Hardest Transition

Great question! (obviously I can't answer...)

I've heard the same Emz hence the question

I can't speak from personal experience but my mum and I were talking about this awhile ago and she said 2 is harder than 1, 3 is harder than 2, 4 is harder than 3 but by the time 5 & 6 come along it's no harder because you can only be busy for 24 hours per day.

I guess it's different for each family and each baby but it doesn't get easier when you add a newborn (jmo)

0 to 2 I had no idea what to do with one baby, let alone two at the same time!! I imagine one baby will seem easy next time, even if it does take us to 3 kids....well, I hope that's the case anyway!!

0-1 felt hard. 1-2 was hard at the start but now just feels normal. When you have 2 you do think 1 is easy though. And I do admit to looking at my friends who only have one and think "wow, imagine the time you could spend, and the tantrums and behaviour you could avoid"

0-1 was a big transition for me because she was 1yr old when she came into my full time family. 1-2 wasn't that difficult, but possibly because Ivy was a little bit older. 2-3 I worry about, and have heard that it's the hardest transition. Have also been told that 4 is way easier to handle (no-one is ever left out, where as with 3, that is often the case), and not a huge shift at all from 3.

jaycee wrote: I love that none of the Mums with 3+ kids have answered this question yet - they must be too busy Great question though. I imagine that it is the logistics that change with 3+ (that whole 'more kids than hands' thing!) eta - typo

i have 3 but not +

someone else was right tho about the newborn with other kids, that is hard. you dont have the time to devote to just sit there cuddling and fussing over your baby cause there are others needs to be met as well. The biggest adjustment is from 0 to 1 (or in some cases 2 or more)... but you dont realise how cruisy one is until you have 2! (well some people cause i always thought 1 was easy and wonder why i thought 2 would be just as easy!)

Edited by Bizzy

I've heard that 1-2 is the most tricky transition....bugger lol  I can't comment cos we only have one at the mo but am TTC number two.

However, from a Step-Mama point of view, 2 is MUCH easier than 3, 4 is easier than 3 and 5 is pretty full on but yeah after 4 you stop counting and just leave them to it lol

It seems to be that odd number of 3 that is hard as potential always for someone to be left out...I'm one of 3 and it was definately that way growing up (for my brother lol).

I find going from 0-1 the hardest, 1-2 was easy. LOL

We are debating a 3rd, I am keen, DP isn't.

Now maybe I found it easier because in many ways I only have 1 the majority of the time during the week because of the age gap. DS1 was really great and very understanding of the fact that the baby took priority and has always been keen to help. Because of how we choose to parent I think that has helped ease the transition from 1-2 as well because I can still spend time dealing with DS1's needs while still being able to tend to DS2's needs as well. Now they are both older they have to take turns about who has to wait when they both want something at the same time; but I am great at juggling anyway.   

0-1 here, so far 1-2 has been so much easier than I was anticipating. When you have your second baby the sleep deprivation isn't as much a shock to the system as you've already gone through it with your first so know what you're in for!