First-timer baby fears!

I think the fact that you wrote that post worrying tells me that you will be a good mum. I'm the same. This is my firat baby too and though we tried for 23 months for my little treasure I have the same fears. I did fertility treatment and when I finally got my BFP confirmed by a DR I had a minor panic attack thinking oh crap what do I do now? What do I do if I cant get the baby to stop crying? Will I cope with the lack of sleep? Will DH be as scared as me?

I think its normal anxieties you're having, and though you may not be into little babies, it will most likely be quite different with your own!

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Gosh I was worse than Stacey...I handled babies & they screamed!

Maternal instinct is a funny thing. When you don't think you have it, it just kicks in & takes over.

i agree with everyone...totally normal to feel that way !!!:) I was the same..

Aw me too and I'm due next week, but keep telling myself - could still be 10 days over due!!

I've only ever held a baby twice, 2nd time was a couple of weeks ago!

DP and I's baby wasn't planned, but we're totally in love with her now!

I'm feeling exactly the same way as you, nervous and having self doubts! A little freaked about having to look after someone so delicate and that's completely dependent on me all by myself!!

But I'm also really excited about it too...!!

wow, glad i'm not the only one!
i'm freaking out too, wondering how i'll cope.
i know it will be fine, but still freaking out!

I like what Mindy said... if you're worried, it means you care, which is what really matters. I worry too... and we were planning this for ages. I think it's pretty normal to be a bit nervous.

Was so there 18 months ago..!!

My DP and I were all thumbs when it came to changing nappies, clothes even picking DD up was a mammoth task but like everyone else has said, it will come naturally and you just muddle through and do it your way...

You'll be a terrific mum because you're already worrying and it's our job to worry..
You're in the right place too - Oh Baby has been nothing but solid support for me and you'll find a great deal of love and support coming your way.

Congrats and enjoy your pregnancy..

Oh, and also, I remember one day I was dressing her after the MW had weighed her, and I was apologising to DD for being so slow at it, and the MW said something like "she doesn't know you are slow... what you do, thats normal for her. She doesn't know or care that there are experienced mums out there who'd do it in half the time"

I found that quite reassuring

Wow so good to hear every mum feels the same. I too am a first time mum to be and in the past i've had plenty of experience with toddlers but very little with newborns.
When your looking after someone else's baby it's not as scary because you only have them for an hr or two then you give them back, but this time i can't.

I just keep hoping that my natural instincts will kick in and the bond i have with the baby is so strong that it will be easier than i think. T_Rex i love what the MW told you, it makes sense and makes me feel better.

The part that scares me the most is all the unanswered questions i currently have. I'm feeling very overwhelmed with the list of baby things we need to buy and things we need to know. Guess it will be a huge learning curve.

MinaNZ wrote: The part that scares me the most is all the unanswered questions i currently have. I'm feeling very overwhelmed with the list of baby things we need to buy and things we need to know. Guess it will be a huge learning curve.

Thats why pregnancy takes 9 months
It gives you plenty of time to figure stuff out. We are nearly all clueless at the start. I sure was!