New vicarious living

Mmmm yes... another man... geez I'm terrible.

I gave up on the other one... and had given up on men altogether actually - until last weekend

I went out for a friend's birthday and had one glass of wine too many... which led to me flirting furiously with her partner's friend Andy.

I later found out that her partner had set the whole thing up. Truly embarrassed! Except that he sent me a text message today and asked me out for a drink! How cute! A date!

So yeah, he's a bit older... QUITE a bit older... which I am struggling to come to terms with. But then I think that was one of the problems I had with my last boyfriend, he was forever competing with Hannah for attention and was never going to win. We'll see how it goes with Andy, but he has a niece a couple of months older than Hannah who he ADORES and babysits all the time... so hopefully he'll understand that he's second best

Not sure what to do about the Hannah thing. Taking baby steps. I think I'm going to hold off on him meeting her and see if things go ok with just us first.

Will provide an update after this weekend

Ooohhh yay for you Nikki. Looking forward to hearing how it all works out.

I think when you are a young single mum, you kind of have to date older guys cos the ones that are your own age are waaaaaayyyyyyy to "young" to be in a relationship with someone who is always going to have a higher priority. Hope you manage to get your head around it though and good luck

Have fun!!

I wouldnt worry about the age thing. Once you get to a certain age 11 years isnt so important. Now if you were 16 and he was 27, thats a different story!

when I met my hubby my kids were my world, as in previous relationship alot of the time I put ex needs before them - i feel guilty about this everyday but it was an abusive relationship which I tried to make work but thats a whole new story - anyway they were just turned 3 and almost 8, I decided I play it by ear when to introduce to new BF, it as 8 weeks after I met him that I told kids and introduced not long after wards although still careful not to show too much effection and acted like he was a friend rather than Bf, nicki you seem like you know what you doing and so i am sure ypu will know when the time is right for both of you.
and normally when you not looking for a relationship thats when you find .... right enough of my advise/insight

*scratches head and tries to remember how old nikki is in the first place*

There is a gap of about seven and a bit years between Rollie and me, and I have gone out with guys older still - I think at one stage in my "dating days" I even made it a rule that I wouldn't go out with anyone under 25

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YAY!! How exciting Nikki!! Sounds promising We will, like always, be waiting here for EVERY DETAIL, LOL, good on you!! And I agree 11 years isn't too bad.

22 Liz Well... 22 on Sunday anyway!!! I can't believe I am getting excited about my birthday... feel like a little kid

woooohoooo, go girl! Remember to keep us updated!

Ohhhhhh :-) how exciting!

Right now I'm wishing Adam was a bit older and more mature, he's 24 and has the mind of a 14 year old at times, so another 11 years would do that mind of his some good!

You go girlfriend!! Now, I am a long time lover of the "silver fox" variety of men. I don't think I have EVER "dated" anyone close to my own age. There is 12 years between Rod and I (sometimes feels like he is 17 sometimes he is 70, like Atish!)
what Rocks about men over 30 is that they are usually secure in themselves, have some sort of "plan" about liffe, and are actually DOING it (that dosen't include drinking 2 24 packs of beer and scoring a 16 year old)and the world *usually* dosen't revolve around them. Oh, yeah, like I even need to point this out *ahem* experience counts!
Keep us updated!!