get 'use' to the idea that Im having another one so soon!)
Anyway it seems the last week or too Ive been nothing but depressed and was wondering if it could be the pnd back?
I seem to be angry at everything and most of the time all I want is to get away from every thing and everyone, but the when Bailey goes to mums for the night or even to daycare for an afternoon Im really upset thats he not here and I start thinking something is going to happen to him! but then when he is he I sometimes wish he wasnt! ARGH HELP!
I so 'Dont know what to do'! Should I talk to my doctor and see if I need to go back on antidepressants? or something else? Im open to suggustions lol
(I have to take Bailey to the doctors today anyway cause he still not better from last weekend!)
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I would talk to your doctor becuase a lot of that does sound like how I've been feeling.

Better to get on top of things now rather than later.

Big hugs to you!!!

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Thanks for the quick reply paws
Ive been feeling like this since he was born, especially the Im no good feelings! Its just 'flared up' again in the the couple of weeks
Doent help I have no energy what so ever and Bailey being full on!

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Perhaps instead of sending Bailey away you could get your mum (or whoever else could help) to come and stay a couple of days to help out and give you a break... that way you know what Bailey is up to yet you don't have to do it all on your own!

Apart from that suggestion, I'm not much help. I hope your doc can figure something out. Don't turn down help from anyone else either!
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if it helps I'm terrified of having another one too. I'm so scared fo giving birth again and having a newborn and jack being neglected. I can't see myself ever sleeping again since Jack still isn't sleeping thru either. I think pregnancy must be so much harder second time round cos you know whats coming up and still having to look after a baby. I would talk to the dr tho cos this might not be what everyone feels
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Thanks for your suggustion Nikki, but as much as I love my mum and she helps me LOT! I really dont think I could handle her staying! Ive seen her everyday this week and Im exhusted! (bit of back ground info... My mum is partly deaf... getting worse by the day... 'mopes around the house' and everything is always about her and her health problems! If I have something wrong with me and I tell her, shes like ohh you get that too I have that all the time! ARGH it drives me insane! - Doesnt help that she seems to have everything wrong with her!) - butI love her truly... i can just only stand her for small amount of time LOL
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Thanks Rach, yeah I constantly think that when bubs get here Bailey will be neglected and it upsets me more, and I think what have I done to our family
Will talk to the doctor this afternoon when I take Bailey

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I felt major guilt when I was pregnant, how could i love this baby the way i loved kobe, felt like i would neglect new baby because i couldnt love it the same and felt like it would come between me and kobe. I wondered how you could actually love the next one as much and never believed anyone when they said you just do but they were right. You make it work and you love them both the same. Also in the long run it will be better for your first born to have someone to play with and share things with rather than being an only child.
HOpe the doctor went well and you are able to get some help/advice
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I can't really say anything useful I don't think because all the ladies have already said it. So if you can, I think talking to your Dr or a counsellor ASAP would be the best plan of action. And don't forget there's always us here if you need to vent !!
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I felt really guilty, Trish, at being pregnant so sson and therefor "neglecting" Jake. And being preggy doesn't help as toddlers can be a real pain the bum but when they aren't around, your preggy hormones make you remember all the kisses and the cuddles - and forget the "NONONONON" screaming down the road.

so I feel your pain!

ETA - commas - so it didn't read like I was guilty at Trish - BTW still have those coupons but have "tidied" them...so need to find them first!

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Thanks everyone, Well I went to the doctors, and I even rang and asked how long the wait was, she said 30mins so put our name in so when I got the we wouldnt have to wait, well got there, and still waited 35minutes! I was so angry that I forgot to ask him! GRRRRR he did however diganose me of slight gastro and a ear and throat infection
Ill see how Im feeling on tuesday and Ill go and see my usual Doctor
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Hugs Trish! I can relate - I have been the grumpiest mother in the universe these past few months and I have a huge guilt complex about it, I spent the entire 4 days at Birthcare after I had the twins crying for Maya. But things are working themselves out slowly, Maya and the babies have very different needs and it's a bit of a balancing act, and yes when Maya goes to preschool I breathe a sigh of relief (and then feel guilty for being glad she's gone) but then I miss her heaps and am glad to see her come home.

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Thanks Emma, yeah when Baileys at daycare Im so glad he is but then feel bad too for feeling it! its like when hes here I sometimes dont want him to be but when hes not I really want him to be!

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Trish if it makes you feel any better, I am going through the exact same thing. I went to my GP on wednesday, and have gone back on anti depressants. Big hugs to you, and I hope everything gets sorted for you soon.
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Trish you must be exhausted, and with the infection too... so hopefully when that clears up it will help the depression lift too.

I can relate to a lot of what you ladies are saying. I was really worried when #2 was due that I could never love her as much as #1 because I had bonded sooo much with her in just 1 1/2 years! It didn't take long though, even though they are so different in personality I love them heaps and heaps and couldn't ever have one or the other! I think your heart just grows each time....

And as for this pregnancy, I hate being exhausted and not able to keep up with Hannah most days. (I mostly sleep when Briona does, so I don't feel like that with her.) It forces me to teach Hannah how to play by herself with different things and I'm sure that we'll all benefit from that as she gets older.
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I have also just realised that I am suffering from PND big time - its taken my husband to pack a bag this morning and walk out for me to realise it! (He will be back, dont worry - its the wake up call I needed). Needless to say, I have a doctors appt this afternoon to get some anti depressants.

I suffered from PND at the beginning too, I thought it had gone, but now its back.

Everything seems like such a huge effort, I get angry really easily and am feeling like I am hopeless.

I have also realised that talking to people is helping - I hope you are feeling better soon too.
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