GRRR social workers!

since Ive been out of nicu we hve had this social worker, usually she is ok and help ful, but the last few months shes been really rude and pushy.
this past week she has rung me daily trying to get me to go to this flippen preschool around the corner (5 minute walk max) every flippen day I tell her I have monitoring at the hospital and I don't know how long its going to be (its varied from 30minutes to 5 hours)
I said to her I have have an induction date of next wednesday so what did she say, ohh ok Ill book you in for a vist at 9am. Im like ILL BE IN HOSPITAL she said ohh ok Ill ring you about 9 then. I said umm they are breaking my waters about 8am so the last thing I want to be doing is chatting on the phone! GRRR she rang the next day and said ohh Ive booked you in for a visit at home on wedesday at 1pm ARGH honestly this flippen woman! I just said ok but I won't be there. she was like why? I said BECAUSE ILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL HAVING THIS BABY
fast forward to yesterday after he ringing me every flippen day. she rings my cell phone 4 times one after another (I couldnt reach my phone being at the hospital on the monitors and all) I then get told off as I hadnt turned it down and I keep letting it ring. (then the midwife realised I couldnt actually reach it!)
the social worker then text me 3 times and rang my home phone another 4 times - last time jamie answered it and he said he told her to leave me alone
now she's rung me 3 times already this morning
and whats it for
to take me to the flippen preschool over the way - like I said 5 minute walk
I said to her I will go myself and check it out, I dont need to be taken, but nope she doesn't get it, she keeps ringing me trying to take me to this flippen preschool - because she wants to check its ok for the boys - umm hello Im there bloody mother thats my job
ARGH why won't she just get the hint!

so question, am I in the wrong for wanting to complain about her? hubby's told me too
she is also very rude to him and calls him some nasty names. she even told me Im a bad mum who lets my walks walk all over me (because I couldn't pick up aidan to put him in timeout)

Seems a little OTT to me.

Complain!!

I don't know how you could have put up with it for so long and not told her to piss off! lol I wouldn't be that paitent

Thanks everyone. I thought she was being a bit over the top. and the last few days has really proved it.
forgot to say she said yesterday afternoon when I was home but I told hubby I didn't want to talk to her. he told her and I quote 'you know she had hospital today and that she didnt know how long she would be, (she said something at this point to which hubby said) yes I have spoken to her and she is still there as she was having contractions which were showing on the monitor' and then he hung up

now you would think she would take that as a sign or something that IM HAVING A BABY SOON!

yep i would speak to her supervisor and it might be a good idea to keep the texts and the record of the calls she made to you as well.    she sounds like one of those women who dont have kids but works in a child related industry!

Doesn't sound like she is the right social worker for you guys! Maybe sometimes when they deal with really difficult families that are non-responsive they need to be rather pushy, and maybe she just hasn't worked when she needs to be and when to back off. How long do social workers stay involved with families after having a child in NICU? If it's awhile I would request a change in social worker as you aren't feeling supported.

Yeah I'd complain!!! Name calling is no good in any way shape or form!

Why have you had a social worker because you had a baby in NICU? Is that standard?

Sounds like she is really blurring the lines between professionalism and "friendship " .
She is creating extra stress you don't need,definetly complain to someone !!!!

I would write a letter but be aware that if they believe that you still require there services you can't always get out of it but can request another social worker.

Its not my business and don't want to cause offence but you seem to have issues with alot of the people around you i.e MW, Social Worker, WINZ staff etc so maybe the expectations vs reality of what is happening is out of kilter at the mo as it always can be when you are pregnant.

Peanut wrote: I would write a letter but be aware that if they believe that you still require there services you can't always get out of it but can request another social worker. Its not my business and don't want to cause offence but you seem to have issues with alot of the people around you i.e MW, Social Worker, WINZ staff etc so maybe the expectations vs reality of what is happening is out of kilter at the mo as it always can be when you are pregnant.

I may be thinking this is out of line since my hormones are so out of wack lately. but since its not just me feeling this about the social worker at the moment I know it isnt 'all in my head' kwim?

I certainly have few contacts I can get ahold of and now I know its ok to ask for help from someone like a social worker etc I will do so after this pregnancy
I personally think at this time Im at a point I don't need/want her around. she just makes me feel bad and I always dread her coming over. I think for my mental state Im better off without her or all this